“The Desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, Paradoxically, The acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience”
- Mark Manson
Life is a balance of positives and negatives every day. You feel happy, that’s great. You feel bad, it’s fine. Let it cool down. The balance breaks when you start expecting too much positivity.
It breaks completely when you are not ready to accept negative experiences. You need positives to inspire. You need negatives to grow. But, if you expect everything to be positive around you, it can disappoint you easily. A lot of expectations can go sideways.
Positive experiences in life are a morale boost. There is no place for second thoughts about it. It gives you the confidence to move forward. But, is it good to look for it every time? If you ask me, the answer would be No.
if I keep looking only for positive experiences in life I could lose focus on the reality that’s in my hands. To take life as it comes will become difficult. The mind only desires what you expected. It will not be ready to expect and accept the unexpected.
On the other hand, with every negative experience in life, I learn a lesson. I get a piece of reality. Understanding what went wrong and what could have been better will be easy. To grow forward will be smoother and wiser.
Take both positive and negative experiences in life. Build yourself with it. Life’s a balance that holds both good and bad equally. Taking them both and growing is the best thing to do. This quote is a piece of reality we need to keep reminding ourselves.
“Do what you can with all you have, wherever you are”
- Theodore Roosevelt
How do we take on life? You do it by taking your first step. That is how every success journey we heard so far took place. It all begins with a first step.
Always, do what you can and do it with all you have. Even if there’s nothing left for you, you have your will. It’s an indestructible asset for you. With the will you have, confidently take your first step towards your goals.
Don't look for a perfect stage to begin your journey. You have to start where you are. Possibilities and opportunities will not wait for you till you feel like you are where you want to be.
So, start where you are in life right now. It’s doesn't matter if you are struggling, or growing or successful. If you have to do something in life, do it from where you are. With every step you take, the success becomes closer and closer. If you can do it, then do it with all your efforts, hard work, time and energy.
We heard people saying that they are waiting for the right time. Sometimes, you can’t wait that long. You have to begin now. Achievers around us are good examples. They don’t wait for the right time. They don’t mind where they are in life. They simply do what they can with what they have. Eventually, it takes them places.
“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today”
- Will Rogers
Let’s be honest here. The past does take up too much of our time. We can’t help it. It will take some time for us to emotionally break the wall of the past and walk forward.
You cannot just come out. It’s not the right way too. You need time. Take that time. Process it. Learn from it. But to heal from it, you need to get up. Don’t stay in the ‘yesterday’ longer.
It only takes too much of your time and energy. The result will always be unproductive. We all have experienced it. Yet, we still keep doing it.
Putting our thoughts and energy to what happened in the past will wear us down physically and emotionally. But, if you look today, it’s a new start to do things better than yesterday.
Every day when you wake up, you get a chance to make things right. You can make the ‘past’ heal better by taking ‘present’ in your hands and making it happy.
Every little thing you do today can impact your happiness for tomorrow. Remind yourself that, when you look down the past, it yields no good for you and you know it.
So, start giving importance to your present. Only take the lessons from the past. Start concentrating on 'Today'. It will be easy for you to work things out with your life. Instead, don't keep spending too much of your time on 'yesterday'.
“There are no great people in this world, only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet.” - William Frederick Halsey, JR.
Look at all people who are sitting on top of life. They all are ordinary people who keep growing with every obstacle and challenge they meet. Like us, they all have a humble start in life. They became Extraordinary through facing great challenges their way.
The courage and confidence one gains in encountering challenges in life makes them stronger than the rest of the crowd.
Don’t be afraid of challenges. Build yourself physically and mentally to endure any size of challenges that life throws.
What makes people extraordinary from the rest is in two things.
First, they do what they like. They pursue their ideas and goals despite all hardships. They stand for themselves. They stand for the right. The second and foremost reason is, they are ready to meet any challenge that comes their way. The hardest and toughest challenge made them extraordinary.
People who are strong-willed and positive spirit overcome tests and trials in life. They emerge as extraordinary inspiring individuals.
One can keep quoting examples of successful people, achievers in different fields and record-setting sports people. What is the common thing among them all?
They are ordinary people like you and me. An exception is, they differ in two things. They endure the toughest challenge and come out. They rise step by step with every encounter they meet in life.
The story of amazing people who have accomplished so far in life tells one truth. They are ordinary people like us. But they keep pushing themselves and rising to meet life in all its glory.
“In doing something, do it with love or never do it at all.” - Gandhi
Do what you like. Do it with love.
Do things you like and give your efforts out of your interest and not because of any compulsion or condition. This simple line has the biggest inspiration we all need.
