karishma Archana
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Life is the journey between the two letters, B and D; where B refers the Birth and D stands for Death. And, in the duration between these two letters is called life which is incomplete without the people around you.
So, if someone in your life betrayed you badly, you start looking at other people with the same frame and being socially inactive. Just because you had one wrong person in your life, who broke your trust and hurt you badly, your mind doesn't allow you to trust another person, even if they are real.
Well, this happens, especially in the case of spouses or your partner. But, it is not limited to it. It can be anyone, your friend, or even a stranger. If you want to help someone, and if you learn that they were trying to pull your attention for their benefit, you might never think of helping others again. And, this we call as, 'The right person at the wrong time.'
Anyway, this happens with everyone in their life. Some can deal with it and move on. But, such an experience breaks a few people's trust badly, and they can't handle such a situation.
Here, you can understand, the complete game is all about the experience that changes a person. So, here, we will discuss one of such experiences in this opinion.
Right Person Wrong Time Meaning
Let me start with my experience.
Once, I was waiting for the bus to go home. After some time, a man came there, and some to help them with some money, as he had lost his wallet and they don't even have the money to buy a ticket. He seemed to be crying literally.
I think if you would have been in place, you also had helped them. So, I did. And, they left. When he collected the money from people at the bus stop, I saw them going to a wine shop and buying the drink.
I mean, I was shocked. How can anyone take advantage of the people with the false stories, and anyone could believe them. After this incident, I decided not to help others with such conditions again.
Such incidents make people not trusting others who need help in real. After that day, I might have met several people, who were in trouble, but that horrible incident made me not helping them.
Though, this incident didn't hamper my personal life harshly. But, what about people who had an experience of betrayal by their loved ones.
Suppose someone approached you and expressed their feeling that they want to spend their life with you. You felt their emotions genuine, and you also started feeling the same for that person. Later on, you learn that the person was faking, just with you for fun only.
Such incidents are widespread nowadays. People don't think about others. But, what if someone trusted someone who broke their trust. The broken person will not be able to trust others ever. And, we can see many such examples.
When, for the next time, another person approaches you, with the true feeling and emotions, you can't trust them, as you have had a bad experience in this regard. And, this I can call, "Right Person at the Wrong Time."
When someone experiences something like this, they can forget it soon as the cheater was unfamiliar with them. Indeed they take the lesson. But it doesn't bother anyone for a longer time. But, the same thing hurts till death, if any of the loved ones do it.
15 signs that you have met the right person at the wrong time
Many people believe it or not, but you get the signs for everything that happens to you. Let me say, if you meet your soul mate, you get the hints for it. Even if you encounter any wrong person, who seems to be your soulmate, for instance, you will contact the signs. But, you need to identify them correctly.
Likewise, if you are broken or surrounded by issues, and you meet the right person for you, you will get the signs. But, of course, as you are surrounded by negativity and your time is wrong, you won't find the hints. Well, here are some easy ways to guess it.
1. Long-term goals don't align
It's obvious to think that you and your partner should have the same goals for the betterment of your future. If you want a kid, and your partner doesn't, it is the obvious situation where you or they may think that you are not with the right person.
Another example would be, you want to travel throughout the world, and your partner is just happy with their hometown and doesn't want to roam. And so on. You both will find many occasions where you will think you are not with the right person. But, it is possible truly that you are the right person for each other. It's just the time being fair with you guys.
2. Recent Breakup
Patch-ups and breakups are not a big deal nowadays. But, some people are actually in a serious relationship. And their relationship is as essential for them as any other relationship.
For some people, it may feel not very good to know someone who might be their right person. But, they can't understand and realize that they are the ones for them due to their recent long relationship. Either, I would say it is not the mature decision to move on just after your breakup.
When you have a breakup, you need little time to express your grief. Let go of old memories. When such a broken person is with someone, their relationship can't work for long. This condition can be applied to either side. Whereas, if you were single and your partner just came out of a severe relationship, allow them some time to let go of the burden of their previous relationship.
This is the most common time when you can meet your right partner. But, you can not find them the right, as you are not prepared to accept them.
3. Someone is about to leave the town.
Here, something like a prevailing situation, many of you might have experienced, or the case has just arrived in your life. It may be possible that you just met your ideal person, but now, one of you needs to leave the town soon.
This can happen from both sides. Maybe you have signed up to go and work in Canada a month before, and you met someone who feels like your ideal one. The same may happen to their case too. Maybe they began feeling for you, and you both are the right couple, and you need to move somewhere, let me say, for study, the job, or whatever the reason is.
Such situations are not in control of anyone. And they are pretty tricky to handle for everyone.
4. You are not ready for a relationship.
This can be a weird situation. I'm saying strange situation because everyone had an image of their ideal person in their life. But, the circumstances around you make you being away from this thing.
Sometimes it happens that you met your ideal person, who is the right person for you. And this is the one you were waiting for. But, as you are not ready for the relationship, you may lose them.
I have seen many people coming to me and discussing this topic. Even they also have feelings for them. And they also want to be with them. But they don't accept them and let them come to their life, because of whatever reason they have.
