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Compassion Vs. Empathy: Learn to differentiate between the foundation of a happy life

Compassion, empathy, sympathy, kindness, humanity, mercy, etc., are the emotions without these, a human is incomplete. These emotions make a person an actual human being. Otherwise, without the feelings and emotions, the human would have been robots.

You can see many people around you who are being unkind, disrespecting others, unsympathetic. And you don't like them at all.

Being a human, it is natural expected to be kind to every living thing on the planet. Let it be the other individual or the animal.

Some people are antisocial individual, as they deny or refuse to show compassion for other. Instead, such a person is harmful to society too. Based on this fact, you can imagine and understand how emotions are essential for living life.

One such emotion is compassion. People also call it empathy. But, are both the same?

If not, what is the difference between the two?

How are they essential for a happy life?

How are they connected with each other? And so on.

Well, you will get an answer to these questions in this article. So, don't forget to stick with it till it's the last word.

What is compassion?

Compassion is directly related with 'to suffer.' Even though compassion and empathy seem to relate, a thin thread differs between them.

Compassion is the feeling, arises when you feel involved with someone's feelings. And you automatically feel encouraged to reduce their pain.

If I have to define it in simple words, it is the emotion produced within you by another person's suffering. Let it be with someone suffering from something, and you hope for the end of that suffering. And you try to relieve it.

Compassion is 'to suffer with' literally. Whereas compassion doesn't allow anyone to avoid suffering. It involves the ability to feel the pain without the attachment.

Compassion demands a strong sense with a mind and soft heart. Compassion teaches you to wish good for everyone. You can not select true compassion based on any parameter.

According to the Buddhist tradition, compassion is related to Dukkha. Whereas, Dukkha refers to the struggle in life, pain, suffering, unsatisfactoriness, and unpleasantness. Suffering or Dukkha is one of the most popular and essential ideas of the Buddhist tradition.
"Compassion involves the strength to face dukkha, the wisdom to look into it deeply, and the resolve to respond to it in a way that brings relief," says Dr. Mark Muesee.

In the Hindi language, Dukkha refers to the unpleasant and suffering situations in our life. Whereas, as per Buddhist tradition, Dukkha is the grief to which compassion responds. And compassion is when you wish for someone to be happy.

The Buddhist tradition has also shown compassion as loving-kindness, which means goodwill and love. It refers to a wish for happiness for another person. Sympathy requires suffering. And compassion is hidden in Lovingkindness.

When loving-kindness hits suffering, it turns it into compassion. Simply, sympathy occurs when you start feeling the sadness as a response to their suffering with the same intensity of the grief.

"Wisdom without compassion is ruthlessness, and compassion without wisdom is folly," said Fred Kofman.

The difference between compassion and empathy

People consider empathy and compassion as the same. Even though they are the same up to some point, they are not exactly the same, anyway. Thus, it becomes essential to know the difference between these two emotions.

So, have a look at the factors that make compassion and empathy different.

Definition of compassion and empathy:

Empathy is a feeling that allows us to be aware of someone's pain. It makeup to try to feel the way that person is feeling. Empathy demands to be in their shoes to understand their feeling. Whereas,

Compassion is a sympathetic response to sympathy. And it creates a willingness to help others when they are suffering.

Empathy meaning:

Empathy is an emotion. It is set in your brain. And it makes you feel the pain of another person. It allows you to try to understand it in the same way they are feeling at the moment.

Some people are seen without empathy. Whereas some individuals are blessed to have this emotion. However, being empathetic is suitable for personal and professional health too. It makes people stay connected with each other emotionally.

Empathy makes someone understand their pain. Psychologists refer to such kind of empathy as cognitive or mindful empathy. Whereas, if the same person tries to feel another person's pain with the same intensity, it is referred to as emotional empathy.

Professor of Psychology at Yale University, Paul Bloom, an author of a book on the topic, writes, "Recent research in neuroscience and psychology shows that empathy makes us biased, tribal and often cruel."

Empathy can be biased. It allows you to feel sympathetic with the people you are related to. But this may not free you completely from understanding the feeling of a stranger.

Compassion meaning:

So, when compassion also sounds like empathy, what makes it different?

As empathy allows you to feel the same emotion, compassion creates a safe emotional distance from the awful situation.

"Careful reasoning mixed with a more distant compassion makes the world a better place," said Bloom.

Compassion can help you to improve your overall being.

A study about medical students was conducted at Emory University (as their work environment is stressful). It says that "compassion training can help medical students be more compassionate towards their patient, maintaining their well being, and limiting their stress level."

This is the fundamental difference between two identical emotions.

Why is compassion important?

Since a long time ago, many studies are done. And still, many researchers are doing their analysis on compassion.

If compassion is as simple as helping others relieve them from their suffering, why are researchers investing their time in studying it?

Seppala, Rossomando, and James say that "human behavior drives the social connection. And as, humans are the social personal; relationships are the most critical aspect of their life."