You can also take it this way. Do it with all of your heart, or never do it at all.
Why such emphasis?
Things you do out of love and interest yield more happiness, content, and success. When you do things that you don’t love, it ends up making all your efforts go vain. When you do things that you don’t like or do it out of external factors, you don’t get the true success feeling.
It applies everywhere.
Want to help someone? Do it if you mean it and love to do it. Else, the essence behind ‘helping’ gets destroyed.
Want to achieve success in life? Do things you like and do it with love and interest in it. If there is no passion, there are only poor results.
Don’t work on your dreams and goals if they don’t interest you or you don’t like them. To prove yourself to someone or something, don’t do things you don’t like.
Want to pursue goals in life? Do it with the best of your efforts and do it with love.
People succeed when there is dedication. People achieve top when they do it with all of their hearts.
Give all your best. Give all that you have and work. You feel happy, complete and content.
Do it with love or don’t do it at all.
“Scar Tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the Strength, move on.”
- Henry Rollins
Struggles to strengthen me. It makes me realize my strong suit in life.
Stronger people are made from their scars in life.
Endurance towards life becomes real for those who were scarred from life’s past.
You probably have seen this visibly in life. People who have suffered in life will have different outlooks and perspectives about what true life is. When compared to those who are still in their happy bubble, the ones who fell out of the bubble become stronger.
Mentally Strong and highly driven people are not born. Life builds them. Solid foundation in their life is from troubles, challenges, and failures they met. They keep building and never stop.
Tough terrains and hard surfaces make the perfect driver, right? Life and people are the same. Tougher life gets the stronger you become like never.
When I say I wish for a happy, trouble-free life, it means I am definitely living in a bubble.
Life treats us all equally with challenges and rewards, the good and bad. The good makes us finer. The bad strengthens us.
The times we suffer and endure difficulties can seem forever to end for us. The Pain it causes can break us. Remember, this is where strong people are made. They go through everything with self-drive, faith, hope and vigor in life.
When I overcome everything, I become stronger and pain heals faster.
Scars in your life are medals that honor your endurance efforts, faith, and confidence you had on yourself.
Embrace that your scars are your real teachers in life.
You will come out stronger than titanium!
“Sometimes you don’t need a goal in life; you don’t need to know the big picture. You just need to know what you’re going to do next!”
- Sophie Kinsella
We all will come to a place in life where there is no direction. We feel blank. We see nothing in front of us. We don’t know where to start, how to start or find a way.
Blank space in life happens to everyone.
Don’t stress yourself over goals.
Don’t worry about what will happen.
All you need to know is what you will do next. That’s it.
Don’t worry about the big picture. Just do the next thing you feel like doing.
Often, take things lightly. I can get through life easier that way.
When everything gets dark, I may not be in the luxury to think about goals and dreams. But, confidently, I can take the next step that I can towards the light.
After battling with life challenges and tasks, I will come to a halt. I may not see a way. The goals I had, the plans I made could have already gone ashore. I will feel like I am in the middle of a deserted place. You all have, or you all, maybe going through this phase in life. It’s fine.
This is where you need to take the next step confidently. Do it with the best of your efforts. Even if there’s no plan or goal, go for the next positive step for in your life.
Don’t worry. Whenever life puts you down, take the next step that you can.
Coming together is beginning. Staying together is progress and working together is success - Henry ford.
The beauty of teamwork reflects in the quality of success. When people come together as a team, accomplishments rapidly grow in due course of time.
It’s easy to gather people in a team. But the true team is in bringing like-minded people together. People who share the same vision and ideas from the great teams.
The best way to make teamwork happen is to make them come together, stay together and work together.
How can you make people come together?
With a genuine Common cause, you can make people come together. Similar, people who tend to have a common cause or if they like the cause, they come together.
How can you make people stay together?
People stay together when they feel valued, respected and treated well. Besides, people stay together to work towards their common cause for which they came together. Space to grow makes people stay. The team can have differences, but the results, goals, and dreams made them come together. The same will make them stay together.
How can you make people work together?
Keep reminding them why they are here. Show them how big difference it made to have people together. Give them knowledge, resources, freedom to do their work. Eventually, they all will work in unison.
To build a good team, make sure they come together, stay together and work together. It all happens when there is passion, dedication, and determination in what they do.
“Skill is the unified force of experience, intellect and passion in their operation.”
– John Ruskin
Skill is not just the education we have or the job we do. When your passion and knowledge blend together, you have your skill. The skilled workforce is when everyone comes together in terms of shared passion, growth, and interest in what they do.
The question that comes to us is how can I gain skill? Skill is not something that you get out of nowhere. Skill is within you. To find out what your skill is, pursue what you like.
