“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free.
The relationship you carry out with yourself shapes your life and everything surrounding you. You need to love yourself before anyone else loves you, and that’s a golden rule. We usually find it easier to love others rather than loving ourselves.
We are our harsh critics because we do not lose a moment in doubting ourselves, criticizing our act, or blaming ourselves for a toxic relationship. There are many regardless of why you lack self-love; however, you will realize you have to be your cheerleader rather than your critic in the long run of life. Only then will you learn to move forward in life successfully and happily.
You need to make yourself believe that you are worth all the love and care you expect and then shower all of it on yourself. It’s always easy to dwell on the insecurities that others point out in you.
You need to understand yourself and do things that make you happy. You need to understand what works the best for you, and this is a long trial and error process. You can try something for a few days, like a month, for example, 21 days of gratitude journaling, and then check the changes that occur in you.
If you like the process, the changes, then go on with the work. Learn to accept your flaws and carry yourself out as royalty.
Most importantly, learn to believe in yourself when the entire world is telling you not to. This is surely a difficult task, but I promise you shall be grateful to see what you have accomplished at the end.
Remember that your life has been trying to teach you only one lesson throughout all the years, it’s that you are the most important person in the entire universe. Do not make anyone else make you feel otherwise.
Gratitude and self-love walk hand-in-hand. If you want to spend your time trying to love yourself, the first thing you need to do is to know yourself well, and for knowing yourself, you need to take the help of gratitude, because it’s the purest of all the feelings made by mankind.
“Gratitude is an antidote to negative emotions, a neutralizer of envy, hostility, worry, and irritation. It is savoring; it is not taking things for granted; it is present-oriented.” – Sonja Lyubomirsky.
10 ways to achieve your goals of loving yourself
Here is a list of ten simple ways by which you can achieve your goal of loving yourself more by the end of the year –
1. Say “no” when you do not like something.
Once you determine to walk on the path of self-love, you need to create boundaries for other people, and once the other person tries to cross the boundary, remember to cut that person from your life.
Learn to say “no” when you are not pleased with the action that’s going to happen next. Remember that saying “no” does not make you a cruel or heartless person. Instead, it makes you more composed and still in your life.
People should know their boundaries, and they should not do anything to harm your self-esteem or your mental health. Remember to support neither of these people.
2. Be honest with yourself.
It is impossible to love yourself if you do not know yourself, and for knowing yourself, you need to be utterly honest with yourself.
This is easier than being honest with someone else because here, in this situation, you know there is no one to judge you. You are free with your mind.
No other second person is going to know your little secret. That’s why, to be honest with you. Your honesty will be the path to your self-love.
3. Start a gratitude journal.
There are many different ways to show gratitude in your life, and you need to find out which one you are most comfortable with practicing. The easiest way to know one is by writing it down.
All you have to do is start a gratitude journal and write down at least five points in it every day. This way, you will realize what the small non-materialistic things that provide you happiness is, and you will work hard to fill your life with those. In and all, it will show you a direction in your life, and you will not doubt yourself for following the path.
4. Take care of your body and mind.
If you go and visit any gratitude website and search for gratitude list examples, the most common point in all those articles will be taking good care of your mind and body.
Your mind controls your body, and if your mind and your body are not syncing well, you will find yourself trapped in every situation and will get tired of life. The importance of self-love is to make your soul feel comfortable in your body.
Thus you need to take proper care of your body and mind, and only then will you get the feeling of happiness and gratitude in the workplace you are working in.
5. Allow yourself to rest once in a while.
Do not get too harsh on yourself. You need to find out time and rest. After a long week at work, try to give yourself a holiday on the weekends or try to visit the restaurant and eat something unhealthy and feast yourself.
Once in a while, try to give yourself everything you have stopped yourself from, and you will see that after the holiday, you will have a fresh mind and high energy to continue with your work for the next week. This will increase your productivity and will help you feel more loved.
6. Surround yourself with people who love to see you grow.
There will be many people who do not want to see you grow in your life. You need to point them out and cut them off from your life. Surround yourself with people who value your self-esteem and who are genuinely happy seeing you grow at work or as a person.
