Everyone says do something extraordinary in your life so that you and your family should be proud of it. It would be best to not waste your life on the things that pull you back from your success.
But, you are not alone in the world if you don't know what to do with your life. It is a widespread situation for many people who feel stuck and directionless in their lives. It can have many reasons, such as poor decision-making and so on.
What is the purpose of your life? What do you want in your life desperately?
Happiness right? Yes! Everyone's first desire in their life is happiness. We want to be only satisfied with our decisions. We want; our life should go smoothly. It's human nature. No one wants to stop anywhere.
But, it is life, which is so unpredictable. You can not guess what life will serve you. Many times, things will go unplanned. And, what do you do and how do you handle those situations are what matters.
Things you should know about feeling stuck
1) You are not alone
You might think that you are alone in the situation. But, remember, life has a unique way of making you feel alone in the journey.
Maybe you recently had a breakup, and all your friends are in a relationship. You are not satisfied with your job, and others might look very happy with their work.
Things look like this. But you never know what's behind the scenes. Do you know if your friend is in a relationship, but is their relation working fine? Your friend might seem happy, but do you know, are they stressed or not, due to work.
Overall, you are not alone in the situation.
2) You don't always have to know what to do with your life
When you see someone moving towards their dream, naturally, you will feel disappointed. The very first thought you would have is-
• Ashamed or Guilty
Obviously, you would feel guilty or ashamed when your friends move towards their dream, and you are still at the starting point. But, let me say, there is nothing to feel like this.
Do you know the source of your pressure? It's you. You think you failed. Whereas, the fact is, you are not behind or ahead of anyone because you are running in your race of life. Your path and their path are entirely different. Either you don't know what issues they might be facing in their journey.
• Powerless
There are many things to do in life. But, the energy and our effort make things uncertain. And this uncertainty leads you to feel you did not do anything until now, which can make you feel powerless.
In fact, the power is not in the achievement. But the power is in the faith of your capabilities. Have faith in you, and say I can do it often. Once you realize your inner strength, it becomes the significant power in you.
• Overwhelmed
Okay, the feeling of, 'I can not do anything right can be overwhelming. But, don't let these feelings affect your lives, your thoughts, and your capacities.
You can not reach the peak of the mountains seeing only to the extreme. You also have to watch out for your steps, whether you are putting them right or wrong. This should be the strategy for you.
Everyone's life is different than others. So, just don't compare your success or failure to anyone else and blame you.
3) You will say, ' I don't know what to do with my life' often, and that is a gift
Okay, yes, it is fantastic when you know what to do in your life. You can just put your feet forward in the direction of your goal. It might be feeling you so amazing when you know your efforts are worthy.
But, what to do, when you don't know what to do in your life. Well! I would call it a gift and opportunity for you. When you don't know, you have ample options to do.
I'm sure you have an idea about what kind of life you want. What things do you want to lead? So, make choices according to that. You will find your purpose.
4) You are more than one thing
People with 'calling' are great. They know, what they want to do, so their entire schedule is fixed. And thus, they work accordingly.
But, if you don't know what you want to do, it does not mean you feel disappointed. You can not be defined with a single word or task, or skill.
You might be a good friend, an excellent supportive singing, a wonderful partner and a useful employ.
So, remember, no one thing can define you and your skills. It would be best if you were not wasting your 'calling' to embrace you. Just celebrate what strengths you have already.
As you can see, each one of the four things listed above is often felt by you. You feel encouraged when something doesn't go as per your plan. But, always keep this in mind fixed, there are many persons out there, who might be in the same seat, you are not alone.
Now, I will share some tips that will help you get out of stuck situations.
7 Tips to assist you in getting out of a stuck situation
Whenever you feel directionless or stuck in the case, try out these tips.
1) Get moving and clear your mind
If you think that knowing what you want is better than not knowing what you want, then let me tell you that achieving something and having faith in yourself is the best thing.
A few years ago, I took a decision, which now I don't find correct. In that situation, my entire career was supposed to depend on it. And, in the current case, I felt like nothing is left out. I can do anything now.
I made the wrong decision, and it has affected me a lot. Mental stress is dangerous than physical injury.
But, I decided not to lose hope. I know I can still do something great from whatever I have. So, with hope and faith, I started with a new day.