When people do what they like, they become involved in constant improvisations. They keep learning things and gather knowledge to sharpen their interest. These constant improvisations happen with experience and a true passion for doing it. It grows into a skill.
If you are good at something, it is your talent. It stems from your interest. When you pursue sharpening and enhance the talent you have, it becomes your skill. With experience, the skill becomes sharpened like a sword. It becomes your asset.
Talent is everywhere, but skill is not everywhere. True skill comes out when the individual strives to bring passion, dedication, experience, and interest to his talent.
How can you improve your skills? Find what your talent is first. Find what interests you and motivates you. Once you identify your talent, the next step becomes clear for you. With no guidance, you search for ways to improve your talent. Next, you will start looking for places where you can use your talent.
Finally, you put your talents to use and in time, the experience you get sharpens your skills.
Sometimes the Heart Sees What is Invisible to the Eye - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Your heart and your instincts can perceive things that you cannot see visibly. We believe with our eyes and even that could go wrong. But, the instinct that comes from the heart often becomes accurate and right.
How could you understand the pain behind the smile? Your eyes can’t see it through, but your heart can.
Sometimes, things that we miss with our eyes can apparently be seen through our hearts.
You can fix this in every aspect of your life.
Take success. True success is not something that you see with your visible eyes. I felt success from the heart. Only then, it gets its true meaning. I can see success in my results. But the true feeling of success is the efforts I gave and the satisfaction I get throughout.
You can feel honesty, loyalty, friendship, respect, and positivity fully from the heart. For instance, the gestures we do can show that it’s the act of friendship. Only by heart can you get the true feeling of friendship.
You know how this quote fits to inspiring people and accomplishers in life?
They feel their victory, their end results and goals in their heart first before they see it with their eyes!
Positivity around us cannot be seen all the time. We cannot expect people to keep doing things and show gestures to prove the point. Appearances are deceptive as we know. But the heart will always recognize true feelings. Your heart can feel the positivity.
The Heart understands better when your eyes are still looking for it!
Our Character is what we do when we think no one is looking - Karl Schonhausen Bismarck
Our character is determined by two aspects. First, the character is about who we are when people are around and looking at us. Second, the character is who we are when there is no one looking at us.
It’s easy to cover a character when people are around. But a true character reveals only when there are no people to look at us.
In simple terms, not all who smile at you are good. Not all who don’t smile at you are bad.
If I can be the same person even when there is no one looking, then that will be my true character. Instead, if I become someone else when people are not looking, then that is my true character. It’s not the one I show before people.
The main reason you and I miss out is by quick judgments we make. People who seem to be so tough with others on the outside could be a real genuine person. The one who has a sweet tongue can be the bad one. The attention-seeking ones will behave differently and don’t mean they are bad. The silent ones stay away and don’t mean they are good.
Character is exciting and a mysterious phenomenon.
People will either show who they really are or they show what they want other people to see. There is good for it and bad to it.
The conclusion here is:
Be good. Keep your Morales. Be the same and be yourself even if people are not looking at you.
You are slowly growing but you are still growing and that is enough — Unknown
My life has its own pace, and so does yours. Similarly, my growth in life is at a pace that could differ from yours. All that matters is to keep growing and keep going.
Keep running at the pace that you can. Never compare.
When you compare your life and its growth with others, the efforts you made so far become meaningless.
Do yourself a little favor. Stop comparing your life and your growth with others.
Keep growing at a pace that you can. Even if it is slow, you grow. Instead, don’t stay there. Don’t cut your growth in comparison with others.
One thing that makes us insecure is to see the other person’s growth and compare it to ours. You can inspire them. Learn how they made the growth possible. Instead, let’s not try to fit in their growth equation. If we do so, we are demeaning our life’s uniqueness.
So, what is the growth that we are talking about?
Take it in two ways.
First, growth is about securing ‘yourself’ in terms of your work, business, finances, commitments, basic needs, and sorts. Practically, they are all our necessities. Gradually we can grow here.
Second, growth is about enhancing yourself as a person and enhancing your morale. Keep enhancing the good. And keep walking away as far as you can from all the things that bring you down. But here you can grow as fast as you can.
Life gets its meaning when you define your growth in your own terms. Keep growing even if it is slow!
Sometimes when I'm not feeling so happy, I do something to make someone else happy, then I find I'm suddenly feeling happy again.
– Karen Salmansohn
How to get through the day? Try to stay positive and happy! If you couldn’t, then do something for someone. You can see happiness coming inside.