Try to show gratitude for family and friends, and you will realize who is worth your energy and time. Once you surround yourself with positive people, you will see that you have started feeling more confident with yourself, and your path to self-love will be accomplished. Thus, choose the people wisely because the people surrounding you affect your mental health the most.
7. Accept your past and be in your presence.
We all have an ugly past, and the only thing we can do with the past is close it in a box and keep it in the storeroom. Try to accept your past and give your hundred percent in the present.
Do not let your past hold you from trying to do something new or from growing. Try to explore everything and do not worry about the future. Do everything that your past has stopped you from doing and grow like a wildflower. Life is worth every risk taken.
8. Do not hesitate to ask for help.
Do not make yourself feel that asking for help makes you less educated or makes you seem helpless. Try to analyze the situation you are in, right now and then if you feel that you need help, or if you feel that help from someone experienced will help you get the work done faster, do not hesitate to ask for help.
Do not procrastinate or over think if the person will get ready to help you or not. At the end of the day, it’s your work, and you need to consult other people to get the most out of the situation.
Once that person gets ready to help you, you will understand how to show gratitude and will show your thankfulness to the other person. This will make the other person feel blessed and loved.
9. Try new activities, pursue a hobby.
Hobbies are fun and relaxing. Once you decide to walk on the path of self-love and to rediscover yourself, you need to come out of your comfort zone, even if that’s for a short period.
You will be amazed to see how well you fall in love with the activities you feared. You could keep track of your activities and the ones you love in your gratitude journal or in any gratitude journal app that comes for free.
10. Write down your success stories.
Writing is the easiest and fastest way to know you. Once you sit down to write, you will realize that you have written down facts about yourself you never knew existed, and that will make you the happiest and most vulnerable.
Write down every success you have achieved, from the tiny ones like going on a morning walk for one week to the bigger ones like getting a hike in the salary.
Again try to follow the 21 days of gratitude journaling idea over here with your success story, and you will end up being the happiest person on earth when you come back and read all your achievements in life.
Self-love isn’t easy. We are born as our critics. But once you begin and keep on continuing with loving yourself, you will realize how beautiful you are and how kind the world around you is. Your reality depends on how you treat yourself.
The lesser you love yourself, the more frustrated, confused, and irritated you are with your life. That’s why spend time with yourself and try to understand yourself the best. You shall fall in love with the process too.
SUVANGI CHANDA
The relationship you carry out with yourself shapes your life and everything surrounding you. You need to love yourself before anyone else loves you, and that’s a golden rule. We usually find it easier to love others rather than loving ourselves.
We are our harsh critics because we do not lose a moment in doubting ourselves, criticizing our act, or blaming ourselves for a toxic relationship. There are many regardless of why you lack self-love; however, you will realize you have to be your cheerleader rather than your critic in the long run of life. Only then will you learn to move forward in life successfully and happily.
You need to make yourself believe that you are worth all the love and care you expect and then shower all of it on yourself. It’s always easy to dwell on the insecurities that others point out in you.
You need to understand yourself and do things that make you happy. You need to understand what works the best for you, and this is a long trial and error process. You can try something for a few days, like a month, for example, 21 days of gratitude journaling, and then check the changes that occur in you.
If you like the process, the changes, then go on with the work. Learn to accept your flaws and carry yourself out as royalty.
Most importantly, learn to believe in yourself when the entire world is telling you not to. This is surely a difficult task, but I promise you shall be grateful to see what you have accomplished at the end.
Remember that your life has been trying to teach you only one lesson throughout all the years, it’s that you are the most important person in the entire universe. Do not make anyone else make you feel otherwise.
Gratitude and self-love walk hand-in-hand. If you want to spend your time trying to love yourself, the first thing you need to do is to know yourself well, and for knowing yourself, you need to take the help of gratitude, because it’s the purest of all the feelings made by mankind.
10 ways to achieve your goals of loving yourself
Here is a list of ten simple ways by which you can achieve your goal of loving yourself more by the end of the year –
1. Say “no” when you do not like something.
Once you determine to walk on the path of self-love, you need to create boundaries for other people, and once the other person tries to cross the boundary, remember to cut that person from your life.
Learn to say “no” when you are not pleased with the action that’s going to happen next. Remember that saying “no” does not make you a cruel or heartless person. Instead, it makes you more composed and still in your life.