It is heartbreaking that you find the right person for you, but you can't allow them to come into your life. Relationships need a lot of effort to be made by the person in the bond. Thus, some people keep relationships their last priority. Therefore, they may lose their ideal partner.
5. They have someone special.
You can't know when someone is feeling for someone. Who knows, the one you are fishing for may already is committed or have someone special in their life.
It is evident that anyone can have a crush on anyone. Everyone has an idea for their ideal one. And when they find the exact personality matching to their imagination, we call it a dream person. But, just think, you lined someone, who is the ideal person for your life, and then you realize that they have someone special in their life, and they are not you. This feeling would be more painful for you.
We can't change someone's feelings for anyone. If you think you have found your soulmate, and you come to know that they already have their ideal person in their life, it is just the right person at the wrong time for you.
6. Big age gap
Well, when someone is in life, age really doesn't matter for them. Being younger, you can feel for someone a lot older than you or vice versa. Many people find a link in-between age and maturity. At the same time, a young person can be more than an older one. So, the generation doesn't know the factor to consider maturity. It all depends on the conditions.
So, if you met someone who is older than you or younger than you, you can feel for them. It is not an issue. But the problem comes when it comes to the expectations you both have from each other. As here is the age difference, the expectations would vary from each other that can lead to issues.
You may think that, why don't you met the person before, whereas your partner may feel something else. You both may have different points of view about socializing your relationship status, the jobs, the lifestyle, the weekends, and so on. Though the person is an ideal match for you, you may face many conflicts due to this age factor.
7. Career is important than the relationship.
No matter what kind of work you or your partner does, if you are more committed to the job than the relationship, your relationship won't flourish. If for them, their career is always on the top, they don't want to lose any of the opportunity and focus on their work always, they are always ready to work, and for to this, they are not able to give time to you often, your relationship is in danger.
They have just established a startup and want to focus on the work right now; it will be tough for them to balance their love life and their professional life. At the same time, no matter what inputs you are making, they will not get the desired output. A relationship requires efforts from both sides. And, if one is constantly giving their time, and others are just ignoring it or unable to put these efforts, it's hard to be on the route.
8. You live apart
One of the most challenging phases of a relationship is the long-distance relationship. When, in a relationship, you both want to live together, and you have to live apart, you can't control your emotions, which can hamper your relationship majorly.
When being in a relationship, no one thinks to live apart. Maybe you both live at the two corners of the city or, in the worst case, in two different countries, these boundaries created a big void between the two of you.
It is more difficult when your relationship is new. Of course, you both want to spend time together, know each other, and flourish your relationship. But, the distance between your residents makes you feel like missing out on something.
9. You are not yourself.
Whenever it is about the relationship, it should give both of you being yourself. An ideal relationship never holds anyone's back. A perfect relationship always motivates the persons to move on and do what they want. It gives you space to be free and be yourself.
If in your relationship you are missing out on yourself somewhere in the old days, it's time to look into your relationship. Well, it doesn't always vital that you are in a bad relationship. You might be with the right person, but other factors make someone in the connection losing their true self. And it is essential to find out what is actually hampering the relationship before it's too late.
10. They are not Emotionally Unavailable.
Emotion is the foundation of any relationship. If the emotional connection in a relationship is mission out, the relationship can not survive long.
If at any point in time, you feel in your relationship that your partner is not supporting you emotionally, they are always unavailable whenever you want their emotional support; you need to look into your relationship. Maybe they are going through some professional issues; you need to find the cause.
It may also have other factors behind emotional unavailability, but if you could find the reason, it would be best. Otherwise, your relation can go up to the end.
11. They are not ready for a committed relationship.
Even though you both are the perfect match for each other, you don't need to be ready for a committed relationship.
Maybe they are with you because they like you. But, they are not ready for a committed relationship with you or anyone else. Yes! This may be possible. Many times, it is seen in the couples that they are with the right person, they like them, love spending time with them, yet, they are not ready for the committed relationship.
If such a case happens to you, it would be great if you can give them some space to either realize, what they are losing, or they may also leave the relationship.
12. You struggle with co-dependency
Whenever you feel like you both are holding back each other for any reason, you are struggling with co-dependency.
Whatever the reason is, let me say, if your partner is addicted to something, and they need someone to be with them; you see yourself sticking to them; it could be a co- dependency. I'm not saying you shouldn't be with them. If they need you, you should be the first to being there. But, you also should know, is this the right time, or are you just holding yourself and them back at the time.
13. Not happy with your lifestyle
As I said earlier, a relationship doesn't hold you back. Either, it gives you freedom. It makes you live your life on your principles. It doesn't change your lifestyle. But, if you are feeling stuck with your life in your relationship, the relationship might be suffocating for you.
It might be possible, though you are with the right person, the time of being together is not suitable for you. You should either discuss the problems you have, or you should give some time to your relationship now.
14. Your partner is not giving you time.
Well, this again comes from the work pressure. Although, this can have other reasons too. But, on priority, the top reason would be the work.
If you both are in a serious relationship, you should also give some time to each other. If you feel that your partner is not giving them the time, it would have been dangerous for your love life.
Until you spend time together, you won't know each other and about your life. This also doesn't decrease the fact that they are the right person for you. But, it's just that the time of not suitable for both of you.
