“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
Looking for a good life? Then don’t let other people bring you down. Nobody or nothing can hurt you if you don’t let them in. Life can be uncomplicated when you don’t let other people hurt you.
I understand that it could not always be possible. We are surrounded by all kinds of people. Some people are good. Some people like to make other people stay happy and positive. Meanwhile, there are people who enjoy making our day miserable. But we can do one thing to handle them. Ignore and move on with our work.
Initially, it may be difficult. It’s natural that we get angry, we intend to react and somehow we do nothing about it. The mistake we make here is ‘taking the emotions personally’. Don’t do it, guys! It’s not worth the time.
Unless you let them in, no people and no emotions can hurt you. For that, you need some good headspace. Be in a good headspace that is positive. Train it to focus on what’s important and what’s good. Don’t let other people and their negativities get into your headspace. It’s not worth your time, energy, and mind.
The quote doesn’t mean to shut people out. It means that, even if you allow people to, don’t allow their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors affect you. Don’t let them get to you.
Don’t let their negativities hurt you.
If you need some words on how to handle life, here it is. Accept people but don’t give permission to let them hurt you.
As long as you ‘don’t allow’ and ‘don’t create’ space for it, nothing can hurt you.
“May your choices reflect your hopes, and not your fears.” - Nelson Mandela
Take your life decisions based on what you love and what you hope to get. Don’t choose your decisions or make choices out of fear.
The choices we make can impact our life for good and bad. When we make those choices to reflect our ideas, hopes and towards our dreams, life becomes positive. Instead, if you direct your life choices bases on your fears, you will remain scared more. Clarity & Contentment goes out if the decisions I make are out of my fears and confusion.
In hope of good financial stability, take choices. Save yourself some money. Hoping to have a good family for yourself, then make choices accordingly. If you are hoping to get a good education, you will make choices accordingly. In better hopes, take your life’s choices and decisions.
What happens if we take our life's decisions and choices based on fear? You will stop somewhere in life unsure of what to do.
I agree. We all experience fear at one point. We may feel like ‘What if it happens’, 'We don’t know what might happen’, ‘what if things go entirely wrong’ etc. These confusion and fear will cloud our judgments and make us take bad decisions.
Taking decisions or making choices out of 'fear of losing', 'getting embarrassed' or 'What if I fail' is not the right approach to consider in your life.
Look for what you want in life and make the choices in that hope. It works great.
Life is a bag of hope and positivity. There’s no place for fear and negativities.
So, take your life choices based on your hopes and not fears.
“The ultimate measure of man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
- Martin Luther King
Convenience and comfort don’t reveal character. It is in desperate times, one truly identifies one’s true character. It applies to the good and the bad. Same way, we can identify the good and bad people in life when you are met with difficulties and challenges.
We may not know how capable we are until there're some challenges waiting for us. We would be astonished to see the changes inside us after life’s turbulences.
The measure of any individual is in how good they are in the light of troubles and challenges. It doesn’t end here. The stand we take during difficult times also reveals our measure.
Where we stand despite what’s happening in life is important to assess ourselves.
You can change for the good or for the bad. In the same way, you can either take a stand or stay put. Normally, it wouldn’t be a matter. But in challenging and difficult times, the stand you take and the shades you pick a matter.
What if a person takes a bad side or bad stand? Whatever they did before will not matter. What they did today will matter. So if they choose badly, it means everyone will know who they were inside all this time.
What if a person understands what’s right and takes the stand? Whatever bad they did in the past can be undone with a good deed they chose today. We will know who the person truly is on the inside.
True-Character reveals itself at some point!
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow'."
~ Mary Anne Radmacher
Courage is not always in big acts. The thought about ‘To try again’ is the courage that roars by being silent.
You can easily quit. Or, you can say that ‘I don’t know. I am not sure about doing it again’. But, when you chose to try again tomorrow, you are already on top. This is a courage that sizes top mountains to a pebble. It’s not an exaggeration,, but the truth.
Courage can move mountains. Courage comes from self-confidence, faith, and self-belief.