When you establish any relationship with someone, care and concern are the basic requirements. Kashdan, & Ciarrochi, later termed this concept as 'Perspective-taking.' Empathy plays a vital role in relationship building.

The essential fundamental aspect of any relationship is compassion and empathy as they trigger loving and kind behavior.

Not only this, but compassion in academics can also come up with a positive impact on the self-development of an aspirant.

Compassion is not only about showing care and concern for others, but self-compassion is equally essential for your well-being.

Unfortunately, you keep holding mistakes done by yourself. Maybe, for which you would forgive others. If you can forgive yourself for your mistakes, start moving back to yourself, your psychological health improves.

In fact, you should practice more about self-compassion as it is more beneficial than self-esteem. The reason behind it is, self-compassion improves your emotional strength. And it doesn't promote negative thoughts related to self-esteem, i.e., ego.

Compassion improves social relationships between children and adults. Social connection is essential for proper human functioning, increasing empathy, self-esteem, and well-being. Compassion increases happiness.

Compassionate love is also helpful for patients to survive, lower stress, and health satisfaction. It decreases anxiety.

Compassion-focused treatment is considered an effective therapy to aid patients. It helps them with their disorder treatment.

Also, by improving parent-child relationships, less negative affect, and more affection, compassion induce positive parenting. Whereas you can find various books and mindfulness-based parent training approaches to learn compassionate parenting. Within the classroom, empathy is associated with better learning.

Self-compassion also has many psychological benefits. Such as a lower level of psychopathology, and lower PTSD symptoms intensity, etc.

Self-compassion and optimism can benefit you for healing from depression together. It is also seen helping from reducing smoking.

You can see that compassion has a benefit in every aspect of your life. It can help you heal every element that can make your life beautiful.

Passion vs. compassion

Do you think passion and compassion are the same things? Let's check it.

What is Passion?

You might have heard this term many times throughout your life. Passion can be defined as the intense feeling of excitement and enthusiasm to do something.

Also, it can be a strong romantic or sexual feeling for someone. Let's try to find it out with some examples.

➣ Aashutosh has a passion for learning.

➣ Dancing is my passion.

➣ Rahul spoke with passion.

The above examples indicate the intense feeling of enthusiasm for something. Now, let's see the example for the second case.

They all are consuming passion for each other, leading to the destruction of two families.

Passion is an internal kind of feeling. You can say it is a feeling of self-centeredness. Passion is related to the wishes and desires of an individual.

It is inclined towards what a person usually wants for themselves, picking up their liking.

What is compassion?

Compassion, on the other hand, is a sympathetic feeling and a concern about other's suffering. Being compassionate would mean wanting to help others when seeing them in trouble.

The situations like death, disease, violence, poverty, unhappiness, or disability, can induce this feeling. So, compassion makes you feel like helping people who are suffering through such a situation.

Now, let's move towards the main difference between passion and compassion.

The difference between Passion & Compassion

Passion is a desire that can be seen with intensity. At the same time, compassion is a feeling of empathy, care, or charity. Yet, both can be considered as the same, depending on the time.

Level of intensity

Compassion is not passion. Compassion allows you to think about someone and care for them. It may produce a feeling of care. But it can not necessarily motivate you to take any action for it.

If a person sees someone hungry and feels sad for them, they can help them by buying food for them and donating some money for them.

Whereas, if someone is passionate about rescuing people from such a condition, they will not only think to help them for a moment. But they will try to resolve their problem forever.

Internal vs. external

The significant difference between passion and compassion is, passion aims towards self-satisfaction, whereas compassion targets other's happiness.

Passion is an internal feeling that turns into external action in the form of emotion. On the other hand, compassion is an inner feeling for others and can change into action for helping others.

Compassion is an external expression of emotions that may include in another person.

Commitment level

The commitment level is too high in passion as compare to compassion.

Passion is the intense feeling of enthusiasm towards something. It drives someone through many experiences. Passion can't get faded with time. A person with passion is committed to something or someone that makes them expressive of the situation repeatedly.

In the above example, the person who is passionate about helping hungry people will always take a stand for them. They will speak for their welfare. And act to aid them. Whereas someone who is compassionate can help such people twice or thrice. But this feeling can fade away with time.

One without other

Although it is said that compassion and passion are correlated, they both are independent. Passion is the beginning of caring emotion for someone or something. And it can intensify with time. It can never fade away.

Whereas this is not in the case of compassion. For example, you can see someone passionate about their job, but, absence of compassion later on.

Sympathy vs. Empathy vs. Compassion

Even if, sympathy, empathy, and compassion are like a synonym for each other, the meaning of each of them is far different than each other. And they can't replace by putting one for the other. With this preface, let's try to understand them one by one.

Sympathy refers to understand what a person is feeling.

Empathy refers, then you feel the same as of other person is feeling. Whereas,

Compassion is your willingness to help one who is suffering from pain.

Let's try to understand them one by one.

Sympathy

Feeling sympathetic would mean understanding what a person is feeling, whether it is happiness or grief.

Sympathy allows you to imagine what a person is undergoing through an emotion. It doesn't have to be grief only. It can be any of the feelings.