Next time when you feel unhappy and demotivated, do a little task. Do some good for someone to make them happy. Try things like sending a thank-you note. Make a phone call. Send positive texts. Buy food to those who are in need. Help your colleague. Tend to the plants in your vicinity. Just whatever little positive gestures you could think of, do it. You don’t have to worry about not being happy. Just do it and you have already reached happiness.
The best way to lift your mood and bring happiness is by ‘giving’.
Make someone happy with what you could do. A smile is enough. Be the reason for someone’s happiness today.
Sometimes we don’t know what to do and we feel unhappy. We expect external things in resolving our unhappiness.
Let’s turn this thing around. Next time, if you are feeling unhappy, don’t wait for external factors to make you happy. Find someone who could use some help. Help them and see happiness in them. Happiness comes to you instantly.
Little positive gestures in life can turn a yearlong unhappiness into an instant burst of joy.
People are looking for positivity. Let’s contribute to it as much as we can.
The act of ‘Giving’ and showing Kindness is the best thing you could do to someone unhappy.
Give. Happiness comes ten folds.
Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin. - Mother Teresa
Thinking about what to do and where to start? The answer is in your ‘today’.
Life holds us Down with two things; worrying about the past and fearing about the future. What good does it do other than toying with our emotions and hope? Nothing!
Our Past is already gone. The future is still somewhere out of sight. But the ‘present’ is here in our hands, visibly. Let’s do what we like to do today.
Your current is your present day. Want to start something new, do it today. Try it today. If you have dreams, take your first step.
We might have missed the past and we may not know what the future holds. One sure thing is, we have a present. Make it useful. Start doing things that you wish to do in your life. Give in to your best efforts. Dedicate yourself to the job you have in hand. Spread positivity. Don’t wait for tomorrow to solve the problems. Take today to resolve it.
Don’t bring the space for questions like ‘let’s do it tomorrow’, ‘Let’s begin tomorrow’, ‘I am waiting for the right time’ and sorts.
Get into action today. What’s there to lose?
Begin today. If it fails, try it again tomorrow from the lessons of today. If it succeeds, it means you have got it. Use it to better yourself tomorrow.
Whatever life holds, it all starts with what you are doing today.
The steps to your future depend upon what you are doing ‘Today’ and don’t forget it.
Start Today! Your ‘Today’ is the ladder for your tomorrow.
“A Determined Spirit is Unstoppable.”
- Lailah Gifty Akita
Inventions and discoveries are the results of determined efforts. Lifesaving technologies that we see today are results of determined efforts by someone. Achievers whom we see in front of us are highly determined and strong-willed individuals. The fact is, a determined spirit is unstoppable. Throw them any obstacle, and they keep pushing it aside. They keep going.
People who are determined know how focused they can get in finishing a task. Energy and efforts will never be wasted when there’s a strong determination. And, Determination is not being stubborn. It’s a strong positive resolve towards following your dreams.
Determination is not just for the big things in life. For instance, take our daily. Consider ‘waking up early, ‘to be productive, ‘to make healthy food choices’ and everything related to your wellness. It all needs some kind of determination to practice every day. We can see people who pursue what they like even when the world around them disagrees with it. They do it because they are determined. The point here is, a determined spirit never fails and never stops. With a clear goal in hand, people become determined to achieve it.
Is determination only about achieving goals? The answer is ‘No’. Determination is in everything. To be productive, to be polite, to help, to support are a few ways of determination that people have. Determination is good. Make sure it doesn’t cross the line and becomes an obsession. The determined spirit will need more positivity. Determination in life mends success and achievement.
“Treat everyone with politeness and kindness, not because they are nice, but because you are.”
- Roy T Bennett, The Light in the Heart
We remember people we meet in the walks of our life for two reasons. Either they were good to us or they were bad to us. In the long run of life, we ignore or forget the bad ones. But, we will never forget the ones who did us good. Likewise, we will never forget the ones who made us feel good. Just a random act of kindness from a stranger could last a lifetime. It invokes wonderful memories and positivity every time we think about it.
A world-class achiever can just go down to the ground within a matter of one act of impoliteness. People who treat their fellow people with politeness and kindness prevail in time. You don’t have to be remembered for success, money, social status and other premium privileges. Be remembered for your good. That’s what matters the most. Everything else falls in line when you treat people with respect, politeness, and kindness.
Another thing about life is, People always remember how you treat them. One simple act of kindness that you could do can change a person’s life. Always treat people well. It doesn’t matter whether they deserve it or not, you treat them well. It shows your character.
It hurts when someone treats us impolitely. Let’s not give it back. Let’s not make people feel how we once felt due to impoliteness. Therein lays our character. Let’s treat people with respect, kindness, and politeness not because they are nice people. Let’s do it because we are nice people.