15. More work commitment than the relationship
It is seen in many cases, one person or both of the people in a relationship are more committed to their work than their relationship.
At such a time, the people in a relationship should recognize their older days, when they started knowing each other. Maybe this thing can help them to refocus on their relationship.
Work is essential in life. But, it doesn't reduce the importance of relationships in any way. Both of you should understand and realize that if the association had the cracks, they would have to work so hard to regain their connection. So, they should always give equal importance to the work and relationship.
When You Meet The Right Person, You Know It
Just like, when you meet the wrong person, you get the signs. The same thing goes with the right person; the universe gives you the signal that you are with the right person. If you can identify them correctly in time, it can become a heavenly relationship.
Well, ideal couples are ready to do anything for each other. They don't showcase their life directly; their indirect actions can make you feel that you are with the right person. Here are some of the most common traits an actual person can not hide.
1. Both are ready to compromise.
A successful relationship involves a lot of compromise and not sacrifices. Both of you need to make a compromise with any of your desires.
If in a relationship, one of the partners is giving up on their dreams, canceling plans, paying bills, it would be a one-sided relationship. And another partner is only looking at their partner for the sake of compromise. They are not willing to compromise on any of their lives.
Such a relationship can't work for long. If you see, both of you are ready to compromise with something to make your lives better; you are in the right relationship.
2. You revealed your relationship.
It is often seen that people don't actually want to reveal their relationship with their friends and family. This can be due to the fear that your loved ones won't take it seriously. But it is due to you are not taking it seriously. If you are in true love, you would wish to from the tallest building to reveal about your partner and tell the entire world.
Also, telling your family about your relationship is safe for you. I mean, you are not in danger physically, but, as in a new relationship, you are with a stranger, so you need to take care of yourself emotionally.
Your best friend or the family can feel the bad vibes around you. And, they can protect you, if needed. So, introducing your love to your family through video calls could be one of the ways to do it.
3. You can let them go
Letting someone go may sound like the counterpart of the relationship. But, she someone is in an actual relationship, they just want the happiness of their partner.
If your partner feels that their happiness is being alone, you will let them go. As you always want their satisfaction. Of course, you will miss them, and the memories you shared won't allow you to leave them so quickly. But, remember, if you keep them holding to you, it will act as reactive to your relationship. And it will kill the joy and the happy memories you sometimes shared with each other.
When you are in love, you can do anything for the sake of your partner's happiness. And if your partner finds their satisfaction being away from you, you won't think how painful for you it will be, but you will be ready to let them go.
4. You can discuss anything.
In any relationship, communication is a must. It is more important in a relationship of a couple. Well, if the communication is face to face, it can anyway find the solution to any problem, or it can be you understood good. But, when you are apart, communication is a must in between you.
You need to discuss everything with your partner what you are feeling, what you are thinking, what you want, or what you need, what you are planning or planned, and so on. Even though you don't ask them for their suggestion, but at least you need to talk to them about your decision.
If you are planning for a big move with them, or moving to another country, taking up any job, you need to discuss it with your partner. It's not only about your thoughts. But, if you have any issue, personal, professional, or whatever, you need to be able to talk to them. If you can do it with your partner, and if your partner is the right person, you will indeed find the right solution after the discussion.
5. You both work on the relationship.
A relation can grow only when there are involvement and tension to develop the relationship is from both sides.
Let me say, only one partner is trying to resolve the quarrel, by saying Sorry, even though it's not their fault always, such a relationship won't work for long. The trials to grow the connection should be done from both ends. If only one partner is trying, and the other is just in a relationship, this may end terribly.
A relationship is perfect when both partners are ready to accept each other's flaws and work on them to dilute the issue. If you feel the better changes within you, after the time you met each other, congratulations, you are with the right person.
6. You help each other
When you are with the right person, they will always make you feel being with them. No matter how long you stay. You will always feel their presence.
Whatever issue you have, whatever dilemma you are in, you will find them next to you always. You won't feel alone, even though they are not with you.
A perfect relationship is when you both help each other to grow and to shine. You will always find them next to you, and they should always see you next to them.
Helping each other doesn't mean paralyzing anyone. Sometimes, the help that they offer you or you show them can be the last hope for them. The service can be physical or emotional. The form doesn't matter. But, what important is to help your partner.
7. Your expectations are realistic.
Perfection doesn't exist. If you are looking for a perfect person for the ideal relationship, you are mistaken.
There will always be something that may bother you in your relationship. But, if you always expect the perfect solution for it, you will only be stress and unhappy with your relationship.
You need to be realistic. Whatever the matter is, you shouldn't expect the outcome out of reality. It will become a bigger and bigger problem if you accept the perfect issue out of your situation.
The relationship becomes beautiful if you are with the right person. Only the right person can understand the difference between reality and perfection. And, if you see this trait in your partner, they are the right one.
8. You can spend time separately.
Well, there's no doubt, an actual couple will always find it challenging to spend time apart. They don't want their partner to leave them. They will always try to keep their partner with them.