For example, if any of your friends have lost their close friends, and they are sad, you can imagine why they are feeling the emotion. And we often say, "I feel sympathetic about the news."

Empathy

Empathy is the emotion that arises when you see someone in pain. And you start feeling it. Researchers consider "mirror neurons" responsible for this action.

For example, if you saw my finger cutting with a blade badly, you also began to feel the pain. This is due to your mirror neuron has kicked in.

Well, in empathy, your imagination plays a vital role. If you can imagine the pain of a person, then only you also can feel it. That's why, to explain empathy, "put yourself in other's shoes" is a commonly used phrase.

With the previous example, even if you saw my finger is cutting with a blade. But until you imagine how it is hurting to me, you won't be able to feel it. You also can imagine my pain with my facial expressions.

Anyway, empathy can be felt when you see someone being happy and consider or imagine the intensity and reason for their happiness. So, overall, empathy is good for you.

Compassion

Compassion is the one step further of sympathy and empathy. You are feeling compassionate about something mean; you can understand someone's pain. You can feel it. And you want to help them to relieve from the pain.

In Latin words, compassion refers to "to suffer with."

When you feel compassionate about suffering, you can't run away from it. You can not feel stressed by suffering. And you can't refuse to show that suffering doesn't exist at all. Compassion allows you to be with suffering. It makes you being in someone's shoes and invests your time to find the solution for it.

Thupten Jinpa, Ph. D., who is the Dalai Lama's principal English translator and also an author of the program Compassion Cultivation Training, says that compassion is a process of four steps, viz.,

1. Awareness about suffering

2. Having a sympathetic emotional concern related to suffering

3. Wish to resolve the suffering

4. Ready to help to relieve the suffering

At the same time, they suggest, the participants need to learn mindfulness before learning the four stages. Until and unless you are present in the moment, you can't understand and feel the suffering.

Let's now move towards the difference between each of them.

Empathy vs. Sympathy

Empathy and sympathy seem like twins. And it is too difficult to differentiate them.

So, the basic difference between the two is, understanding the pain (sympathy) of someone and feeling their emotion like them (empathy). Being sympathetic is much easier than being empathetic.

Let me help you with an example. Suppose one of your friends has lost their mother. And you are not able to feel their pain.

However, you need to activate your cognitive mind and emotional sense to know and understand why your friend is sad. When you know their pain, make sure you let them know you are aware of their pain. If you go deeper and start feeling their pain, the sympathy will turn to empathy.

Empathy vs. Compassion

Coming to empathy and compassion, as empathy is one step ahead of sympathy, compassion is more further than empathy too. When you want to help someone, to relieve them from their suffering, you are feeling compassion.

Compassion is how someone's suffering has an impact on your well-being. When you constantly feel the pain of others, it gives you burnout. This happens in the case of health care workers, especially, and it is called empathy fatigue.

So, the best way to relieve the feeling of suffering coming from others is to offer your helping hand to take them out of their problem. And this is what compassion is all about.

Compassion and empathy are generated from the different regions of your brain. Thus, compassion can resist tenderness.

Taken from the book 'The Art of Happiness,' it says, "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion."

How to become a compassionate leader?

It has always been a long discussion over what skills are required to be a successful leader. Along with having empathy, one other quality that a leader must need is compassion.

Whereas compassion is not something someone is born with. But, anyone can develop it with excellent practice.

Every leader is expected to be empathetic. Where they are expected to understand and relate to the emotions of other teammates, which is a must, anyway, a compassionate leader can be a good ruler.

Thus, empathy and compassion come in the same box, which helps you to be a great leader. Luckily, you can improve compassion with small efforts and be a great leader.

Show your gratitude

Everyone wants to hear appreciation for the excellent work they do for the organization. When a leader makes an employee feel that they are an important part of the organization, it means a lot for an employee.

As a leader, when you show such signs to your teammates, you are simply showing kindness. And indirectly, you are earning loyalty, respect, and admiration of their people.

There are many ways through which a leader can show that they care; it can be guidance, support, or mentorship.

Simple praise shown by a leader makes a teammate feel appreciated. It can also have a great impact on the organization's growth.

Be positive

A great leader is the one who can bring positivity to their team at the time of unrest.

If you can inspire your team through flexibility, empowerment, kindness, and support, you can be a compassionate leader. The best way to do this is, be positive at any sort of time.

Ups and downs are common in an organization. But, as a leader, you need to know how to develop a positive mental attitude by saying uplifting words. And also how to make people feel positive and comfortable.

This way, you are opening the doors for your employees to come to you when they have anything to discuss with you.

This behavior also helps you creating people who want to work for you, not because of, what you serve, but for what you are.

Your treatment matters

As per the Harvard Business Review article, "Research suggests that the most effective way leaders can boost employee well-being is not through strategies and drives but day-to-day actions."

"For example, data from a large study run by Anna Nyberg at the Karolinska Institute shows that having a violent boss is associated with heart problems in employees. On the other hand, research about, the leaders who are encouraging, empathetic, and supportive have more enthusiastic and active employees."