I decided that I will make my wrong decision right. And I did that. I overcome my stress; I clear my mind from past guilt and move on. You also have to do the same.
2) Wake up your conscious mind and limit choices
Nobody can make or break your life; it is only you who can do it. Your thinking and actions matter the most in such a condition.
In the practice of finding the right answer from life, don't forget, life doesn't give you answers on brightly wrapped paper. There are no rules and paths to follow up. You will have to make your pathway when you don't know what exactly you want to do in your life.
The first step for this would be, waking up your conscious mind, and accept the reality, welcome the challenge, face them fill courage.
We become still when we have any questions in front of us. Also, our brain can not pick one among so many options. It is true that when we have less, we feel limited, and when we have too many, we feel overwhelmed.
For example, if you are switching your career and don't know how to select the right one, limit your choice to 6 to 7. It will help you make accurate decisions.
3) Take small steps with 30-day challenges
Deadlines are motivational. You might be wondering why 30 days? As per research, you gradually take small steps, and slowly, they become your powerful habits.
Even though self-imposed persons can make the right decision when they are given a deadline, try to achieve various goals in this 30- day challenge.
Let's consider; you want to learn to code. So, set a weekly goal for your learning. And by the end of the month, you will have good knowledge.
Likewise, note the things you want to do, such as spending time with your kids and family and learning any skill. Make short goals and achieve them one by one. Short plans will help you to develop.
4) Seek the wisdom of others who have been there
Motivation can help you to deal with problematic situations. When you don't know what to do in your life and feel exotic with your condition of being unable to do anything, read the stories of the people who inspire you. Read about their lives, learn the philosophy of their life, and overcome the challenges in their lives. These could be an excellent source of motivation and knowledge.
Such stories can motivate you, especially when you don't know what you want to put next. It would be great to find someone who was in a similar situation and came up from their circumstances.
You don't have to learn from your experiences only; try to learn from others' experiences.
5) What do I love doing?
This could be a significant step in your life. If you are ready to involve the things that you like to do in your free time as your career aspect, you can make great things out of that.
Ask this question to yourself, and then find the answer to it. You will definitely find your passion. Once you get what you want to do in your life, decide what steps you can take to fulfill your goal.
So, note down everything you love doing. Don't leave anything. And then decide what can be your next step.
6) Ask yourself, am I willing to fail?
Failure is the key to success. Until you fail, you can not claim the mountain of success. When you fail, you learn many things, such as, “this strategy won't work."
It means now you will have to think differently and start the thing in a new way. New things could be anything.
Like, if you like writing, write down everything that comes to your mind. Let others read it. Take their reviews. If they don't like it so much, you know, what you don't have to write.
Now, keep this in mind, and start writing again, with the point of view of being successful.
7) Learn about yourself
In every situation, you have two choices, either do the right thing or do something wrong. What worst of all is, doing nothing?
Find out, who you are, your passion, and what you want to achieve in your life. If you feel directionless, it means you are no more in contact with your authentic self.
It is essential to leave your past to move forward. If you are unaware of your existence, you don't know what you want to do; things will go worst.
Your life's foundation can only be made when you have any life goal when you know your life's purpose. It will also fill resilience, confidence, courage, and accountability in you. When you have meaning and vision, you won't be stuck at any point. You will find the pathways on your own.
If you are not sure what you want precisely, make a list of your priorities. This will help you to know many things about yourself.
Now, whenever you are stuck in anything, ask yourself these questions or find the tricks familiar to you. I know it will be a challenging journey, and your decisions might go wrong. But, I will repeat it, don't lose hope, and have faith.
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EVEN YOU ARE CLUELESS ABOUT WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?
Oh, God! Why always me?
Why do all these chaotic things always happen to me?
Why can't I do anything appreciating in my life?
What do I do now?
These and numerous questions like this frequently bother every one of us. There is one moment in everyone's life when we think we don't know what's wrong with me, we aren't able to figure out what's going on in life what's my purpose in life, but don't worry, it's not just you every human out their faces this. Somewhere at that point in life, everyone thinks that I know what I want but don't know how? What to do with my life? What is my existence all about?
How do I figure out what to do with my life?
