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Life is like a great movie with lots of ups and downs. Similarly, our lives also have a lot of instances wherein our plans don’t follow our route or don’t work out the way we planned them to. We need to remember that everything is not in our control; various other factors influence decisions. Also, it’s completely normal to have some things way out of our schedule or plan. So what should you do if things don’t work your way? Do you get angry or overstressed? 


Additionally, do you ever give a thought if you are standing in between getting the work done? There can be multiple reasons for that. Stop focusing on the things you don’t have any control over. Instead, what you can do is work on yourself in these pretty stressful situations.


Here are 4 tips to help you do things your way.

– Remember why you are doing it

– Analyze the outcome

– Focus on the important stuff

– Listen to some soothing music

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Here are some amazing tips to increase your patience level. 


WALK AROUND

Some people take a small stroll when breathing doesn’t help them find their calmness.


MEDITATION

Meditation is something that is helping people from ancient times to modern days with their life choices. The study says that 10 minutes of meditation each day helps us regain our hidden truth of ourselves. It increases our ability to focus on a single thing. It clears our vision of life. Gradually, you become a calmer person than before. 


Time has come that we practice having a little more patience. Especially in today’s world, it has become an important factor in having the patience to live a peaceful life. Practice. You will be a master in some time.

1.) It is okay to put yourself first:

 

People will understand that your dreams are as important as family obligations. So it’s okay to put yourself first and follow what you want.

 


2.) Don’t regret or feel guilty:

 

Once you are into the path of pursuing your dreams, don’t bring any guilt about family, friends, or anything. Friends and family will be supportive, and they can understand how passionate you are. Things happen, and it’s always a lesson. Don’t regret it. It can hold you down.

 


3.) See what bothers you:

 

If it’s something in your workplace, address it if it’s a personal issue, sort it out.

 


4.) Speak to your family & friends:

 

If you are about to quit your job and follow what you want, then you should share it with your family and friends. Family is a wonderful moral support to you, while friends will hold down the fort for you. 

 


5.) Don’t give up:

 

At some point, you will know what you want in life. Don’t miss it and straightaway follow it. Whatever happens, you shouldn’t give up. You will get to the place where you want to be in no time. 

Adventures

 

Are there adventurists lurking inside you? Despite good-job, good-life adventure-seeking people will always find a hole if they don’t do anything adventurous. It’s what they want in their life, to do something adventurous.



People, who love to be adventurous, try new things, pursue what’s exhilarating will never mind about money or other things. If you are an adventure lover, do what you like but with a balance.

 

Revamp your Bucket-List

 

Your bucket-list will say what you want in life. A bucket list is not something we write in a specific time; it’s an accumulation of ideas, plans, places, memories, and things-to-do in your life with time in your life. Revamp it.



Do things in your bucket-list even it means a simple trip to a place to eat your favorite meal or to a city or country you like to visit. Every bucket-list will surely have one item that you want to do in your lifetime.

You want something to give back to the community?

 

Feel like something’s missing even with having a good job and a good life? Do you want to give something back to the community? Go for it. If this is what you want to do in your life, you can find a lot of ways to do so.


Some several organizations and groups do community services, child-health, child-education, medication-supports, sponsoring a child, etc. you can include yourself in any such.  

 


Do you like to fulfill some goals before you begin your path?

 

You know what you want in life but still, there could be some restrictions and things that stop you from doing so. For instance, you may have some personal goals like securing your family financially, taking care of family, etc.


Before you begin your path, you should talk to your family and friends first. It will help them adjust to what’s coming. It can help your family plan the finances accordingly before you quit your job. If your family knows about it, they can handle the rough times smoothly. 

Looking for a real Work-life balance?

 

You got the job you want but still, feel something’s missing? It could be a work-life balance. You like your job so much that you could lose all your focus and time into it. This could cost your personal life.



Analyze yourself and see where the track goes sideways. Focus in your career is important but at the same time, your personal life with family and friends needs you too. It doesn’t matter who you are, a fresher or business person or in top management, everyone looks for work-life balance most of the time in their life.

 

Health and Lifestyle

 

Healthy lifestyle and holistic wellness are what people looking for these days in their life amidst this fast world. More people are looking for ways to find peace, mental wellness, good mental health, and overall well-being. People seeking yoga and its related lifestyle are becoming high these days.



If you are passionate about health and lifestyle go for it. We can find people who are passionate about food choices, body-building, following a specific lifestyle, etc. So, if you fall in any of these, go for it. 

Passionate about anything?

 

At some point in life, every person will get a chance to know what they want with life or what they are passionate about for sure. Things that you are most passionate about will always burn deep inside your heart. It could be anything like cooking, writing, traveling, a start-up, sketching, hand-made things, designing, baking, lifestyle-related, art, research, community-services, or anything. 

 

Don’t give a second thought and just follow it. Not many people get the chance to pursue what they are most passionate about. So don’t leave the chance. Take the risk and follow what you want. Initially, you might struggle, but you’ll get where you want to be soon.

Interested in creating something of your own?