We can see courage in little acts. To try again, to learn again and to pursue again and again is the biggest courage. The beauty is, this courage happens silently within us.
Outside, it may look all quiet. On the inside, the courage keeps your heart and spirit alive with a fire burning inside.
Boasting is not courage. To silently carry on inaction is courage. Courage doesn’t speak or roar. It’s a silent spirit that keeps the fire in us alive and burning.
Courage is not always about dreams, goals, and finishing tasks. Apart from the big, courage is found in small acts in everyday life.
Just getting through the day 'Productively' and 'Peacefully' is courage in a way. To say to yourself that you will be better tomorrow is courage.
To accept mistakes takes courage. To come out of it by trying again reveals the height of courage we have inside our hearts.
Courage is in all walks of life. It is happening every day silently inside every heart.
"The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same." -- Colin R. Davis
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Be Yourself. Your life’s greatest achievement is in staying who you are. Situations, people, challenges in life can all change you. But, don’t let your core change. Keep your inner spirit alive no matter what the world demands. That’s a true accomplishment.
We are constantly torn between ‘being ourselves’ and ‘being what others want us to be’. Stay true to yourself.
You need to be aware of four categories of people.
First, we have a set of people good at judging and reviewing others' life personally and professionally. We can see people who shut themselves off because of such people’s opinions.
Second is a category of people who keep giving suggestions, opinions, and ideas for other peoples to follow.
The third is a category of people who think they know what’s better for the other person.
Fourth is a set of people who are very good at convincing that our decisions are wrong. They are sneaky enough that we don’t recognize how they are bringing us down.
Not capitulating to their words, overcoming everyone and still being ‘yourself’ is truly an achievement. You can take genuine opinions and suggestions that people say. Make sure you don’t change yourself for the sake of others.
When the world forces you to change, don’t leave your faith, optimism, and courage. Don’t change when people say you are not good enough.
Being yourself is not letting the good in you go away after all life’s turbulences.
It’s great when you are still being yourself, after all, you have been through!
“It is the hopeful, buoyant, cheerful attitude of mind that wins. Optimism is a success builder. Pessimism is an achievement killer.”
- Orison Swett Marden
Optimistic people are a delight to be with. They stay happy, positive, cheerful and buoyant in life. Success becomes easy for them. Pessimistic people can even drag us into their negative space too.
We inspire positive people. The positive energy they exhibit is contagious to those who are around them. It exudes visibly. People feel light, happy and refreshed being with them. That is the power of optimistic and cheerful people.
What’s so special about optimistic people is that they look for the silver lining. They look towards hope. They believe in themselves. They try to stay cheerful to keep their spirit up in times of hardships. That is why optimistic people are a little extra than regular people.
Optimism is the true success builder irrespective of talents, skills, and goals. If there’s no positivity and cheer in you, how fast can you get up after failures? Think about it.
I can easily look at the negatives and find faults. I can easily quit.
But you know what is difficult? To 'keep going' and to 'stay positive'.
To keep the spirits up and stay cheerful is difficult. This is optimism. It’s true strength. It is what makes people strong.
Pessimistic people can easily drag people to their negative space. Stay away from people who look at everything in life with a negative shade.
This World is filled with optimistic and cheerful people. They are keeping this world alive. Let’s be cheerful and positive.
"Service to others is the rent you pay for your room on earth."
– Mohammad Ali
If you are looking for a happy, meaningful life, then remind yourself of these words. Give what you can. Help with what you can. This is a wonderful service that we can do on earth.
Let me remind the truth here. Earth is a place for everyone and not just for me. Earth is also a place where few people have what You and I have.
The noblest thing that You and I can do to make it better is by giving. Let’s give what we can with what we have. Even if it is little, help is help.
Here’s a simple thing. Planting a tree is a service that we can do that helps you and helps others. It’s a wonderful rent that you can pay for your room on earth.
You need not offer any big service. Just do what you can. Help is ‘Help’ no matter the size.
We often take everything for granted. We feel like we deserve the world. That’s fine. How about others who don’t have privilege like you? They deserve the world like us too, right? The best solution for it is to do things that we can and give what we can to make people’s life better.
