Everyone says do something extraordinary in your life so that you and your family should be proud of it. It would be best to not waste your life on the things that pull you back from your success.
But, you are not alone in the world if you don't know what to do with your life. It is a widespread situation for many people who feel stuck and directionless in their lives. It can have many reasons, such as poor decision-making and so on.
What is the purpose of your life? What do you want in your life desperately?
Happiness right? Yes! Everyone's first desire in their life is happiness. We want to be only satisfied with our decisions. We want; our life should go smoothly. It's human nature. No one wants to stop anywhere.
But, it is life, which is so unpredictable. You can not guess what life will serve you. Many times, things will go unplanned. And, what do you do and how do you handle those situations are what matters.
Things you should know about feeling stuck
1) You are not alone
You might think that you are alone in the situation. But, remember, life has a unique way of making you feel alone in the journey.
Maybe you recently had a breakup, and all your friends are in a relationship. You are not satisfied with your job, and others might look very happy with their work.
Things look like this. But you never know what's behind the scenes. Do you know if your friend is in a relationship, but is their relation working fine? Your friend might seem happy, but do you know, are they stressed or not, due to work.
Overall, you are not alone in the situation.
2) You don't always have to know what to do with your life
When you see someone moving towards their dream, naturally, you will feel disappointed. The very first thought you would have is-
• Ashamed or Guilty
Obviously, you would feel guilty or ashamed when your friends move towards their dream, and you are still at the starting point. But, let me say, there is nothing to feel like this.
Do you know the source of your pressure? It's you. You think you failed. Whereas, the fact is, you are not behind or ahead of anyone because you are running in your race of life. Your path and their path are entirely different. Either you don't know what issues they might be facing in their journey.
There are many things to do in life. But, the energy and our effort make things uncertain. And this uncertainty leads you to feel you did not do anything until now, which can make you feel powerless.
In fact, the power is not in the achievement. But the power is in the faith of your capabilities. Have faith in you, and say I can do it often. Once you realize your inner strength, it becomes the significant power in you.
Okay, the feeling of, 'I can not do anything right can be overwhelming. But, don't let these feelings affect your lives, your thoughts, and your capacities.
You can not reach the peak of the mountains seeing only to the extreme. You also have to watch out for your steps, whether you are putting them right or wrong. This should be the strategy for you.
Everyone's life is different than others. So, just don't compare your success or failure to anyone else and blame you.
3) You will say, ' I don't know what to do with my life' often, and that is a gift
Okay, yes, it is fantastic when you know what to do in your life. You can just put your feet forward in the direction of your goal. It might be feeling you so amazing when you know your efforts are worthy.
But, what to do, when you don't know what to do in your life. Well! I would call it a gift and opportunity for you. When you don't know, you have ample options to do.
I'm sure you have an idea about what kind of life you want. What things do you want to lead? So, make choices according to that. You will find your purpose.
4) You are more than one thing
People with 'calling' are great. They know, what they want to do, so their entire schedule is fixed. And thus, they work accordingly.
But, if you don't know what you want to do, it does not mean you feel disappointed. You can not be defined with a single word or task, or skill.
You might be a good friend, an excellent supportive singing, a wonderful partner and a useful employ.
So, remember, no one thing can define you and your skills. It would be best if you were not wasting your 'calling' to embrace you. Just celebrate what strengths you have already.
As you can see, each one of the four things listed above is often felt by you. You feel encouraged when something doesn't go as per your plan. But, always keep this in mind fixed, there are many persons out there, who might be in the same seat, you are not alone.
Now, I will share some tips that will help you get out of stuck situations.
7 Tips to assist you in getting out of a stuck situation
Whenever you feel directionless or stuck in the case, try out these tips.
1) Get moving and clear your mind
If you think that knowing what you want is better than not knowing what you want, then let me tell you that achieving something and having faith in yourself is the best thing.
