Life has been defined by various personalities in numerous ways. Life to each is different because everybody is unique in this world. Therefore, don’t just get carried away by the definitions posted by many on life. Define your life in your way, depending on the direction it takes you. Erase the clutter of feeling not good enough, and now with a clear mindset, check what is stopping you in progressing in life. By listing down the reasons for not feeling good, you can work out how to overcome them.
Here are a couple of ways in which you can uplift your mood. By following them, you will certainly overcome the mentally ill state of affairs and travel towards a better mindset.
1. Comparing to others.
When you are not feeling good, you generally compare it with others. Ask yourself, ‘Am I good enough?’, but don’t begin to compare your bad with the good in others. Because, when you compare with others and identify with being a low performer, you begin to feel not good. If you observe with keen, both the above statements are the exact opposite, yet result in the same.
The bottom line is that you shouldn’t compare under any circumstance. But it is a human tendency. So, you cannot abstain from that act. Therefore, when you sit to compare the good in you with that of others, also, sit and compare the bad in you with the bad in others.
Because all human beings are unique, and each one has an edge in some or the other form over others. At the same time, all these unique pieces of human power are also imperfect in more than one form. Understand this law of life, apart from the answer to the question, ‘Am I good enough?’ and move on in life.
2. Negativity misguides you.
When you are occupied with too many unnecessary thoughts, they turn into anxieties and worries. With such negative thoughts, you begin to question, ‘Am I enough?’ and during the process, you drag down from within you, the hope of getting better. With discouraging thoughts that wander around in your mind, you misguide your goal.
Understand that thoughts are just thoughts, and they don’t essentially construct a framework that regulates and defines your life. Feeling not good enough at heart, followed by the thoughts of fears and apprehensions, exhausts the positive mindset in you, which forces you to act ruthlessly and unkindly.
Therefore, you have to completely stay alert in terms of the way you think and react. Replace the negative thoughts in you with positive thoughts or push yourself away from those bothering thoughts. Don’t let your mind lie to you and present a wrong opinion, the basis which you act.
3. Trust yourself with integrity at heart.
Spend time alone and talk to your feelings. Do check with them as to, ‘Why am I not good enough?’ Know your strengths and weaknesses in life and explore the opportunities and threats too.
Be honest and candid during this conversation. When you know that you are not feeling good, just trust your inner peace and move on.
You feel great when you begin to deliver acts of honesty from the heart. Thank the not so good feelings in you. Convince them that you will fix a meeting with them, for sure, later, but let them vacate the space in your mind now. Agree upon for a mutual discussion timeframe.
With integrity driving to uplift your mood, you easily tend to overcome the negative vibrations in and around you. You sense the feeling of being right with you. You now self-realize the answers for, ‘Am I enough?’ All these surface up a path with new thoughts that result in constructive ideas and productive actions.
4. Love and let love.
When your mind is in a state of anger and fear, it will automatically route you towards being inferior, sub-standard, and corners you towards a depressive state of thoughts, assuming that you will never be good enough. Therefore, you need to be in the company of loved ones all along.
Live and let others live. Try to sphere your thoughts towards positivity and help yourself live in the moment. With acts of mindfulness, also let people around you live life to the fullest, by assisting with all the necessary skills and resources, to the maximum possible extent.
Be specific in choosing the company of people. External sources certainly cast their share of negative influence over you, cornering you to think that you will never be good enough. Therefore, you have to syndicate up with like-minded people. Encourage the companionship of people who are filled with positive energies.
Having said all this, one theory on life has to be taken for granted. Life is a replica of a mere mathematics textbook. In the sense that, as you keep turning pages in this textbook, you come across more and more bunch of problems.
Similarly, as you keep witnessing day after day in life, you keep encountering more problems. Each day is a new day in the life, just as each page in the textbook has unique content or different questions. But, understand that, towards the end of this big book, you plot answers to all the questions that you went by in the previous pages.
Therefore, have patience in life and act mindfully by reasoning with your inner voice as to, ‘Why am I not good enough?’ Probe to understand the underlying reasons. Be practical in life. Think and analyze from the ground-level realities.
Make yourself feel good. Because for sure, every problem has a solution. Just that few are under your control, and few aren’t. For all those over which you cannot gain control, time will answer them. Just keep enough patience to turn till the last folio where all your questions are answered and all the problems in your life couple up with their solutions.
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20 ways to overcome the feeling of ‘I am not good enough.’
We all hit a point in life or even in a day where we feel ‘am I really good enough’.
So, how to move on from this feeling?