Life becomes a meaningful circle when we give and help. Even if it’s the least possible service that we can do for others, let’s do it.
Giving is the wonderful rent that we all can pay for our room on earth!
“Never speak out of anger, never act out of fear, never choose from impatience, but wait... and peace will appear.”
~ Guy Finley
How do you win your day and your life? The answer is simple.
Don’t speak when you are angry.
Don’t direct your outcomes in life based on fear.
Don’t act out of impatience.
"Pause before you speak. Wait before you decide. And, when you are angry, don’t even wait. Just shut yourself down. Take decisions later. It’s winning."
If faced with a difficult situation in a place, or in your life, do three things. Give a pause. Compose yourself. Wait till you feel a sense of peace and calm in your mind and heart. Finally, do what has to be done. The results will have clarity, and the process will be productive.
Same way, do not allow fear taking you over. Acting out of fear leads to bad outcomes. The entire process becomes unproductive. If you let fear get in your way of life, what you built so far can easily come down.
What happens with impatience? Nothing productive has ever come when you choose from impatience. Tolerance and patience are basic virtues that everyone in life needs. Somehow we forget it on the way and make people’s life difficult with our act of impatience.
Don’t act out of anger, impatience, and fear. Pause. Bring peace. Finally, act.
Take the variables of money, status, power, success, etc. out of the life’s equation. What is left out is the true winning. What makes you wonderful on the inside is the true victory you need in life.
By nature, we tend to speak our own language. Whatever makes us feel loved is what we do for the other person. But if it is not his/her language, it will not mean to them what it means to us. - Gary Chapman, Things I wish I knew before I got married
“Time and health are two precious assets that we don’t recognize and appreciate until they have been depleted.”
~ Denis Waitley
We all have heard about ‘Time and tide waits for none’. Same way, health doesn’t wait for none. If you don’t tend to it, it will not wait until you do it.
We chase life at the cost of health. The time we sit back and In retrospect, we could have already done enough damage to it.
Remember that there is a success by compromising your health and happiness. People consider health as something you have to ‘do’ like a routine in life. It’s not. Taking care of your health is a way of life.
Being healthy is the best way of seeing how life thrives and nourishes within us. Healthy living is a way of leading a happy life. The healthier you are, the stronger you become, enduring physical and mental challenges in life.
Appreciate health in the right moment. Start taking care of your health as early as possible. Start working on improving your physical and mental health. Have a healthy lifestyle that nourishes your mind, body and soul. By the time we sit back at age, let’s not think ‘I should have taken care of my health more’.
Time is another important life entity that we lose often and wish for more of it. If you have unfinished things, finish it today. Don’t wait for perfect timing. Don’t waste time.
An interesting thing is, we save money for the future. We cannot do the same with time. Spend it today, without wasting it. Time lost is Lost.
Spend time wisely. Start taking care of your health.
“What if you gave someone a gift, and they neglected to thank you for it, would you be likely to give them another? Life is the same way. In order to attract more of the blessings that life has to offer, you must truly appreciate what you already have.”
~ Ralph Marston
Experience life with gratitude! You will end up having more. What seemed less will now become enough for you.
True blessings will come pouring in when you appreciate little things in life.
Look at less fortunate people. You have everything that they only have it as a dream. It’s easy to say ‘life is not fair’, ‘I don’t have enough’ or ‘I don’t get enough’. What’s difficult is to look back and appreciate the blessings we have.
When you want success, inspired by such people. When you want happiness in life, look at those who don’t have privileges like you and appreciate life.
If I appreciate what I already have, I end up feeling content, satisfied and enough.
What is appreciating life? It’s not a big task. Appreciating life is simple. To wake up in the morning as you are is a blessing. The food on your table, the place for you to stay, clothes you have, is a blessing. There are people who don’t have even these basic necessities in life. Think about people who support you, a job that supports you, and the luxury you have in pursuing your dreams. These are things that you need to appreciate in your life. Few have this. Few cannot enjoy it even if they have it.