“I have never in my life learned anything from any man who agreed with me.”
- Dudley Field Malone
Life is not about surrounding yourself with people who agree with you all the time. You never learn if folks around you keep harmonizing with whatever you do. You need to have people who can stand up to you when you do wrong. Only you can make this possible.
First, make yourself approachable. It helps people around you to express what they feel. It’s easy to gain genuine views of what’s going on around you.
Second, listen. Listen when people say you are wrong. Listen when people don’t agree with you. It’s a healthy space to learn what’s happening. Genuine people will not hesitate to point the mistakes when you listen. They don’t sugar-coat or brown-nose. It gives a space for you to overcome the mistakes further. Same way, while arguing, you can get to know what’s good on the other side that you couldn’t see. If people keep agreeing with you all the time, have care. Either they want you down or they are afraid of you.
Good Learning in life becomes meaningless when people agree with everything you do or say. There’s nothing much left to learn when you think you are right all the time. Don’t be.
You need to be challenged by the people around you. It’s important to have healthy conversations and arguments to learn about different perspectives. You never gain anything in life when all you have is people who say “Yes” to you all the time.
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that but, the really great make you feel that you too, can become great.”
- Mark Twain
It’s a wonderful quote to live by. Let go of all the negative people in your life. At least, make sure they don’t influence you in any way possible. You can see a big difference in your life. The next ones to eventually avoid in life are those who keep belittling you.
The act of Demeaning people is a bad personality trait. It’s better to say nothing than say something demeaning or belittling. People who belittle other’s ambition, dreams, characters, and goals forget one thing. Their behavior is affecting people mentally to a big extent. That too, the ones who have difficulty in handling emotions will find belittling to be a great personal defect. It becomes hard for them to come out of it. To come out of this influence and achieve the dreams that you had is a big success.
Our life is filled with good and bad people. Especially, the ones who demean others are often found in all spaces of our life. Be it professional or personal life, small people like them are unavoidable. Be with people who value your dreams and goals. Great people will support you; encourage you to do more instead of demeaning. Be with people who make you feel great. Surround yourself with people who lift others as they lift themselves.
“Challenges are what makes life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”
- Joshua. J. Marine
When asked how they want their life to be, the answer would be happy and peaceful including me. Is that it? Just a happy life is sufficient? Well, not really. Life also feels the same way. Life hits us with bricks and throws us puzzles when we least expect it. Life without challenges is kind of boring don’t you think!
Straight lines are not as exciting as curved artistic lines. Life is the same too. You need challenges in life. A difficult and challenging time in life has made people realize their true potential. We know how beautiful a diamond is right? In reality, it’s just a piece of carbon that survived under heavy pressure. We are like that too.
Every challenge we face and every difficulty we go through is what makes us strong and interesting. When faced with a challenge, our mind works like never before. It keeps looking for solutions and ideas to overcome the challenge.
Clarity comes concerning what’s good, & what’s bad. Same way, separating ‘right from wrong’, ‘need and want’ becomes clear when you are going through challenges and difficulties in life. When you overcome your challenges, you get a sense of content that no money and success can bring you. Overcoming difficulties will bring a self-trust and self-confidence.
Accept what life throws even it is unacceptable. Take it as a challenge. I know it’s easier said than done. But, when you overcome it, you can see how interesting & meaningful your life can be.
“Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it.”
- Joe Clark
Don’t take your defeats personally. Don’t swallow it. Take the lesson, learn the mistakes, and let it go. Your Defeat will only look like experience now. Else, if you take your defeat personally, your ‘will’ breaks down completely. Taking Defeats to the core has made many people pull off from their dreams. People don’t realize that success could be just one step ahead after all these failures and defeats. I also understand how defeats could be. It’s hard to overcome. The next thing to do will be unclear. That’s why the defeat tastes bitter unless you don’t swallow it.
Have you analyzed how taking defeats personally have hindered you in multiple ways? It will break your will. You could feel like every eye is on you. Ideas of ‘what went wrong,’ ‘where did I lose it’ will not be on your mind. Instead, it brings the feeling of fear, embarrassment, and guilt.
Most importantly, the efforts you made so far will not come to your thoughts. Only the failures will be on the mind. Step away from it. Take some time to recover from the defeat you had in life. Understand that the time you take should reflect on what went wrong. Not in taking your failures to your core.
Everything depends upon how you take it in life. Consider your failures and defeats as just another stepping stone, and keep going. You are very near to success. On the contrary, if you take defeats personally, it will feel like forever to get out. Don’t take your defeats. But, take your time to get in terms with it.