Every employee indeed wants to be an essential part of an organization. And they keep working towards it. Even after their efforts, if a company doesn't make them feel an actual employee and doesn't care about them, it directly impacts its growth.

Lack of compassion can also contribute to health crises within an organization. Thus, being a leader, you should provide a resource that helps employees with their health care. It would help if you created an environment that allows them to show their best versions, as your leading way has a considerable impact on how the employee gets involved in the work.

Learn about your people

A great leader knows the difference between "I" and "We" within the organization. Being a leader, your aim and efforts should revolve around "We" and not "I."

A compassionate leader knows that "I" isn't helpful in any way for their organization. And when a leader starts considering the "We" factor keeping their egos aside, they start building another leader.

Compassion teaches you to end the journey from "I" to "We." And those, who know it, and started working on it, will definitely end up with a great result.

Be the bridge

No one likes a boss who only screams for order and asks for submission. Instead, everyone wants a leader who cares for their employees. In return, they also receive the same from their employees.

A true compassionate leader is never authoritative. Instead, they believe in influence. They encourage others, nor demand.

A compassionate leader is a guide. They are supportive and acknowledge efforts. They can combines efforts, talents, skills, and passion.

A product produced by a collaboration of a team is much better than made by a single person. You are a leader. It would help if you took care of this essential factor to create a collaborative environment within the organization.

Being a leader, you are the one people are dependent on up to some point. And you must be a bridge to connect your employees with the work. For this, you need to consider their skills and knowledge so that an organization can grow.

Lead with love and compassion

Leading with compassion and love is a winning game on many occasions. Luckily, you can learn and develop compassion with simple practices.

When you bring understanding to your work, you can bring up more wisdom within your team.

You only need to find out how to share respect, care, and appreciation with your team. You only will have to invest your time, energy, and focus into it.

What is more critical, empathy or compassion?

It is obvious to know, empathy is more critical than compassion. Compassion has the potential to bind us together.

Especially at the time of social unrest, compassionate leadership can only strengthen us as human beings. If compassion is missing, human beings come alone.

The hidden reality of empathy

No doubt, empathy is a foundational emotion that binds humans together. Instead, it unites them. Empathy is fire stimulating compassion.

On the other hand, empathy without compassion is dangerous. The reason for being hazardous is, empathy tends to identify your close ones and feel for them.

So, it creates biasedness inclining towards close ones only. Thus, empathy tends to make division rather than unity.

Empathy and compassion are identically different. They are the emotions that represent other areas of your brain. Thus, their nature is different.

When you be empathetic, you join someone with their suffering. But you can't think of helping them. Whereas, with compassion, you tend to help them.

As a leader, you need to know the difference between empathy and compassion. Because you have a huge responsibility to manage others effectively, have a look at the main difference between empathy and compassion.

Empathy drains, Compassion is regenerate

Indeed empathy gives you a chance to feel someone's pain and be a part of their suffering; this feeling can fade away with time.

Also, the emotions that you think being empathetic can turn to negative sentiments and experiences with time, which is harmful to your cognitive mind and your well-being.

Whereas compassion is solution-focused. Compassion tends to focus on the solution. It helps someone come out of their suffering, which is beneficial.

Instead of this, when you help someone, you feel happy and motivated to help them again.

Empathy divide. Compassion unite

Empathy makes you join those who are close to you in their suffering. You want to be present for them at any point in time.

At the same time, when the same situation occurs, and you have to help strangers, your brain sees it as a challenge and refuses to take effort on.

However, you tend to allow your in-group people more and deny to help out-group person, which creates divisiveness.

Compassion is social. And it tends to join people suffering, irrespective of their connection with you. You want to help them anyway.

The compassion doesn't see any identical relation with them, such as gender, age, religion, etc., but you are more likely to be a human to help them.

Thus, compassionate leaders work in the way to lift everyone, being unbiased with someone. They want to see everyone on the same level, earning equal worth.

Empathy is emotional. Compassion is intentional.

Emotions are unconscious. Thus, empathy is. Empathy originates in the emotional center of your brain, which is an automatic action of your brain.

So, there are bigger chances of it's been unconscious. And you are less aware of your thoughts and actions.

Conversely, compassion is more intentional that originates from the cognitive part of your brain.

Compassionate feelings and thoughts come out when they get filtered of consciousness. Which also mean that you are more aware of your action and can improve your decision with time.

Empathy is passive. Compassion is active.

Being empathetic can feel good to you and the other person, too, at first. But as empathy doesn't come with a solution. And it only tends to join someone in their suffering. It can later feel like stuck in the situation. Thus, empathy can also make you experience depressive symptoms.

Compassion, on the other hand, is more practical and solution-oriented. It doesn't only have emotions but an intention to help with resolution.

Compassion is beneficial for leaders to turn their inspirational ideas into action. Compassionate leaders are more likely to be decision-makers, getting things done and make them right.