Take this quote as a practical example to live your life to the fullest.
“There are no great people in this world, only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet.” - William Frederick Halsey, JR.
Look at all people who are sitting on top of life. They all are ordinary people who keep growing with every obstacle and challenge they meet. Like us, they all have a humble start in life. They became Extraordinary through facing great challenges their way.
The courage and confidence one gains in encountering challenges in life makes them stronger than the rest of the crowd.
Don’t be afraid of challenges. Build yourself physically and mentally to endure any size of challenges that life throws.
What makes people extraordinary from the rest is in two things.
First, they do what they like. They pursue their ideas and goals despite all hardships. They stand for themselves. They stand for the right. The second and foremost reason is, they are ready to meet any challenge that comes their way. The hardest and toughest challenge made them extraordinary.
People who are strong-willed and positive spirit overcome tests and trials in life. They emerge as extraordinary inspiring individuals.
One can keep quoting examples of successful people, achievers in different fields and record-setting sports people. What is the common thing among them all?
They are ordinary people like you and me. An exception is, they differ in two things. They endure the toughest challenge and come out. They rise step by step with every encounter they meet in life.
The story of amazing people who have accomplished so far in life tells one truth. They are ordinary people like us. But they keep pushing themselves and rising to meet life in all its glory.
“In doing something, do it with love or never do it at all.” - Gandhi
Do what you like. Do it with love.
Do things you like and give your efforts out of your interest and not because of any compulsion or condition. This simple line has the biggest inspiration we all need.
You can also take it this way. Do it with all of your heart, or never do it at all.
Why such emphasis?
Things you do out of love and interest yield more happiness, content, and success. When you do things that you don’t love, it ends up making all your efforts go vain. When you do things that you don’t like or do it out of external factors, you don’t get the true success feeling.
It applies everywhere.
Want to help someone? Do it if you mean it and love to do it. Else, the essence behind ‘helping’ gets destroyed.
Want to achieve success in life? Do things you like and do it with love and interest in it. If there is no passion, there are only poor results.
Don’t work on your dreams and goals if they don’t interest you or you don’t like them. To prove yourself to someone or something, don’t do things you don’t like.
Want to pursue goals in life? Do it with the best of your efforts and do it with love.
People succeed when there is dedication. People achieve top when they do it with all of their hearts.
Give all your best. Give all that you have and work. You feel happy, complete and content.
Do it with love or don’t do it at all.
Verbal communication is essential in order to understand what is going on inside other people. If they do not tell us their thoughts, their feelings, and their experiences, we are left to guess. - Dr. Gary Chapman, Now You're Speaking My Language
“Scar Tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the Strength, move on.”
- Henry Rollins
Struggles to strengthen me. It makes me realize my strong suit in life.
Stronger people are made from their scars in life.
Endurance towards life becomes real for those who were scarred from life’s past.
You probably have seen this visibly in life. People who have suffered in life will have different outlooks and perspectives about what true life is. When compared to those who are still in their happy bubble, the ones who fell out of the bubble become stronger.
Mentally Strong and highly driven people are not born. Life builds them. Solid foundation in their life is from troubles, challenges, and failures they met. They keep building and never stop.
Tough terrains and hard surfaces make the perfect driver, right? Life and people are the same. Tougher life gets the stronger you become like never.
When I say I wish for a happy, trouble-free life, it means I am definitely living in a bubble.
Life treats us all equally with challenges and rewards, the good and bad. The good makes us finer. The bad strengthens us.
The times we suffer and endure difficulties can seem forever to end for us. The Pain it causes can break us. Remember, this is where strong people are made. They go through everything with self-drive, faith, hope and vigor in life.
When I overcome everything, I become stronger and pain heals faster.
Scars in your life are medals that honor your endurance efforts, faith, and confidence you had on yourself.
Embrace that your scars are your real teachers in life.
You will come out stronger than titanium!
“Sometimes you don’t need a goal in life; you don’t need to know the big picture. You just need to know what you’re going to do next!”
