I am not beautiful. I am not good at dancing or studying or any work. I can not do anything right in life. Everyone is disappointed with me. I am a failure. I don't know anything, and so on.
This is what we all said to ourselves often. As we are not happy with ourselves the way we are. We know the fact; no one is perfect. Then, why we are so unfair to ourselves, making self a so-called ideal idol. Either, perfection doesn't exist in the world.
If you can see, every individual has any bad habit. Instead, no one likes to portray or discuss it among the other, but inner you know, what things are good and what things bad severely about yourself.
You can not learn until you make mistakes. And because you make mistakes often, you started struggling to like yourself.
Once, a game was conducted in an auditorium. People were asked to list the five names of the people whom they love the most in the world. Randomly, when the solution was invited to the people, many common answers were, mother, father, son, daughter, sister, brother, and so on. But, not a signal person was there, who included self-name in the list.
Why would this happen? No matter how many flaws you have, your answer to this question should always start from your name.
There are many people out there, almost everyone unhappy with themselves as people realize their flaws. As much it is true that everyone has flaws, it is also the fact that everyone has that one thing, which the other person doesn't.
What you have to do is, realize those things and stay happy with yourself. Love yourself. Self-love is the best thing you can do for yourself. Self-love had many advantages, which you can not understand until you start loving yourself.
Why love yourself?
When it comes to hating yourself, you will find tons of reasons to not liking yourself. But, if you can love yourself, with the no matter ample of flaws you have, it means your life is worthy.
Self-love fulfills you with self-confidence, self-worth, and it will make you feel more positive in all the situations in your life. Life is a zigzag slide. You will take many turns, at some point, you will be scared of the conditions. But, you also know that a zigzag descent gives you more pleasure than a straight drop.
You get the real meaning of living a life when you start loving yourself. When you begin to love yourself, you will start taking care of yourself; you will be much happier than ever before. If you can love yourself, you can spread love to others, only then.
How to love yourself
Self-love is as simple as loving anyone else. In the difficult journey of life, people find it complicated; loving is caring self. Ax, the outer world is so different than you, then your inner you.
I am not saying, after reading this article, you will start loving yourself immediately. But yes, indeed, you will feel that nothing is beautiful than you. You will understand the importance of love for yourself. So, please go through this batch of sentences carefully, and try to find it within yourself.
1) Stop comparing yourself with others
This is very common among youngsters nowadays. Students going to the schools and colleges are under peer pressure. They want to be the same as they are living with people.
Students try to change them completely. And in this practice, they lose themselves somewhere. But, this is not only about the students.
Each person compares their life with the other. If the person sees someone looking beautiful than themself, get disappointed. If someone has a big house, more money, a car and so on things, comparing self-life with others, you get only disappointment with yourself. However, it resulted in self-dissatisfaction, self-hate.
So, stop comparing your life with others. Whatever you have is your stuff. You have earned it after so much hard work. So, appreciate your efforts and love yourself for this achievement.
2) Forgive yourself for your mistakes
People say, learn forgiveness. Forgive others for their mistakes and move on. But do they forgive themselves for their mistakes?
Human is an animal who learns from the mistakes. Indeed, it's up to that person, whether the person wants to correct the errors or not, but it's impossible to learn until a person makes any mistake.
So, now, then you have made a mistake, what is the next plan you have? What do you want to do? Do you want to stick that mistake for life, or would you like to forgive yourself and forget the mistake?
When you learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes, you have made, you start loving yourself and make your life worthy.
3) Learn to say 'No' to others
Saying no to others means you are disappointing them and on one wants that.
But, in the practice of pleasing others, you disappoint yourself. Saying 'No' is hard, but it is essential. But in the attempt of other people feeling pretty good, we stretch ourselves too much and commit to the work we can do.
If you don't want to go to a movie with your friends on the coming weekend, because you want to spend this time with yourself and your family, it is okay. Tell your friends that you can not go out this weekend.
Sometimes it is as simple as that. But, you make it too complicated. When you learn to say 'No' for your happiness, it means you started caring for yourself.
4) Make a list of your achievements
You lost the last game, and now you are not happy. Take a book, and start listing your achievements till now. See, you have many more accomplishments than the last game.
Making a list of your achievements is the ultimate way of falling in love with yourself. This list will make you feel proud of your talent, and you will be happy.
5) Make a vision board
When I was in school, my teacher told me whatever you write down impacted your thoughts and actions. Also, writing something loosen up the stress you have.
When you are happy or unhappy with yourself, you had multiple thoughts. Make a place in your room for the board, write every negative review on it, and wipe it up. This will help you distressed yourself.
After doing this, write the positive side of your thought, what good thing you learned from the incident. Also, you can write down your goals. This will motivate you to work hard.
Read the board daily, and remind yourself about the task you have to do. It will fill new energy within you, and you will feel motivated. You will start focusing on your dreams and loving yourself.
6) Understand your needs
No one can guess correctly. What do you want? What are you craving? Which dress did you like the most? Where you want to go?
These are the things whose answer is up to you only. Do something for yourself. Understand what do you want, and fulfill that need. You will be doing it for yourself. And, when you do something for yourself, it means you love yourself.
7) Give yourself credit where credit is due
Many time, you do work, please other, bring a smile on someone's face, and forgot to appreciate self-efforts.
Give credit to yourself for each of the excellent work you have done. Give credit to each smile you put on someone's face.
Some might be thinking that there is no need for giving credit to self, as, you know, what you have done. But, I will say, it is indeed essential to providing recognition to yourself.
If you have done something great, pat on your back, and say Good Work!
If you have not done it anyway in your life, recollect all those incidents, all those factors in your life, and say thank you, or well done to yourself. Credit is a must. When you express your gratitude for others, then why not to yourself.
When you do it, it shows the love you do with yourself.
8) Take care of yourself
Now, you will say, I take care of myself, as, whenever I want to hang out, I go outside, I like food, I have food, and many more.
But does taking care of yourself stops here?
Ask yourself how much you are aware of the feelings, stress, and tension you have. Sometimes, these feelings reach a peak, and we don't realize it until it started affecting us.
This proves you don't take care of yourself. Loving yourself begins with taking care of yourself. It may seem like an obvious one, but it is an essential part of loving yourself.
You can see, self-love is not tricky. You need to realize how important it is to love yourself. Take care of each of your desire, each of your needs, each of your dream, and put the efforts to complete those factors.