A few years ago, I took a decision, which now I don't find correct. In that situation, my entire career was supposed to depend on it. And, in the current case, I felt like nothing is left out. I can do anything now.
I made the wrong decision, and it has affected me a lot. Mental stress is dangerous than physical injury.
But, I decided not to lose hope. I know I can still do something great from whatever I have. So, with hope and faith, I started with a new day.
I decided that I will make my wrong decision right. And I did that. I overcome my stress; I clear my mind from past guilt and move on. You also have to do the same.
2) Wake up your conscious mind and limit choices
Nobody can make or break your life; it is only you who can do it. Your thinking and actions matter the most in such a condition.
In the practice of finding the right answer from life, don't forget, life doesn't give you answers on brightly wrapped paper. There are no rules and paths to follow up. You will have to make your pathway when you don't know what exactly you want to do in your life.
The first step for this would be, waking up your conscious mind, and accept the reality, welcome the challenge, face them fill courage.
We become still when we have any questions in front of us. Also, our brain can not pick one among so many options. It is true that when we have less, we feel limited, and when we have too many, we feel overwhelmed.
For example, if you are switching your career and don't know how to select the right one, limit your choice to 6 to 7. It will help you make accurate decisions.
3) Take small steps with 30-day challenges
Deadlines are motivational. You might be wondering why 30 days? As per research, you gradually take small steps, and slowly, they become your powerful habits.
Even though self-imposed persons can make the right decision when they are given a deadline, try to achieve various goals in this 30- day challenge.
Let's consider; you want to learn to code. So, set a weekly goal for your learning. And by the end of the month, you will have good knowledge.
Likewise, note the things you want to do, such as spending time with your kids and family and learning any skill. Make short goals and achieve them one by one. Short plans will help you to develop.
4) Seek the wisdom of others who have been there
Motivation can help you to deal with problematic situations. When you don't know what to do in your life and feel exotic with your condition of being unable to do anything, read the stories of the people who inspire you. Read about their lives, learn the philosophy of their life, and overcome the challenges in their lives. These could be an excellent source of motivation and knowledge.
Such stories can motivate you, especially when you don't know what you want to put next. It would be great to find someone who was in a similar situation and came up from their circumstances.
You don't have to learn from your experiences only; try to learn from others' experiences.
5) What do I love doing?
This could be a significant step in your life. If you are ready to involve the things that you like to do in your free time as your career aspect, you can make great things out of that.
Ask this question to yourself, and then find the answer to it. You will definitely find your passion. Once you get what you want to do in your life, decide what steps you can take to fulfill your goal.
So, note down everything you love doing. Don't leave anything. And then decide what can be your next step.
6) Ask yourself, am I willing to fail?
Failure is the key to success. Until you fail, you can not claim the mountain of success. When you fail, you learn many things, such as, “this strategy won't work."
It means now you will have to think differently and start the thing in a new way. New things could be anything.
Like, if you like writing, write down everything that comes to your mind. Let others read it. Take their reviews. If they don't like it so much, you know, what you don't have to write.
Now, keep this in mind, and start writing again, with the point of view of being successful.
7) Learn about yourself
In every situation, you have two choices, either do the right thing or do something wrong. What worst of all is, doing nothing?
Find out, who you are, your passion, and what you want to achieve in your life. If you feel directionless, it means you are no more in contact with your authentic self.
It is essential to leave your past to move forward. If you are unaware of your existence, you don't know what you want to do; things will go worst.
Your life's foundation can only be made when you have any life goal when you know your life's purpose. It will also fill resilience, confidence, courage, and accountability in you. When you have meaning and vision, you won't be stuck at any point. You will find the pathways on your own.
If you are not sure what you want precisely, make a list of your priorities. This will help you to know many things about yourself.
Now, whenever you are stuck in anything, ask yourself these questions or find the tricks familiar to you. I know it will be a challenging journey, and your decisions might go wrong. But, I will repeat it, don't lose hope, and have faith.