How to deal with ‘I don’t feel good enough’?
We will help you with that.
Here are 20 ways to overcome ‘I am not good enough’ feeling that comes to us.
Go through them one by one. You can see what you can do and what you can avoid to cross over the ‘I am not good enough’ feeling.
1. When you lack self-confidence
It becomes hard to overcome ‘I am not good enough’ feeling when there is no self-confidence.
This is the first mental block we have to remove.
Build your self-confidence. Don’t allow it to break at any cost for anything.
2. You are more than your mistakes:
Earning a low salary compared to your friends? That’s fine. It doesn’t mean you are not good enough.
Made a mistake? It doesn’t define who you are.
Remember this always.
3. You cannot be ‘everything.’
It is impossible to be perfect at everything.
If you try to be, you will find something missing always. We feel we are not good enough.
Make progress. Develop into a better self. Be better than who you were yesterday. This is what matters.
4. The inside reflects on the Outside
You won’t feel good enough if you don’t feel good from within.
Build your self-respect and self-confidence.
Embrace self-compassion and self-acceptance in life.
5. Set the right tone for ‘perfection.’
Perfection means different for different people.
Don’t be intimidated by the perfection tone set by other people.
6. What is making you insecure?
Your Insecurities are the dominant culprits.
Self-doubt, past failures, uncomfortable in socializing, lack of self-confidence are few common insecurities, everyone faces in life.
Identify what is making you insecure. You can easily change it.
7. Accept your Downside
Accepting that you are not perfect, and you have things to figure out is good.
8. Set Digital Boundaries:
Not all the time. But, often, social media is making people feel they are not good enough with what they do and what they have. Somehow, the picture-perfect feeds bring insecurity to people.
Avoid negative experiences that social media has.
9. The path for ‘You’ is different.
We all have a different life. The way we think, act, speak, and perceive life can be different. Then why do we have to look into each other’s path or try to travel in it? We can end feeling ‘my life is not good enough.’
10. You are not alone
Are you thinking ‘Am I really good enough’? You are not alone in this.
And, they look at the next thing they need to do.
11. Get Back
If your inner critic keeps saying, ‘I am not good enough,’ let it say.
Put your attention to the work you have in hand and not to the inner-critic.
Get back stronger.
12. Acknowledge your little success too.
Don’t say, “This is nothing” when you did something good.
Even if it is little, give credits to the efforts, energy, and work you put into it.
13. ‘When you feel down, go be a blessing to somebody else.” – Joyce Meyer
This is by far the best among the 20 ways to overcome the feeling that I am not good enough.
When you feel like you are not good enough, do whatever you can to be a blessing in somebody’s life.
A smile, a hand of help, appreciative words, an extra box of food for the homeless on your way to work, etc. are little things that can be a blessing to those who receive it.
14. Is someone or something making you feel you are not good enough?
The flipside to ‘I am not enough’ feeling is, it is not always internal.
The next time you feel ‘I am not good enough,’ remember to see if something or someone is making you feel so. Don’t jump right into the feeling of ‘I don’t do anything well.’
15. You need Failures in Life
Accept failures. They are like a reality check for you to see where you lag and where you need to improve.
16. Is there a ‘Demand’ before you?
If your family, friends, relationships, and jobs demanding too much from you?
Don’t be held back by these situations. The mistake here is not yours. It is theirs. The ‘Demanding’ people don’t respect and value the efforts we make.
17. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Don’t let other people decide or judge or tell your worth.
Don’t let such people get to you.
18. Take Self-Care
Always make eye contact.
Use appreciative words to yourself like ‘I can do this,’ ‘I did a good job,’ ‘well done’, ‘that was good.’
Be kind, firm, confident, and compassionate.
Take care of your body language.
Stay fit. Eat healthily.
Pursue a hobby. Do things you like.
These are positive practices you can bring in your life.
19. Stop Over-Thinking:
Every time we overthink, you know where we end up?
We end up having feelings like disappointment, not good enough, not better enough, what if it happens, what if it goes bad, it is not sufficient; it is worrying, etc.
20. You made it to date, do you agree?
Ups and downs would have bumped into your life.
Guess what! You made it this far despite your ‘am I enough’ feeling. Cheers to you to made this far.
Take care of a few things we mentioned above to overcome the inadequate feeling.
You are good to go for the coming miles in life!
The 20 ways to overcome the feeling of ‘I am not good enough’ is more of a kick-starter for you. Contemplate over the thoughts we shared here.
Louis L. Hay says,
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”