- Sophie Kinsella
We all will come to a place in life where there is no direction. We feel blank. We see nothing in front of us. We don’t know where to start, how to start or find a way.
Blank space in life happens to everyone.
Don’t stress yourself over goals.
Don’t worry about what will happen.
All you need to know is what you will do next. That’s it.
Don’t worry about the big picture. Just do the next thing you feel like doing.
Often, take things lightly. I can get through life easier that way.
When everything gets dark, I may not be in the luxury to think about goals and dreams. But, confidently, I can take the next step that I can towards the light.
After battling with life challenges and tasks, I will come to a halt. I may not see a way. The goals I had, the plans I made could have already gone ashore. I will feel like I am in the middle of a deserted place. You all have, or you all, maybe going through this phase in life. It’s fine.
This is where you need to take the next step confidently. Do it with the best of your efforts. Even if there’s no plan or goal, go for the next positive step for in your life.
Don’t worry. Whenever life puts you down, take the next step that you can.
Coming together is beginning. Staying together is progress and working together is success - Henry ford.
The beauty of teamwork reflects in the quality of success. When people come together as a team, accomplishments rapidly grow in due course of time.
It’s easy to gather people in a team. But the true team is in bringing like-minded people together. People who share the same vision and ideas from the great teams.
The best way to make teamwork happen is to make them come together, stay together and work together.
How can you make people come together?
With a genuine Common cause, you can make people come together. Similar, people who tend to have a common cause or if they like the cause, they come together.
How can you make people stay together?
People stay together when they feel valued, respected and treated well. Besides, people stay together to work towards their common cause for which they came together. Space to grow makes people stay. The team can have differences, but the results, goals, and dreams made them come together. The same will make them stay together.
How can you make people work together?
Keep reminding them why they are here. Show them how big difference it made to have people together. Give them knowledge, resources, freedom to do their work. Eventually, they all will work in unison.
To build a good team, make sure they come together, stay together and work together. It all happens when there is passion, dedication, and determination in what they do.
“All the top achievers I know are lifelong learners. Looking for new skills, insights, and ideas. If they’re not learning, they are not growing and not moving towards excellence."
- Denis Waitley
If learning stops, growth stops.
Constant learning and improvisations What makes us better every day in the life right?
In our business/work, for example, we keep updating our knowledge. We try to bring new ideas, get fresh views, gather different insights, and keep strengthening it. With life, we keep learning from our mistakes.
Success is also constantly learning and making constant improvements. Successful people try to break their own record. Top-ranked players keep updating their game and bring new insights into their game even for example, after winning Olympic medals.
Next to success, let’s consider excellence. Are people born with excellence? No.
People are not born with excellence. They strive for excellence. People who excel are those who are passionate about what they do. Most of all, they keep learning. They learn from wherever they can. To look at different perspectives, insights, and gather knowledge is what they do. People who desire excellence always look to improve themselves whenever they can.
Excellence is still moving ahead and keeping your success behind.
Why people stay on top? They keep their learning alive. Looking for new things and gaining fresh perspectives will not stop even after achieving success. This constant search makes them stay on top.
Finally, remember to keep learning we need to keep digging for more new knowledge and skills. Don’t stop with just one success story.
Excellence comes to you when you keep learning, even after success.
Communication sometimes is not what you first hear, listen not just to the words, but listen for the reason. - Catherine Pulsifer
“Skill is the unified force of experience, intellect and passion in their operation.”
– John Ruskin
Skill is not just the education we have or the job we do. When your passion and knowledge blend together, you have your skill. The skilled workforce is when everyone comes together in terms of shared passion, growth, and interest in what they do.
The question that comes to us is how can I gain skill? Skill is not something that you get out of nowhere. Skill is within you. To find out what your skill is, pursue what you like.
When people do what they like, they become involved in constant improvisations. They keep learning things and gather knowledge to sharpen their interest. These constant improvisations happen with experience and a true passion for doing it. It grows into a skill.
If you are good at something, it is your talent. It stems from your interest. When you pursue sharpening and enhance the talent you have, it becomes your skill. With experience, the skill becomes sharpened like a sword. It becomes your asset.