Even though you had to spend time separately, you always missed that person. It would not be easy for both of you. Meanwhile, at a separate time, you are flooded with hormones. You just want to be with them. Maybe due to this separation, you can't make logical decisions right now.
I would suggest you try it to be apart to see if it was the true feelings or was just the fling. If you still think about them, after being separated from them, it could be a genuine interest for them. And you want a long-term relationship with them.
You will know that you don't only want to see the dreams of being together, but you actually want to be with them. You don't only want to make the promises, but you are actually interested in fulfilling them.
9. Have a sense of humor
Relationships are never easy. Especially when you share a long-distance relationship. The actual exam of the connections is them the wrong time comes.
If in a hard time, you both can make each other laugh, give better advice, and support each other, your relationship is the best. You will often face situations that are not resolvable easily. And you need to give the time to it.
Yet, such situations required being happy and calm. And if in your relationship you can do this, which can be done, only when you are with the right person, your relationship can be successful.
10 Signs you are not suitable for each other.
Everything is linked to each other. I have read somewhere that, whatever happens, good or bad, the frequency of the happening is transferred through the universe. The same thing applies to relationships.
We say, one person can know what is going on in their partner's mind. Well, this is applicable when the couple is in true love. The universe does this in the same manner. When you are suitable for each other or wrong for each other, the universe gives you the signs to know it. And you are required to pick those signs within the right time.
Find the list below and see, aren't you getting these signs.
1. They don't reveal their relationship.
A genuine relationship is nothing about hiding from the world. If two people are indeed in a relationship, they would love to introduce themselves to their families and friends. As, they are very much sure that, they want their life with their partner.
If your partner is not ready to reveal their relationship status among their friends and family, you might be with the wrong person. When a person is in an actual relationship, they want to tell the world that they are with the right person. And they don't want to hide their partner from anyone.
Even though you are not ready to reveal your relationship right now, you can try this on your partner, what they say about it. If they genuinely love you and want to be with you, they won't live you and stop you from revealing your relationship.
2. You fight constantly
It is a saying that relationships are incomplete without fights. In fact, those people who fight in a relationship would mean their bond is strong. They fight for the sake of caring about each other.
Sometimes, the fights are common due to stress or any other issue. The fight doesn't mean you don't love your partner anymore. But, if you are seeing that you have constant battles with your partner for maybe no reason, you need to reconsider your relationship with the person.
Of course, you will try to fix the issues that are bothering your relationship. But, if you are seeing that nothing is working out, your partner is not taking any initiative for resolving the issue and constantly fighting with you, you might be with the wrong person.
3. They don't support you emotionally.
Well, emotional support is a must in a relationship. I would say the relationship starts when someone feels an emotional connection with someone. And it builds the foundation of a relationship.
If you are having a consistent experience, whenever you need your partner emotionally and are always unavailable for you, they might be wrong for you.
If you are always there whenever your partner needs you, and still your partner doesn't value your concern and goes mad, whenever you hope for their emotional support, you need to look at your relationship once.
4. You can't concentrate on them.
This may be pretty weird to figure out, like, how you can concentrate on your partner. But, you can take this in a way, like, you can't focus on what they are doing, talking, etc.
In every relationship, you need to be open up with your emotions, work, feelings, etc. If your partner is doing something, maybe for their happiness only, irrespective of what you are feeling with their actions, and you cannot get what they are doing and what their purpose is with their effort. You can concentrate on their actions or words; you might be with the wrong company.
Well, it happens often. Nowadays, such conditions are expected in a relationship. And many couples talked about it when their relationship is about to end up or already ended.
5. You are not yourself with them.
Every relationship gives you the space to be yourself and makes you feel like a free bird. A relationship is not about holding you back but let your fly high.
Unfortunately, many people say they don't feel themselves when they are with their partner. And, this is their major complaint with their partner. They lose themselves somewhere in the past for their partner.
In starting, they may be happy with their new transformation, but with time, they start feeling it irritating. Because they realize that they are not what they are portraying.
Let me say if your partner wants you to wear a saree all the time. But, you are not comfortable with this attire. And slowly, you start realizing it. You can find so many examples of such a case.
6. They don't value you.
This sign is straightforward to find out. When in a relationship, efforts are made from both sides. Both the person should make compromises and adjustments. There should be respect for each other and value for each other's company.
Well, these things are not about saying. Bit, these things are about showing. I would say you can show your love for your partner by valuing their efforts and respecting them.
If you are finding that your partner night giving you respect, in your personal space and also in public, and not valuing your efforts, whatever you are doing for them, they may be the wrong person for you. And it would help if you found it immediately.
7. You can't discuss serious issues.
In a relationship, nothing should be hidden. Nothing at all. If you have something severe issue, and you want a genuine suggestion for it, or you wish to discuss it with someone, and that someone is not your partner, it is worst of all.
You should always be free to go to your partner and discuss anything you want to. It can be anything like a personal issue or office tantrums, etc. If you don't find your partner getting involved with your serious discussion, they may be the wrong person for you. And you need to realize it now.
A strong relationship doesn't only give you space to discuss the party memories, but also the sad recalls.
8. Not compatible sexually
In a relationship, sexual compatibility is equally important as that of the emotional one. At the same time, when the time comes, both the partner needs to be ready for that.