People should know their boundaries, and they should not do anything to harm your self-esteem or your mental health. Remember to support neither of these people.
2. Be honest with yourself.
It is impossible to love yourself if you do not know yourself, and for knowing yourself, you need to be utterly honest with yourself.
This is easier than being honest with someone else because here, in this situation, you know there is no one to judge you. You are free with your mind.
No other second person is going to know your little secret. That’s why, to be honest with you. Your honesty will be the path to your self-love.
3. Start a gratitude journal.
There are many different ways to show gratitude in your life, and you need to find out which one you are most comfortable with practicing. The easiest way to know one is by writing it down.
All you have to do is start a gratitude journal and write down at least five points in it every day. This way, you will realize what the small non-materialistic things that provide you happiness is, and you will work hard to fill your life with those. In and all, it will show you a direction in your life, and you will not doubt yourself for following the path.
4. Take care of your body and mind.
If you go and visit any gratitude website and search for gratitude list examples, the most common point in all those articles will be taking good care of your mind and body.
Your mind controls your body, and if your mind and your body are not syncing well, you will find yourself trapped in every situation and will get tired of life. The importance of self-love is to make your soul feel comfortable in your body.
Thus you need to take proper care of your body and mind, and only then will you get the feeling of happiness and gratitude in the workplace you are working in.
5. Allow yourself to rest once in a while.
Do not get too harsh on yourself. You need to find out time and rest. After a long week at work, try to give yourself a holiday on the weekends or try to visit the restaurant and eat something unhealthy and feast yourself.
Once in a while, try to give yourself everything you have stopped yourself from, and you will see that after the holiday, you will have a fresh mind and high energy to continue with your work for the next week. This will increase your productivity and will help you feel more loved.
6. Surround yourself with people who love to see you grow.
There will be many people who do not want to see you grow in your life. You need to point them out and cut them off from your life. Surround yourself with people who value your self-esteem and who are genuinely happy seeing you grow at work or as a person.
Try to show gratitude for family and friends, and you will realize who is worth your energy and time. Once you surround yourself with positive people, you will see that you have started feeling more confident with yourself, and your path to self-love will be accomplished. Thus, choose the people wisely because the people surrounding you affect your mental health the most.
7. Accept your past and be in your presence.
We all have an ugly past, and the only thing we can do with the past is close it in a box and keep it in the storeroom. Try to accept your past and give your hundred percent in the present.
Do not let your past hold you from trying to do something new or from growing. Try to explore everything and do not worry about the future. Do everything that your past has stopped you from doing and grow like a wildflower. Life is worth every risk taken.
8. Do not hesitate to ask for help.
Do not make yourself feel that asking for help makes you less educated or makes you seem helpless. Try to analyze the situation you are in, right now and then if you feel that you need help, or if you feel that help from someone experienced will help you get the work done faster, do not hesitate to ask for help.
Do not procrastinate or over think if the person will get ready to help you or not. At the end of the day, it’s your work, and you need to consult other people to get the most out of the situation.
Once that person gets ready to help you, you will understand how to show gratitude and will show your thankfulness to the other person. This will make the other person feel blessed and loved.
9. Try new activities, pursue a hobby.
Hobbies are fun and relaxing. Once you decide to walk on the path of self-love and to rediscover yourself, you need to come out of your comfort zone, even if that’s for a short period.
You will be amazed to see how well you fall in love with the activities you feared. You could keep track of your activities and the ones you love in your gratitude journal or in any gratitude journal app that comes for free.
10. Write down your success stories.
Writing is the easiest and fastest way to know you. Once you sit down to write, you will realize that you have written down facts about yourself you never knew existed, and that will make you the happiest and most vulnerable.
Write down every success you have achieved, from the tiny ones like going on a morning walk for one week to the bigger ones like getting a hike in the salary.
Again try to follow the 21 days of gratitude journaling idea over here with your success story, and you will end up being the happiest person on earth when you come back and read all your achievements in life.
Self-love isn’t easy. We are born as our critics. But once you begin and keep on continuing with loving yourself, you will realize how beautiful you are and how kind the world around you is. Your reality depends on how you treat yourself.
The lesser you love yourself, the more frustrated, confused, and irritated you are with your life. That’s why spend time with yourself and try to understand yourself the best. You shall fall in love with the process too.