How do I figure out what I want to do in my life? To figure it out, the first thing we all have to do is that we need to understand we are lost somewhere, and we are not on track and wandering away from our purpose. We need to sit alone in peace and ask our inner self questions.
"Hey, tell me, what do you want?
Will you be happy if I do this or that?
Will you be getting maximum satisfaction if I do this?
What should I do with my life?
What should I stop doing?
The answer should be either a big yes, or a hell no. There should be no in-between.
What to do once you get the answers?
While thinking about how to figure it out, we need to accept what our mind honestly says. Yes or no. Then we have to drop the things out of our life for which our mind clearly says no. once we are done with what we don't want to do, it is not difficult to figure out what do I do now. And all along with this, let me tell you one more thing that, until we are lost somewhere, we can't get to where we always wanted to be.
How do I find my purpose?
Finding the purpose of life can be very easy for someone or maybe too difficult a task for someone, depending upon how they deal with life. Honestly speaking, there is nothing like figuring out in life; it's just about listening to your mind what it says about you.
Let's look at those small tricks you can start with to find your purpose in life.
1. HAVE TALKS AND GET THE DIFFERENT OPINIONS:
The easiest thing we all can start with is talking with people who are around us, whether they are your friends, classmates, your relatives. Try to get their opinions on how you can find your purpose. The plus point of talking with elders is they have a great experience of life. They may or may not be educated, but they have learned a lot from experiences, and we all know that experience teaches more than books.
2. DO A GOOD SELF-STUDY:
The second thing we all can do is self-study or exploring ourselves. For that, we need to give time to ourselves. We need to be in place and ask ourselves a question that could let us towards our goal to extract the best from ourselves. We need to explore ourselves.
3. READ BOOKS OR PEOPLE:
The third thing you can do is reading. I always suggest to my friends that they either read books or start reading. People both teach a lot of things. Because when we read a book, we read who is ultimately a human. And if you cannot concentrate on reading, start observing the things around you even, they can teach you a lot of things.
4. ELIMINATE WHAT YOU DON'T WANT:
To reach your actual goal, put up yourself in multiple things first so that you will be easily able to eliminate what you don't want.
5. DON'T GET CRITICIZED BY FEEDBACKS:
We get happiest or satisfied if someone appreciates us for our achievements. So just like appreciation, we take feedback for our faults positively and work on ourselves. We have to keep in mind that we should not be offended by negative feedback; instead, we should ask people for feedback and suggestions.
What are the best things you can do with your life
➣ We should keep ourselves away from virtual life as much as possible. Today's youth is engaged in social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp for more than half of their day; being on a screen for excessive time can keep us away from doing productive things.
➣ Do not multitask more than your capacity. In today's competitive world, we often hear that you get yourself more than one source of income. But, sometimes multitasking causes exhaustion, also doing it without proper planning and strategies cause us good at nothing.
➣ Prioritize your health. We all know that there is nothing more important than our health. If we are healthy, we can work more efficiently tomorrow than today.
➣ Be true to yourself. Never lie to your heart about your dreams and desires. Be committed to the goals and promises that you have made to others.
➣ Spend time with your loved ones as much as possible. We all work and earn for our families, and there is well-being, but just earning money is not enough. We should spend quality time and express love towards our loved ones.
➣ Be at peace and give time to yourself in a hectic schedule. We forget to give time to ourselves and work like machines. But as humans, we need mental peace. So, at least for an hour, separate yourself from the rest of the world and spend time alone.
➣ Value your existence. Sometimes we interact too much in a toxic relationship which makes us believe that we don't have our own existence and purpose in life without that person. This is not the way you live. You should value your existence and self-respect.
➣ Be self-centered, not selfish. There is a big difference between being self-centered and selfish. Self-centered is when you think for yourself without harming someone, and selfishness is a venue to make decisions for yourself at others' harm.
What should I do with my career?
There are many things or situations that drag us in this situation. And make us feel like, I don't know what career I want. I don't know what I should do with my life? Let's understand this with a story and what we can do about life to make it as we want.
There is a girl named Kartika, who is really a good poet and author. She writes poetry and articles beautifully. She always wanted to be an author and a good poet. she wanted the world to listen to her poetry with all their heart and appreciate her for it.