Also, compassion can result in trust, team loyalty, and improved collaboration within the organization.

Conclusion

Till now, you might have thinking that compassion and empathy are the same. As they seem like cousins or synonyms. But, with this article, I hope you have got an idea that empathy and compassion are two different emotions. They are induced from the other parts of your mind, need further understanding, and had various benefits.

Compassion and empathy may seem like two peas in a pod, but they're more like cousins who share similar traits. While empathy lets you step into someone else's shoes and feel what they're feeling, compassion takes it a step further. It's like empathy with a mission – you not only understand their pain but also want to do something about it.

Think of it this way: if your friend tells you they're feeling down because they failed a test, empathy is when you understand how they feel and maybe even feel sad alongside them. But compassion is when you not only understand but also want to help them study for the next test or cheer them up with a movie night.

Now, why does all this matter? Well, imagine a world where everyone only cared about themselves and their own problems. It'd be pretty lonely, right? That's where compassion and empathy swoop in to save the day. They're like the glue that holds us all together – helping us understand each other, lending a hand when needed, and making the world a little less lonely.

But here's the thing: while empathy is great for understanding others, compassion is where the real magic happens. It's like the superhero version of empathy – swooping in to save the day with acts of kindness and understanding. And the best part? Anyone can be a compassionate superhero with a little practice.

So, how can you unleash your inner compassion superhero? Start small. Show gratitude to those around you, spread positivity like confetti, and be a shoulder to lean on when someone needs it. By leading with love and compassion, you'll not only make the world a better place but also inspire others to do the same.

Now, you might be wondering: why is compassion more important than empathy? Well, think of it like this: empathy is like a flashlight that helps you see in the dark, while compassion is the guiding light that leads you out of the darkness. Sure, empathy lets you understand others, but compassion empowers you to take action and make a real difference in their lives.

Plus, compassion is like a superpower that unites us all. It doesn't care about age, race, or background – it's all about lending a helping hand to anyone who needs it. And in a world that can sometimes feel divided, compassion is the secret sauce that brings us all together.

So, the next time you're faced with a choice between empathy and compassion, remember this: empathy lets you see the world through someone else's eyes, but compassion lets you change it for the better. And in a world that could always use a little more kindness, compassion is the currency that truly makes the world go 'round

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Once there was a farmer who used to sell 10 kg of butter to a shopkeeper. He has become the regular seller of the shopkeeper. One day the shopkeeper thought of measuring the butter, whether the farmer gives him the correct quantity or not. So, after buying the butter, the shopkeeper measures the butter and found that it was less than 10 kg.

The shopkeeper takes the farmer to court. The judge asks the farmer," why did you cheat the shopkeeper. Instead of giving him the correct measurement, which alias used to provide him with less quantity."

The farmer replied that he doesn't have anything to measure the quantity. He only has one measurement using that; he gives the butter to the shopkeeper.

Judge asked the farmer, "what is it?"

The farmer replied, "I purchase 10 kg of bread from the shopkeeper. And, in the same container, I put butter in it and sell it to the shopkeeper."

He continues, "if he has found the butter, less than 10 kg, he might have sold be the bread less than the right quantity."

The Morel: You might have heard that you give will come back to you for sure. I don't know in what form, but you will get it anyway. If you give respect, you wi be respected. You give grief; you will receive sadness. This story is the best example that proves; Every action has equal and opposite reactions.

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will. Vince Lombardi

One day, in a seminar, the host ask 150 people to play a game. First, he asks them to pick up a balloon and write their name on it. When the people do it, the host asks them to go into a room and drop their balloon in the empty space.

The people return to him, dropping their balloon. Then the host asks the same group to go to the room and take their balloon and come back here. Everyone goes to the room and looks for their balloon. While looking for the balloon, there push other people aside, go over them, and through others balloon aside from them.

They were asked to come back in two minutes. And after the time is done, everyone returns with an empty hand. The host again asks the same group to go to the room, pick up a random balloon, and return it to the balloon's owner. After two minutes, everyone returns with their balloons in their hand.

The host says, "this is what we do in real life also. We keep aside other's happiness to look for ourselves. But we forgot that if you can't make others happy, you can be satisfied too. "

The Morel: The secret of happiness is, be helping to others. Find your joy in other's happiness. When you give a smile to other's faces, you will ultimately get a reason to smile. You don't have to run for joy when you help others. And, success can be achieved in the same way. By helping others and taking others together, you can get win only.

I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan

There was a company, who's boss was so strict, and employees didn't like him at all. One day, when all the employees come to the office, they see a notice on the door, "the one who was holding you back died yesterday. Please gather in the seminar hall for condolences."

Reading this notice, every one of them thinks that the boss dies. They feel so sad. And everyone started moving to the auditorium. When they enter the hall, they see the boss sitting on the chair fit and refined and a coffin placed in front of him. Each one of them was shocked, who is died then.

One by one, everyone comes to the coffin and sees inside it. But, when they looked inside the coffin, everyone was shocked. As, inside the coffin, there was a mirror only where they saw their own images.