If one partner is getting ready for it, just because their partner wants it, it is not an ideal relationship. And, the association is, anyway, all about emotional and sexual compatibility.
9. You don't really think about your relationship.
If you are constantly thinking about your relationship and can't think about your relationship to carry on due to your partner's behavior, you need to rethink your relationship.
I mean, if you can't find your relationship after five years from now, or you can't see your partner with you after few years, you are fed up with the fights, the tantrums of your partner, or you don't feel the connection with your partner, you should go ahead with the full stop.
Maybe it's not always your partner's fault. They may be genuinely in love with you. But, if you still don't find them in your future, and you cant see your relationship after a while, you should stop there.
10. Your partner is irresponsible.
Well, a relationship gets strong when each partner understands their responsibility towards the relationship. Everyone has to play their role thoroughly and responsibly for making the relationship stronger.
If you are noticing your partner being irresponsible towards their duty, you should be attentive towards your relationship. You can make your partner realize where they are going wrong. And, what do you expect from them? But, still, your partner is not ready to understand where they stand, what their responsibility is; you can think about your partner once.
Am I with the right person?
Concerning the points mentioned above, you can understand how you can find if you are with the right person or not.
Well, in the above points, I have mentioned the issues that help you to know if your partner is wrong for you. In this section, you will find the positive attributes that are easy to find in someone to check if they are right for you.
I'm sure you will find these points in your partner if they genuinely love you.
1. You Can Be Yourself
As I said earlier, a genuine relationship gives you space to be yourself. You don't feel like losing yourself or losing any aspect of yourself. You are what you are with them.
Even though you like to be in pajamas, not wearing makeup, having food, or anything, you can be yourself with them. And, they also appreciate you the way you are.
They won't feel shameful or irritated with your actions or tantrums. They will always be with you, whatever time comes. They will always protect you, even if you are wrong at times.
2. They value you
If you are in a genuine relationship with the right person, you will always be valued by your partner. A person knows how it feels to lose your loved ones.
If your partner truly loves you, they will know your value. Now, valuing someone is not something getting agreed with them. But, when you want to know if your partner value you, you can see if they appreciate your every small effort you make.
It is so easy and happens to find out. If your partner value you, they would not be able to hide their emotion. They will always count your the minor effort you made to make your relationship better.
3. You Actually 'Hear' Each Other
Hearing, listening, understanding each other is a must for a successful relationship. So, no matter, what was the issue, what was the topic, or what was the complaints you had from each other, if you both listen to each other and try to understand their point of view, no matter how difficult it is for you to do this, you are with the right person.
Remember, it's not only their duty to listen to you and give you a chance to speak about your point of view, but, you also need to give them the same space, they give to you.
4. You Know They are Loyal
Your right person will always be loyal to you—no matter what condition comes to your life. But, you will always know that they can't cheat you with anything.
The exam of a person's loyalty in a relationship is when two of them live apart from each other. And, yet, if you can trust them, you rely them on every word they said, and they also keep your trust; you are definitely with the right person. And you should not lose such a person.
As loyalty is one of the foundations your relationship is standing on. And, if anyone of you messed up with the commitment, the relationship can break.
5. You Are Respected
In a relationship, mutual respect is a must. If you are expecting them to respect you, you should also give them the same care.
If your partner takes care of every bit, that they don't make you feel disrespected at any point in time, you are with the right company. Remember, giving respect is one of they to show your love.
Even if you made a mistake, your partner knows how to deal with it without disrespecting you; they are the proper match for you.
Conclusion
A relationship is never easy. It needs a lot of effort from both partners. And it needs to be dealt with love, care, respect, and support. You can say these are the foundation of the relationship. And if any one of the foundations is damaged, your relationship can be hampered too. Also, along with these parameters, the person in a relationship is the critical factor. If the people in a relationship are wrong, they can't survive. I hope my opinion has helped you see if your partner is an ideal one for you or not.
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One day, in a seminar, the host ask 150 people to play a game. First, he asks them to pick up a balloon and write their name on it. When the people do it, the host asks them to go into a room and drop their balloon in the empty space.
The people return to him, dropping their balloon. Then the host asks the same group to go to the room and take their balloon and come back here. Everyone goes to the room and looks for their balloon. While looking for the balloon, there push other people aside, go over them, and through others balloon aside from them.
They were asked to come back in two minutes. And after the time is done, everyone returns with an empty hand. The host again asks the same group to go to the room, pick up a random balloon, and return it to the balloon's owner. After two minutes, everyone returns with their balloons in their hand.
The host says, "this is what we do in real life also. We keep aside other's happiness to look for ourselves. But we forgot that if you can't make others happy, you can be satisfied too. "
The Morel: The secret of happiness is, be helping to others. Find your joy in other's happiness. When you give a smile to other's faces, you will ultimately get a reason to smile. You don't have to run for joy when you help others. And, success can be achieved in the same way. By helping others and taking others together, you can get win only.
I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan
There was a company, who's boss was so strict, and employees didn't like him at all. One day, when all the employees come to the office, they see a notice on the door, "the one who was holding you back died yesterday. Please gather in the seminar hall for condolences."