Still, Kartika's father doesn't like it, and he always wanted her to be e a Civil Servant, and he even forced her many times to do that. Here she made her first mistake, she made herself do what she never wanted to do, and she pushed herself towards too much hustle. Even after studying for two consecutive years and appearing thrice for the exams, she could not qualify even for the prelims exams.
Then she talked to one of her college professors and told her everything. The first thing that the professor told her is that preparing for the examinations was her biggest mistake. She was not interested in it at all and made herself comfortable with things that are not absolutely adaptable for herself; then, Kartika accepted her mistake.
It was the first step towards her achievement when she decided to talk to her father and tell him that she couldn't do it anymore. She requested him not to force her anymore and let her do what she wants.
The reason behind telling this story:
Why did I tell this typical story? Yes, it has a reason. These are the small mistakes we often make in our life and then regret. While choosing a career, we are supposed to give preference to the things we are passionate about. No one knows our passion and what we like better than us. So, at least while deciding about a career, do not let others force your choices. Ultimately you are going to regret and blame yourself more than you do to others.
Decide where you are and what to do next:
Now, what about those who have already chosen a career out of their likings but are losing their interest in it. So, for those people- They can start trying new things in which they are developing interest. They can also take a break from their current profession and look at how much it matters.
What to do with the rest of my life?
"Yesterday we were something that we can never
Tomorrow we will be something we never know
But today we can be everything all we want."
This is the biggest beautiful truth of life. We can do everything we want for the rest of our life. Often, we feel what I should do with the rest of my life? I don't know what I want? I just don't know what to do with myself. All we can do is try to put effort into it, which would be e-drive us towards approximate consequences that we want.
Let's start with things that will guide you that what should you do with the rest of your life
# Do not hold onto the mistakes you have made in the past
We all do to this mistake in our lives that we keep remembering and regretting repeatedly, so the better you can do is not repeat it and take it as a lesson and walk ahead.
# Learn to forgive others and yourself
We often do that we judge others on their wrongdoing and keep hatred in our hearts. Also, we hold on to our past mistakes, which don't let us make dynamic decisions. Forgiving doesn't take anything; instead, it makes you feel better about yourself.
# Don't be greedy
Greed takes you nowhere. We should be aspired towards things but not be greedy. Dreams and desires should be able to make you grateful for your achievement. It should not let you snatch anything from others.
# Listen. Think. Understand
We all have lost a few relations, opportunities, and respect due to our rude and hurtful words. So, before you talk about anything, listen and understand from other's perspectives and then reply.
# Do not let others force your choices
Life is yours, so it becomes how you make it. You know what's better for you. So surely take advice from others, use them as an information source and take your decisions on your own.
# Don't assume short term goals as ultimate
We often see that getting married, starting a family, getting a new home or car, and traveling the world are the ultimate goals of people, but they should not be. Learning new things, taking risks, helping others, and many like this. The things that give you inner satisfaction, you should settle for this.
10 things we can do to make the best out of life in three phases
FIRST PHASE:
1. Get yourself a mentor.
Often, we keep doing things all by ourselves, which is not possible to do all the time. Sometimes getting a mentor is advisable to decide what to do next in your life.
2. Make short term goals:
Once you recognize what your goal is, divide it into short-term goals and then divide the short-term goals into small chunks as your daily task be committed to your daily routine, which you have made.
3. Observe and learn from small things:
Generally, we avoid observing and looking at the things happening around us. Still, sometimes those are the things which teach many things and can give effective lessons of life.
So after deciding your short-term goals and long-term goals, keep observing what you are doing jot down your daily achievements. What you can't complete in a day would be a good tool of self-assessment.
4. Convert all you should's in musts:
Do not procrastinate. Do what is your today's task before you go to bed. Procrastination would lead to regret. So before regret enters your life, turn all your should's in musts.
SECOND PHASE:
5. Set your limits:
Once you are done with the self-assessment, you will be able to limit your choices. Which will give you a clarified plan of what to do next in your life. Once necessary things are cut off, it is not hard to decide what to do.
6. Be adaptable for changes:
When you decide what to do, you need to change your goals to extract based out on yourself. You need to leave the outdated things aside and learn according to today's needs.
7. Get used to with hustle:
Always remember one thing 1-minute comfort of today can cause 2X hustle tomorrow, so you better get yourself used to with more hustle today and keep your distractions away.