Besides the mirror, there was a letter, "The person who was holding you back is you. There is no other person in the world who can hold you back rather than you. You are the biggest speed breaker for your success. Unless and until you understand this fact, you can't get success."

The Morel: The one who is the doer is you for yourself. You can make you successful and unsuccessful at times. No one can hold you at any sort of time.

Only you can keep you and release you to do something extraordinary. Don't put limits on yourself. Be limitless. You have the best relationship with you. If people are blaming you, making fun of you based on your efforts, it means you are logging at some point. So, don't blame others for their perception of you. As somewhere you have given them a reason to think like this.

Once, there was a man who was so intelligent. People know him and their work. And they used to appreciate him due to his works. He used to calculate and study every single thing that he was doing. Then, one day, he notices that his shoes are going to tire soon. He realized that he had worked so hard, and as a result, his shoes will be split into two parts.

He decided to buy a pair of shoes. So he thinks of going online and looking for the shoes that are best suited for him. Meanwhile, he also believes that what if he bought the wrong pair. So, he wanted to be sure before purchasing the shoes. So, he takes off all the books that he was appreciated the most. And after too much research, he finally reaches the solution that how he needs to buy shoes.

He makes all the measurements using the scales. On the next day, he went to the shop and selected a pair of shoes. But then he realized that he had forgotten the scale at home. So he goes back home, but he realized that his boots are torn. And he has to walk to the house barefoot.

In a school, one camp was organized for the students. The counselor comes to the auditorium and asks students to share their experiences that have hurt them badly.

One of the students stood up and said that one of his friends says something to him that had hurt them so badly. And, they can not forget what their friend has told them.

Then the counselor puts up the chalk and breaks it into two parts. Then they ask the students whether anyone can join it back and make it like before. Everyone says no.

Then the counselor says, "like, you can not join this chalk back, and make it like before, you can not take your words back. Your words are the most powerful. So, use it wisely. It may give you an injury severe than any of the weapons."

The Morel: We can not live without talking with each other. Being in a conversation, words are the most important things that help have a good relationship and bond. Conversely, if you use the wrong words, your most robust relationship can be faded away.

Right words heal, where bad words injure you the severe. You can't take the terms back. Once you said something that could hurt the feelings of somebody, your 100 times "I'm sorry" can't make it right. Take some time to think before you utter a word. You should know what to speak and when to speak. As if you learn to speak wisely, you are successful.

Success is achieved and maintained by those who try and keep trying. W. Clement Stone

Once, there was a Carpenter who was nearby his retirement. He goes to his boss and informs him about his retirement. The boss got sad, as the carpenter was one of the best employees he had ever.

The boss asked the carpenter to build the last house for him before his retirement. Though the man didn't want to do it, he agreed to do so. And he started working in it. He was such an experienced and knowledgeable person. But, as it was his last house, who doesn't take too much effort, uses average interiors, and so on.

When it gets ready, he gives the key of the house to the boss, and the boss provides access to the carpenter's return, saying, " it is the gift for you from my side."

The carpenter thinks that if the world has known that it is for him, he would have taken the double efforts and gave a quality product.

The Morel: We often save our energy for the next day, which we don't know, what and how it will be. This story teaches us to give 100% at the moment. You waste your time giving excuses and then complaining about the outcome. If you don't give your best, how can you get the best?

Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming. John Wooden

In a classroom, a professor asks a student to come forward. When he comes out, the professor asks him to put his hands on a level outside his body alignment. When he does it, he puts two books in his hands. And ask the student if it is heavy or not. The student says it's very light.

After 5 minutes, the professor again asked the student if it is heavy or not. The student again replied the same. Then, the professor gets busy interacting with the class. After 15 minutes, the professor repeats the same question. This time, the student replied, he is feeling muscle pain. Then the professor asked him to go back to his seat.

The professor explains that if the boy had held the book for 1 hour, he might feel keeping the heaviest thing. But, if he holds the book for a day or the week, his hand may feel paralyzed and numb.

Similarly, the book refers to the stress and worries in your life. If you hold them for few minutes, that's ok. Buy, if you have them for much time, it will give you pain, mentally and physically. It will help if you let go of them as soon as possible. Otherwise, they will paralyze your brain.

The Morel: If you can't hold your happiness for longer, why do you carry your stress everywhere you go. It will give you nothing but sadness and more anxiety. Let go of your tension. Don't carry them everywhere. Free up your mind so that they can have a space for new ideas.

Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. Bruce Lee

There was an older man who had five sons. The man was rich, but he was old now. His sons always used to fight with each other. And, the man was so stressed due to this behavior of his son. Now, their fight was raised before ever, and the people around them used to make fun of them for fighting all the time.

One day, he gets sick. He wanted his son to be united before he died. So, he calls his sons and says, "dear, if you do what I will ask you to do, in less time, you will get the rewards for it." Everyone gets agreed.

Now the man gives each one of them a bundle of 10 sticks to break and asks them to divide it into two half. Whoever will do it in less time will be the winner. So, the sons started breaking the sticks and finish the task in very little time. But, now, they again began to fight, who did the first.