Reading this notice, every one of them thinks that the boss dies. They feel so sad. And everyone started moving to the auditorium. When they enter the hall, they see the boss sitting on the chair fit and refined and a coffin placed in front of him. Each one of them was shocked, who is died then.
One by one, everyone comes to the coffin and sees inside it. But, when they looked inside the coffin, everyone was shocked. As, inside the coffin, there was a mirror only where they saw their own images.
Besides the mirror, there was a letter, "The person who was holding you back is you. There is no other person in the world who can hold you back rather than you. You are the biggest speed breaker for your success. Unless and until you understand this fact, you can't get success."
The Morel: The one who is the doer is you for yourself. You can make you successful and unsuccessful at times. No one can hold you at any sort of time.
Only you can keep you and release you to do something extraordinary. Don't put limits on yourself. Be limitless. You have the best relationship with you. If people are blaming you, making fun of you based on your efforts, it means you are logging at some point. So, don't blame others for their perception of you. As somewhere you have given them a reason to think like this.
Once, there was a man who was so intelligent. People know him and their work. And they used to appreciate him due to his works. He used to calculate and study every single thing that he was doing. Then, one day, he notices that his shoes are going to tire soon. He realized that he had worked so hard, and as a result, his shoes will be split into two parts.
He decided to buy a pair of shoes. So he thinks of going online and looking for the shoes that are best suited for him. Meanwhile, he also believes that what if he bought the wrong pair. So, he wanted to be sure before purchasing the shoes. So, he takes off all the books that he was appreciated the most. And after too much research, he finally reaches the solution that how he needs to buy shoes.
He makes all the measurements using the scales. On the next day, he went to the shop and selected a pair of shoes. But then he realized that he had forgotten the scale at home. So he goes back home, but he realized that his boots are torn. And he has to walk to the house barefoot.
In a school, one camp was organized for the students. The counselor comes to the auditorium and asks students to share their experiences that have hurt them badly.
One of the students stood up and said that one of his friends says something to him that had hurt them so badly. And, they can not forget what their friend has told them.
Then the counselor puts up the chalk and breaks it into two parts. Then they ask the students whether anyone can join it back and make it like before. Everyone says no.
Then the counselor says, "like, you can not join this chalk back, and make it like before, you can not take your words back. Your words are the most powerful. So, use it wisely. It may give you an injury severe than any of the weapons."
The Morel: We can not live without talking with each other. Being in a conversation, words are the most important things that help have a good relationship and bond. Conversely, if you use the wrong words, your most robust relationship can be faded away.
Right words heal, where bad words injure you the severe. You can't take the terms back. Once you said something that could hurt the feelings of somebody, your 100 times "I'm sorry" can't make it right. Take some time to think before you utter a word. You should know what to speak and when to speak. As if you learn to speak wisely, you are successful.
Success is achieved and maintained by those who try and keep trying. W. Clement Stone
Once, there was a Carpenter who was nearby his retirement. He goes to his boss and informs him about his retirement. The boss got sad, as the carpenter was one of the best employees he had ever.
The boss asked the carpenter to build the last house for him before his retirement. Though the man didn't want to do it, he agreed to do so. And he started working in it. He was such an experienced and knowledgeable person. But, as it was his last house, who doesn't take too much effort, uses average interiors, and so on.
When it gets ready, he gives the key of the house to the boss, and the boss provides access to the carpenter's return, saying, " it is the gift for you from my side."
The carpenter thinks that if the world has known that it is for him, he would have taken the double efforts and gave a quality product.
The Morel: We often save our energy for the next day, which we don't know, what and how it will be. This story teaches us to give 100% at the moment. You waste your time giving excuses and then complaining about the outcome. If you don't give your best, how can you get the best?
Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming. John Wooden
In a classroom, a professor asks a student to come forward. When he comes out, the professor asks him to put his hands on a level outside his body alignment. When he does it, he puts two books in his hands. And ask the student if it is heavy or not. The student says it's very light.
After 5 minutes, the professor again asked the student if it is heavy or not. The student again replied the same. Then, the professor gets busy interacting with the class. After 15 minutes, the professor repeats the same question. This time, the student replied, he is feeling muscle pain. Then the professor asked him to go back to his seat.
The professor explains that if the boy had held the book for 1 hour, he might feel keeping the heaviest thing. But, if he holds the book for a day or the week, his hand may feel paralyzed and numb.
Similarly, the book refers to the stress and worries in your life. If you hold them for few minutes, that's ok. Buy, if you have them for much time, it will give you pain, mentally and physically. It will help if you let go of them as soon as possible. Otherwise, they will paralyze your brain.
The Morel: If you can't hold your happiness for longer, why do you carry your stress everywhere you go. It will give you nothing but sadness and more anxiety. Let go of your tension. Don't carry them everywhere. Free up your mind so that they can have a space for new ideas.
Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. Bruce Lee
There was an older man who had five sons. The man was rich, but he was old now. His sons always used to fight with each other. And, the man was so stressed due to this behavior of his son. Now, their fight was raised before ever, and the people around them used to make fun of them for fighting all the time.