Talent is everywhere, but skill is not everywhere. True skill comes out when the individual strives to bring passion, dedication, experience, and interest to his talent.
How can you improve your skills? Find what your talent is first. Find what interests you and motivates you. Once you identify your talent, the next step becomes clear for you. With no guidance, you search for ways to improve your talent. Next, you will start looking for places where you can use your talent.
Finally, you put your talents to use and in time, the experience you get sharpens your skills.
Sometimes the Heart Sees What is Invisible to the Eye - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Your heart and your instincts can perceive things that you cannot see visibly. We believe with our eyes and even that could go wrong. But, the instinct that comes from the heart often becomes accurate and right.
How could you understand the pain behind the smile? Your eyes can’t see it through, but your heart can.
Sometimes, things that we miss with our eyes can apparently be seen through our hearts.
You can fix this in every aspect of your life.
Take success. True success is not something that you see with your visible eyes. I felt success from the heart. Only then, it gets its true meaning. I can see success in my results. But the true feeling of success is the efforts I gave and the satisfaction I get throughout.
You can feel honesty, loyalty, friendship, respect, and positivity fully from the heart. For instance, the gestures we do can show that it’s the act of friendship. Only by heart can you get the true feeling of friendship.
You know how this quote fits to inspiring people and accomplishers in life?
They feel their victory, their end results and goals in their heart first before they see it with their eyes!
Positivity around us cannot be seen all the time. We cannot expect people to keep doing things and show gestures to prove the point. Appearances are deceptive as we know. But the heart will always recognize true feelings. Your heart can feel the positivity.
The Heart understands better when your eyes are still looking for it!
Our Character is what we do when we think no one is looking - Karl Schonhausen Bismarck
Our character is determined by two aspects. First, the character is about who we are when people are around and looking at us. Second, the character is who we are when there is no one looking at us.
It’s easy to cover a character when people are around. But a true character reveals only when there are no people to look at us.
In simple terms, not all who smile at you are good. Not all who don’t smile at you are bad.
If I can be the same person even when there is no one looking, then that will be my true character. Instead, if I become someone else when people are not looking, then that is my true character. It’s not the one I show before people.
The main reason you and I miss out is by quick judgments we make. People who seem to be so tough with others on the outside could be a real genuine person. The one who has a sweet tongue can be the bad one. The attention-seeking ones will behave differently and don’t mean they are bad. The silent ones stay away and don’t mean they are good.
Character is exciting and a mysterious phenomenon.
People will either show who they really are or they show what they want other people to see. There is good for it and bad to it.
The conclusion here is:
Be good. Keep your Morales. Be the same and be yourself even if people are not looking at you.
You are slowly growing but you are still growing and that is enough — Unknown
My life has its own pace, and so does yours. Similarly, my growth in life is at a pace that could differ from yours. All that matters is to keep growing and keep going.
Keep running at the pace that you can. Never compare.
When you compare your life and its growth with others, the efforts you made so far become meaningless.
Do yourself a little favor. Stop comparing your life and your growth with others.
Keep growing at a pace that you can. Even if it is slow, you grow. Instead, don’t stay there. Don’t cut your growth in comparison with others.
One thing that makes us insecure is to see the other person’s growth and compare it to ours. You can inspire them. Learn how they made the growth possible. Instead, let’s not try to fit in their growth equation. If we do so, we are demeaning our life’s uniqueness.
So, what is the growth that we are talking about?
Take it in two ways.
First, growth is about securing ‘yourself’ in terms of your work, business, finances, commitments, basic needs, and sorts. Practically, they are all our necessities. Gradually we can grow here.
Second, growth is about enhancing yourself as a person and enhancing your morale. Keep enhancing the good. And keep walking away as far as you can from all the things that bring you down. But here you can grow as fast as you can.
Life gets its meaning when you define your growth in your own terms. Keep growing even if it is slow!
Every time I stand to communicate I want to take one simple truth and lodge it in the heart of the listener. I want them to know that one thing and know what to do with it. - Andy Stanley, Communicating for a Change