The man says, "the task is not finished yet." He again gives a bundle of 10 sticks to each one of them and asks them to beak it in one go rather than to break them individually. After many tries, no one can break it. And the admission that they are failed.

Once, there was a king who was so helpful. He has a person in his kingdom who was so clever. And the king used to admire the person the most.

One day, the king and the person goes the riverside. They were talking and discussing some severe topic.

Meanwhile, the king draws a line on the coast of the river and asked the man to reduce the length of the line without touching it or wiping it. After thinking for some time, the man draws an extensive line aside from the last line and tells the king that his line is shorter.

The King gets pleased with the man again.

The Morel: Try to look for the options around you. If you keep yourself closed in a box, don't let yourself breathe in the air, you won't be able to survive. Put yourself in extreme conditions to know your capabilities. Make your mind living. Think out of the box.

Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success. Swami Vivekananda

A man used to walk his dog every day in the morning. Every week he was noticing a woman nearby a lake. Week after week passed by. And then he finally goes to the woman asked, " would you mind if I ask, what do you do here every week?"

The woman had a cage beside her, three turtles on her lap, and the fourth one in her hand; she was wiping with a sponge.

She smiled and replied, "I'm cleaning the argue and scum that grows upon the turtle's shell as it would reduce their ability to soak heat and reduce their swimming capacity. It so can get corrode and got weaken with time. I do it every weekend."

The man smiles and says, "But do you think you are making a huge difference? As there are not so many people in the world who do this. And the other turtles may be living with the algae and scums."

The women replied, "if these turtles were talking, they would say, I'm making a huge difference."

The Morel: You may not change the world, but you can change someone's life. You may not matter for the world, but it might be the world for someone. Only because you can't change the world doesn't mean you shouldn't try to help people. You might never know; your small help can make a huge difference in someone's life.

Success is sweet and sweeter if long delayed and gotten through many struggles and defeats. Amos Bronson Alcott

Two kids, a boy, and a girl, were playing on the ground afternoon. First, the boy shows the girl his collection of the pabbles, which was too beautiful. Then the girl also shows him her collection of candies.

They both make a deal of exchanging this collection. The girl gives her all the candies to the boy. Boy gives all of his pabbles to the girl. But, he keeps one of the most beautiful and big stones to him, without her knowledge. And they both were so happy.

In the night, the girl was so happy that she has got a perfect collection. And she goes to sleep thinking about the pabbles. But, on the other hand, the boy could not sleep, as he thinks, if the girl has also put some candies on her, as he did.

The Morel: What you give, that you take. Whatever the relationship is, trust is essential. If one is cheating, he will always think that the other person is also cheating him. As you believe, you grow up. So, think positive. Be honest. It is the ultimate secret to your success.

Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek. Mario Andretti

Once a boy asks an old man, "what is the secret of success?" The man told the boy that to meet him on the riverside the following day.

The boy gets ready and goes to the riverside the following day to meet the older man. The man and the boy started walking through the river till the boy's nose ducked in the water.

Now, the older man punches the boy's head inside the water and doesn't let him come up. The boy struggles a lot to come out, but the man pushes him in the opposite direction. The boy feels that a fish is swimming underneath his leg, and he tried to come up hard.

Now, the man pulls the boy and makes his breathing. And, asked him, "when you were inside the water, what did you want?" The boy replied, "The Air." Yeah, this is the secret of success.

Until and unless you want success, like wanting air, you can not achieve it.

The Morel: The desires give birth to Success. If you want to be in the pot, just because you can, you won't be able to get success. On the other hand, if you desire success as essential as the air, you will definitely go to get it.

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way. Robert Kiyosaki

Once, a leader in a seminar hall shows the audience of 200 people a $50 pouch. Then he asked them, " who wants this pouch?" And everyone raises their hand in the air.

He said, "I will give this money to any one of you. But before that.....he asked one again, who wants the pouch?" And again, everyone agreed.

Then he tried to make as much money as possible as it hardly looks like wasted tissue paper. And, he again asked the audience whether they want it or not. And, everyone again agreed to have it.

The Morel: No matter how challenging your life is, how challenging the situation is, your life and the worth of your life don't decrease. Often you might face the case where you feel inadequate but remember your worth. And be proud of it. As if you value yourself, the world will love you.

You don't have to be a genius or a visionary or even a college graduate to be successful. You just need a framework and a dream. Michael Dell

Once, in a small village, there was a businessman who was having huge debts. And, he was not in the condition to return all his obligations to the bank. Moreover, the banker was an old and unappealing man who firmly wanted to marry that businessman's daughter.

One day, the business owner went to the banker and wanted to have a deal so that he doesn't have to pay the debts. Banker puts a condition of marrying his daughter. But, the business's owner didn't want to do that. But, he didn't have any choice to be debt-free as the debts were too huge to return.

He will put two stones in a bag, black and white. If the girl chooses the white stone blindly, the businessman's debts will be cleared, and the daughter will not have to marry him. And if she selects the black stone, she will have to marry him, and the debts will be cleared.