THIRD PHASE
8. Start earning (even a smaller amount):
Try to earn some money whether from the part-time job are working from home or from anything you are better at it and can get money from it. Earning even a small amount of money can keep your financial aspect of life.
9. Keep exploring yourself:
As we discussed above, we should keep learning every day. There are many small things which you can start with learning. Even after a name is getting into your passion, there could be things in which you can develop your interest for others, so even after getting all you want, never stop exploring.
10. Do those things first which you are afraid of:
One of my sisters-in-law once told me never to be afraid of doing anything. Either it will work, or you will learn something. Never Goes in vain do those things first. You are afraid that it will destroy your fear from the root.
FINAL THOUGHTS:
Firstly, keep in mind whatever you are feeling is normal. We just need to find the solutions that are have already arisen with that problem. Keep yourself calm and find it. Better than getting into too many thoughts, start taking action. You can make it far better than you think...!!
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Confused What To Do With Your Life? These Points Will Help You With That.
“What the hell am I doing with my life?”
“Why don’t I know what I want to do?”
“Why is it so hard to figure out what I need to do with my life?”
Are you relating to these above questions? If yes, then you are definitely not alone.
At some point in your life, these questions must have popped in your head. Don’t be afraid or worried because you are not the only one who has been tortured with them. The majority of us have gone through this phase.
In fact, most of us have. You are less likely to encounter someone who has everything figured out about their life.
It is common for people to come across a point in their lives where they find themselves questioning this thing. You might feel lost or disoriented from the initial decisions you made to head on in your life.
Now, you don’t know anymore what you actually want. You may have thought while making those decisions, that this was the right thing for you or you want that thing.
Or maybe you never really gave it proper thought or thought it through and thus are now regretting this decision. Reasons could be endless.
No matter what you are or what your age is, you can face this stage at any given time of your life. You can go through this while making career decisions, or someone with an established job while being a mother, or a person who is soon to retire.
It can happen at literally any given time. And all this time they only want to evaluate the answer to the question of what they are doing with their life or what they can do with their life.
The following points are going to help you with the solutions to this dreading question and make you feel focused again. It will help to make clear decisions and not feel lost.
Make Peace
The first and foremost step towards the solution is to accept and make peace with the fact that you do not know what you are doing or what you want to do with your life.
Remember, it is okay to feel confused and lost because you don’t know what is going to happen next. You cannot predict future happenings. So stop stressing yourself with the things that are out of your control.
What you can do is to live in the present; at the moment as much as you can. It will make your life more interesting and enjoyable. Invest yourself in the things you actually like and enjoy.
Keep pursuing your hobby or passion. Who knows, by your perseverance, it might actually grant you success. It may become the very thing that you were meant to do from the beginning. And if not, it may become a side hustle or passive income generating source. You will always have a backup.
Adjust To Discomfort
There are going to be moments in your life where you are not the most comfortable. You will not have the required money to get the comforts or possession you need or desire for. But there will be something you can do to pursue things you really want, even with some amount of discomfort.
Life is not the same or fair to everyone and you need to accept that fact. You see people every day struggling with so many things just to survive, don’t you? Because they strive hard to bring in the necessities for them even with so much labor. You can do that too.
Things may not be the exact way you have imagined them to be. But that doesn’t mean that everything is bad or it is the end.
Remember, it could be a bad day but not a bad life. If you get to pursue your dreams or the things you wished so badly to have in the end, then all the discomfort is worth suffering for.
Uncertainty
The future is not in your hands and neither can you predict it. You won’t be able to completely figure out things about the future and neither can control it. Everything is too uncertain in life. All you can do is to prepare yourself to deal with it as best as you can.
You may feel like “yes, I have it all figured out” and the next moment something happens that is so much out of the context you have had in your mind. One moment you had everything and the next you are left empty-handed.
It happens and you are certainly not the only person to go through such things. This is not in your control. You would be depressed and questioning things as to what you have done to deserve this? But you must not allow yourself to wallow in self-pity and stop living.
Maybe it could turn into a blessing in disguise if you change your perspective towards it. Maybe it can be a perfect opportunity for you? Besides, it is never too late to start over in life.