One day, he gets sick. He wanted his son to be united before he died. So, he calls his sons and says, "dear, if you do what I will ask you to do, in less time, you will get the rewards for it." Everyone gets agreed.
Now the man gives each one of them a bundle of 10 sticks to break and asks them to divide it into two half. Whoever will do it in less time will be the winner. So, the sons started breaking the sticks and finish the task in very little time. But, now, they again began to fight, who did the first.
The man says, "the task is not finished yet." He again gives a bundle of 10 sticks to each one of them and asks them to beak it in one go rather than to break them individually. After many tries, no one can break it. And the admission that they are failed.
Once, there was a king who was so helpful. He has a person in his kingdom who was so clever. And the king used to admire the person the most.
One day, the king and the person goes the riverside. They were talking and discussing some severe topic.
Meanwhile, the king draws a line on the coast of the river and asked the man to reduce the length of the line without touching it or wiping it. After thinking for some time, the man draws an extensive line aside from the last line and tells the king that his line is shorter.
The King gets pleased with the man again.
The Morel: Try to look for the options around you. If you keep yourself closed in a box, don't let yourself breathe in the air, you won't be able to survive. Put yourself in extreme conditions to know your capabilities. Make your mind living. Think out of the box.
Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success. Swami Vivekananda
A man used to walk his dog every day in the morning. Every week he was noticing a woman nearby a lake. Week after week passed by. And then he finally goes to the woman asked, " would you mind if I ask, what do you do here every week?"
The woman had a cage beside her, three turtles on her lap, and the fourth one in her hand; she was wiping with a sponge.
She smiled and replied, "I'm cleaning the argue and scum that grows upon the turtle's shell as it would reduce their ability to soak heat and reduce their swimming capacity. It so can get corrode and got weaken with time. I do it every weekend."
The man smiles and says, "But do you think you are making a huge difference? As there are not so many people in the world who do this. And the other turtles may be living with the algae and scums."
The women replied, "if these turtles were talking, they would say, I'm making a huge difference."
The Morel: You may not change the world, but you can change someone's life. You may not matter for the world, but it might be the world for someone. Only because you can't change the world doesn't mean you shouldn't try to help people. You might never know; your small help can make a huge difference in someone's life.
Success is sweet and sweeter if long delayed and gotten through many struggles and defeats. Amos Bronson Alcott
Two kids, a boy, and a girl, were playing on the ground afternoon. First, the boy shows the girl his collection of the pabbles, which was too beautiful. Then the girl also shows him her collection of candies.
They both make a deal of exchanging this collection. The girl gives her all the candies to the boy. Boy gives all of his pabbles to the girl. But, he keeps one of the most beautiful and big stones to him, without her knowledge. And they both were so happy.
In the night, the girl was so happy that she has got a perfect collection. And she goes to sleep thinking about the pabbles. But, on the other hand, the boy could not sleep, as he thinks, if the girl has also put some candies on her, as he did.
The Morel: What you give, that you take. Whatever the relationship is, trust is essential. If one is cheating, he will always think that the other person is also cheating him. As you believe, you grow up. So, think positive. Be honest. It is the ultimate secret to your success.
Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek. Mario Andretti
Once a boy asks an old man, "what is the secret of success?" The man told the boy that to meet him on the riverside the following day.
The boy gets ready and goes to the riverside the following day to meet the older man. The man and the boy started walking through the river till the boy's nose ducked in the water.
Now, the older man punches the boy's head inside the water and doesn't let him come up. The boy struggles a lot to come out, but the man pushes him in the opposite direction. The boy feels that a fish is swimming underneath his leg, and he tried to come up hard.
Now, the man pulls the boy and makes his breathing. And, asked him, "when you were inside the water, what did you want?" The boy replied, "The Air." Yeah, this is the secret of success.
Until and unless you want success, like wanting air, you can not achieve it.
The Morel: The desires give birth to Success. If you want to be in the pot, just because you can, you won't be able to get success. On the other hand, if you desire success as essential as the air, you will definitely go to get it.
The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way. Robert Kiyosaki
Once, a leader in a seminar hall shows the audience of 200 people a $50 pouch. Then he asked them, " who wants this pouch?" And everyone raises their hand in the air.
He said, "I will give this money to any one of you. But before that.....he asked one again, who wants the pouch?" And again, everyone agreed.
Then he tried to make as much money as possible as it hardly looks like wasted tissue paper. And, he again asked the audience whether they want it or not. And, everyone again agreed to have it.
The Morel: No matter how challenging your life is, how challenging the situation is, your life and the worth of your life don't decrease. Often you might face the case where you feel inadequate but remember your worth. And be proud of it. As if you value yourself, the world will love you.
You don't have to be a genius or a visionary or even a college graduate to be successful. You just need a framework and a dream. Michael Dell
Once, in a small village, there was a businessman who was having huge debts. And, he was not in the condition to return all his obligations to the bank. Moreover, the banker was an old and unappealing man who firmly wanted to marry that businessman's daughter.
One day, the business owner went to the banker and wanted to have a deal so that he doesn't have to pay the debts. Banker puts a condition of marrying his daughter. But, the business's owner didn't want to do that. But, he didn't have any choice to be debt-free as the debts were too huge to return.