The banker picks up two black stones. The daughter was watching the banker from the window.

Once, A mommy camel and her newborn were turning in, soaking up the sun. The baby camel asked his mum, “Why are we with these large bumps on our back?”

The mammy thinks for some time and then said, “We are living in the desert where there is a shortage of water. Our humps reserve water to support us survive on long trips." The baby camel again questions, “Well, what is the use of these long legs with rounded feet?”

His mum answered back, “They are signified to enable us to walk through the sand.” The baby asked the third question, “Why are my eyelashes so long?”The mother answered, “Your long eyelashes you from sand when it hits in the wind.”

In the last, the baby asked, “if we all have the skills naturally to live our life, then what is the use of the Camels in Zoo?"

The Moral: It shows that your abilities won't have meaning until you use them. You might have heard about the persons, who have left their jobs to follow their dreams. Now, you have to decide, you either want to do your job only, or to live your dream. Maybe your plan gives you a struggle initially. But, it would help if you had the confidence that you will make a change. Think big, keep growing.

All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure. Mark Twain

Once, there was a king. One day, he thought of experimenting on these people. So, he put a massive rock in the middle of the road, and hide nearby to see, what people do seeing the stone on the road.

After waiting for some time, he sees some wealthy merchants passing by. They walk by the rock, blaming the king that is not doing his duties. Then after some time, a peasant goes by the same way.

He had some heavy stuff over his head. Seeing the rock in the middle of the road, he stopped and tried to move the rock sideways.

It takes some time for him to clear the road, but he does it and goes back to his work. The next day, the same thing happens, but this time, there was a change.

He saw a sag filled with gold coins with a letter saying, "It is the reward for your work you did yesterday." It was the king who placed the sag for his work.

The Morel: Don't complain about things. Take action to make a change. You have the strength to challenge situations that look tough. So, go ahead, and challenge the challenging situation. Also, karma comes back. So, if your karma is good, you will get a good reward and vice versa.

Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds. Orison Swett Marden

A long time ago, a man was living at $99 social insurance bills, at the age of 65, in a small house. Even at the age of 65s, he wanted to do something to change his life. He was thinking about what he should do so that he can change his life. And, he had an idea. He thought of the selling fried chicken recipe that his family and friends loved.

With the thought, he leaves his home and visits various restaurants to sell his recipe. But he fails. He gets around 1009 Nos. He was also ready to give it for free, but no one agreed. In the last when he visited 1010 restaurants, he spawns a Yes.

His name is Colonel Hartland Sanders. And, the rest of the history, you know.

The Moral: This story gives you too many lessons. First is, it's never too late for a start. In the society of younger strength, Colonel Sanders has set an example; age is just a number. The second is belief in yourself. Have confidence in yourself. The third is consistency: one story, many lessons.

Success isn't measured by money or power or social rank. Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. Mike Ditka

Once, there was a seminar in an auditorium. The host asked people, "how many of you are moved on with your past?" Very few hands were raised. Then to change the environment, he cracks the joke, and everyone started laughing.

Then, the guy cracks the same joke for the second time. This time, very few people laugh. Then, he again cracks the joke. This time, no one laughed.

Then, he explains that if you can laugh at the same trick, why do you complain and stuck with your past?

Going back in the past and again and thinking about the past can't be the solution for any of the problems; it will not assist you with anything, anyway.

The Morel: People in this world are so happy and comfortable with their past. They keep complaining about the same and don't want to see the present and the future. Instead, they should learn to deal with the situation and start looking at every moment in a new way.

There are people who make things happen, there are people who watch things happen, and there are people who wonder what happened. To be successful, you need to be a person who makes things happen. Jim Lovell

Once, a man was coming to an elephant camp. He notices that all the elements were tied with a single rope, and it was tied in a leg only. Every elephant had the same situation. He got confused, so he goes to one of the trainers there.

He asks the trainer, "why the elephants are not breaking the rope and trying to get free. When they easily can do it. They have enough of the strength to do this."

The trainer replies to the man, "when the elephants were small, the rope was enough to hold them. The elephants are tied with the same rope from their childhood to adulthood. But, today also, the elephants think that they can't break the tope, and thus they don't try to do this."

The Morel: In the story, the elephants have made their opinions that they can't get through the situation when they easily can do it. They are stuck ad their past condition and don't even try to deal with the states with the new attitude.

The same thing applies to the human. If they have made any past mistakes, they think they should not repeat the situation without pain and failure.

Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally. David Frost

Once, a man came to know about a mine, where he was supposed to find the diamonds. He worked so hard for so long, quitting all his works.

After some time, it was so tiresome for him to continue his mining. And, he left the work. After some days, another man came to know about the incident. And he decides to keep the mining continue from where the first man leaves the work. As soon as he started, in two-three days, he gets the diamond.

The Morel: We learn here that never give up on anything. You might never know; the success could be just in front of you after some steps more.

Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. Booker T. Washington

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