Overcome Difficulties
If there is a thing that you need to achieve in your life at any cost then you must be ready to do anything to get it. Isn’t it? Your greatest wish needs to be fulfilled by you and only you.
For that, you need to do hard work and overcome every distraction and difficulty. You are not going to get anything if you don’t get started right away.
The more you delay in taking actions the farther away from the opportunity to achieve your dream will be. If you are serious about something then you need to show that through your acts. Be it a career option, a thing, or a person you are pursuing. Just go for it right this moment.
Introspect
Self-awareness is extremely important to know what you actually want to do in life or what you want from it. If you don’t know about what you are, what type of person you are or what personality you have, what are your interests, what is your passion, etc.
All these questions are really very important to decide your path in life. You need to introspect about yourself to find what your next step would be.
You can start by finding all the answers to the above questions. Then you can try things like meditation, writing things about yourself, exploring new things in order to know what you actually like and want.
You are also building strong measures for dealing with the challenges you are going to face in the future for achieving your dreams. Because you are going to be sure about yourself then you will also be prepared as to how you will be facing your problems and solve them.
Experience
If you want to do something or some work, but are not sure about it then you can try this. By volunteering for that work or observing someone else do that work, you can clear your mind about the job and if you would like to do that. It will be like a trial experience to make a correct and final decision about your job.
No matter how much you internalize about the thing you are not going to be hundred percent sure about it unless you try it yourself. It happens sometimes that you are very confident about something but end up not liking it. But also, on the contrary, you do not want to do a thing or work but that turns out to be your true calling.
So, it will make you clear your mind for that work. It is like interning for that work. You are even adding that work experience that may help you in your future endeavors. Getting practical experience for any work is always the best option to decide what to do next.
Take Advice
As stated before, you are not the only one going through this or have been through such a phase. There have been thousands of us to have experienced this. And there is more of a chance than you realize that someone has experienced the exact same thing as you. So there is a chance that you will relate to that person and with their situation like yours.
So seek their knowledge and make better use of that. You don’t have to put your hands on fire in order to know that it will burn you. It is not always necessary to experience something yourself to know its consequences. You can learn so much from others' experiences.
Especially, if there and your situations are similar or the same. There still will be chances that things that worked for them may not work for you but it is surely better to learn and be cautious than making yourself expose to more damage.
We have biopics for a reason. Those are not just for entertainment purposes, but we also learn from their life experiences. Or reading someone’s autobiography can do the same things for you. You might get enlightened on what to do based on their life experiences.
Or know how to tackle the problems and difficulties they have faced. All these real-life stories can motivate and inspire you to your own life path.
Or you can find and ask someone present in your life if they have experienced these things in their life as well. And if yes, what steps they took to overcome them? And what were the consequences they have got with those steps? There will be so much to learn and know from other’s experiences that you will be amazed by the knowledge.
Financial Resources
If you are going to change your approach completely or whether you want to pursue something else, then inevitably you will be needing finances for that. Whatever you are going to do will cost you a fortune, more or less. So you got to save up and build a financial resource for that thing.
Besides, it will also need time to be fulfilled. So you need to give it time and have a backup for your endeavors. You would need to have proper planning and things ready for fulfilling your dreams.
You cannot just decide one day and up to go for it. You will need time and resources for that. You might also need some help from others. Whatever you are planning to do may require help from more than one person. Just have patience and work for it.
Grab the Opportunity
We all know that opportunities are really hard to come your way. So it is essential for you to identify them and grab them when it is the right time. Do not wait in hesitance and overthink.
When the opportunity knocks on the door you must open it, not keep it closed. Barely a handful of people get great opportunities in their lives once, let alone a second time.
Granted, sometimes it is not the right time. Yet it will not matter. Just go for it and things will naturally unfold if it is meant to be.
Conclusion
Life is a tough journey and it can only be rewarding when you have you find and achieve your purpose in life. If you follow these points then it will be more clear and you will know what you want. You will get all the answers to your “what's” in life.
Apart from all these points, you must keep trying things. These points will surely help you configure things for you, but they will not guarantee success in your first trial. So you might need to keep trying and gain experiences to make the final call until you are more than a hundred percent sure about what you want.
And it is more likely to try and fail than not even trying anything and regretting it in the end. And that regret will be really hard to bear.