He will put two stones in a bag, black and white. If the girl chooses the white stone blindly, the businessman's debts will be cleared, and the daughter will not have to marry him. And if she selects the black stone, she will have to marry him, and the debts will be cleared.
The banker picks up two black stones. The daughter was watching the banker from the window.
Once, A mommy camel and her newborn were turning in, soaking up the sun. The baby camel asked his mum, “Why are we with these large bumps on our back?”
The mammy thinks for some time and then said, “We are living in the desert where there is a shortage of water. Our humps reserve water to support us survive on long trips." The baby camel again questions, “Well, what is the use of these long legs with rounded feet?”
His mum answered back, “They are signified to enable us to walk through the sand.” The baby asked the third question, “Why are my eyelashes so long?”The mother answered, “Your long eyelashes you from sand when it hits in the wind.”
In the last, the baby asked, “if we all have the skills naturally to live our life, then what is the use of the Camels in Zoo?"
The Moral: It shows that your abilities won't have meaning until you use them. You might have heard about the persons, who have left their jobs to follow their dreams. Now, you have to decide, you either want to do your job only, or to live your dream. Maybe your plan gives you a struggle initially. But, it would help if you had the confidence that you will make a change. Think big, keep growing.
All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure. Mark Twain
Once, there was a king. One day, he thought of experimenting on these people. So, he put a massive rock in the middle of the road, and hide nearby to see, what people do seeing the stone on the road.
After waiting for some time, he sees some wealthy merchants passing by. They walk by the rock, blaming the king that is not doing his duties. Then after some time, a peasant goes by the same way.
He had some heavy stuff over his head. Seeing the rock in the middle of the road, he stopped and tried to move the rock sideways.
It takes some time for him to clear the road, but he does it and goes back to his work. The next day, the same thing happens, but this time, there was a change.
He saw a sag filled with gold coins with a letter saying, "It is the reward for your work you did yesterday." It was the king who placed the sag for his work.
The Morel: Don't complain about things. Take action to make a change. You have the strength to challenge situations that look tough. So, go ahead, and challenge the challenging situation. Also, karma comes back. So, if your karma is good, you will get a good reward and vice versa.
Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds. Orison Swett Marden
A long time ago, a man was living at $99 social insurance bills, at the age of 65, in a small house. Even at the age of 65s, he wanted to do something to change his life. He was thinking about what he should do so that he can change his life. And, he had an idea. He thought of the selling fried chicken recipe that his family and friends loved.
With the thought, he leaves his home and visits various restaurants to sell his recipe. But he fails. He gets around 1009 Nos. He was also ready to give it for free, but no one agreed. In the last when he visited 1010 restaurants, he spawns a Yes.
His name is Colonel Hartland Sanders. And, the rest of the history, you know.
The Moral: This story gives you too many lessons. First is, it's never too late for a start. In the society of younger strength, Colonel Sanders has set an example; age is just a number. The second is belief in yourself. Have confidence in yourself. The third is consistency: one story, many lessons.
Success isn't measured by money or power or social rank. Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. Mike Ditka
Once, there was a seminar in an auditorium. The host asked people, "how many of you are moved on with your past?" Very few hands were raised. Then to change the environment, he cracks the joke, and everyone started laughing.
Then, the guy cracks the same joke for the second time. This time, very few people laugh. Then, he again cracks the joke. This time, no one laughed.
Then, he explains that if you can laugh at the same trick, why do you complain and stuck with your past?
Going back in the past and again and thinking about the past can't be the solution for any of the problems; it will not assist you with anything, anyway.
The Morel: People in this world are so happy and comfortable with their past. They keep complaining about the same and don't want to see the present and the future. Instead, they should learn to deal with the situation and start looking at every moment in a new way.
There are people who make things happen, there are people who watch things happen, and there are people who wonder what happened. To be successful, you need to be a person who makes things happen. Jim Lovell
Once, a man was coming to an elephant camp. He notices that all the elements were tied with a single rope, and it was tied in a leg only. Every elephant had the same situation. He got confused, so he goes to one of the trainers there.
He asks the trainer, "why the elephants are not breaking the rope and trying to get free. When they easily can do it. They have enough of the strength to do this."
The trainer replies to the man, "when the elephants were small, the rope was enough to hold them. The elephants are tied with the same rope from their childhood to adulthood. But, today also, the elephants think that they can't break the tope, and thus they don't try to do this."
The Morel: In the story, the elephants have made their opinions that they can't get through the situation when they easily can do it. They are stuck ad their past condition and don't even try to deal with the states with the new attitude.
The same thing applies to the human. If they have made any past mistakes, they think they should not repeat the situation without pain and failure.
Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally. David Frost
Once, a man came to know about a mine, where he was supposed to find the diamonds. He worked so hard for so long, quitting all his works.
After some time, it was so tiresome for him to continue his mining. And, he left the work. After some days, another man came to know about the incident. And he decides to keep the mining continue from where the first man leaves the work. As soon as he started, in two-three days, he gets the diamond.
The Morel: We learn here that never give up on anything. You might never know; the success could be just in front of you after some steps more.
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. Booker T. Washington
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