 

Which is good; a stable Safe job? Or quit the work and follow your interest in making something of your own? Young people often find it difficult to choose between these two. If this is what you want in life, if making something on your own, like a start-up is what you want to do, then take the risk of quitting your job and get ready to follow the dreams. If you feel like you need some stable ground (in terms of money or anything) and knowledge to gain before following your dreams, then see to it too.


7 ways to find out:

Be selfish

Regret nothing

Figure out what you need

Determine what really bothers you

Determine what makes you truly happy

Let people around you know what you are trying to achieve

Stay positive

Do you find it difficult to choose your forte?

 

People find it difficult to understand what they want to do in life when they are not able to choose or identify their forte. It depends upon the line of work you are passionate about or interested in.


For example, you could be an art student, but due to financial responsibilities, you could be working in different work-stream. If so, try to look for work in the area which you know you can do better. If not, it will make you feel incomplete. The same goes for working people too. If you feel like you don’t fit in the financials, then go for a field that interests you, say for example technical side. 

 

You should be able to figure out your niche which would eventually happen at some point. Once you know your niche, pursuing it is the smart move. It will make your work well. It will help you understand better things you could do with your life. Pursuing your interest will bring you happiness, innovations, ideas and of course, success. 

Want to establish yourself in your workplace?

 

Deep down many people expect a common thing called ‘being recognized’ or ‘being noted for their work’ or to put it simply, ‘people want others to see who they are personally and professionally and understand them’. It is the main expectation concerning young talents and even senior people at work. 

 


Being focused in your career, doing hard work is secondary to them, but what they primarily want is recognition. You’ll know this for a fact if you are a working professional looking to make your mark. If recognition at the workplace is all you want right now, then find ways to positively do it. Once you are feeling like you are recognized you will become more aware and focused in your career leading to better possibilities for you in life.   

Are you looking for Financial Stability?

 

Financial stability in life will be the immediate necessity in case you are starting new to work. Being a fresher or someone who is just getting a hang of things at work/business, your focus will be on resolving financial issues in hand i.e. it could be your student loans, personal loans or any other financial commitments.

 

If you want financial stability in your life, then focusing on your career is important. If financial stability is your immediate focus in life, then work on it. If you pursue what you want without a stable or at least a minimum financial backup, the road can get rougher as we are in a place where the economy plays a vital role in even following your dreams.

We like to help you by giving you different ways to figure out if this is what you want in your life. Without further ado, let’s get this done.

1. Are you looking for Financial Stability?

2. Want to establish yourself in your workplace?

3. Do you find it difficult to choose your forte?

4. Interested in creating something of your own?

5. Passionate about anything?

6. Looking for a real Work-life balance?

7. Health and Lifestyle

8. You want something to give back to the community?

9. Do you like to fulfill some goals before you begin your path?

10. Adventures

11. Revamp your Bucket-List

12. The luxury of skipping work without money in mind

13. Short term & Long-term Issues

14. Where do you see yourself?

15. What is ‘success’ to you

To help you figure out what you want in your life we like to put some points in perspective for you here. Consider these points, process it and see what ideas you get about what to do with your life and ‘what exactly do you want from this life’.


You need money but it’s not the ultimate. You need to do work out of your interest and not at the cost of crushing your dreams. 

 

You need a balance. Living life to the fullest doesn’t mean living it recklessly.


Thus, you need a life which should make you happy, have some meaning in it as well as sustainable in the point of finance otherwise; the life you live can seem like an unfilled hole. 

Everyone dreams of succeeding in life. Every student wants to succeed in school. But not all can be a student and enter a school, so while you have the opportunity, make yourself deserving of the chance you have in hand. I have come to mingle with few friends who are scholarly good in college, and as we share ideas, I came to analyze that all of them have common secrets of becoming not only good but successful in studies.


1. All desire to change their life for the better. Have the willpower to become the person you want to then find the channel which will bring you to your dream.


2. Once the opportunity knocks, be courageous to grab it and be responsible for multiplying it. Show your ability to thrive and strive to maintain what you have.


3. Learn to accept your limitations and appreciate your capability to grow. 


4. Nobody stops to discover their potentials. So do you. 


5. Discover your talent and cultivate it to the best of your ability, time, and resources. Be creative and resourceful.


6. Prohibit to stay within your comfort zone. Learn to channel your potentials and draw a roadmap of your success. 

LEARN TO MEDITATE

 

Our minds are the windows to the soul. Hence, the better the mindset you own, the better your life will be. The mindset is a muscle that can be worked upon and trained as per accordance. For these reasons, it is necessary to motivate and energize your mind by meditating.


You can start by giving 10 mins a day to increase the time each day. Moreover, meditation is known to have many health benefits and eliminates the clutter from your mind. It also helps in treating anxiety or stress issues. 

Bad thoughts are only thoughts and not reality. There is nothing that is impossible. Work over your thought process to align them in a way that benefits you. It’s all in your mind and you have the power to control them.

Get a good social friends circle who encourage and motivate you to be a better version of yourself. Keep yourself busy to the maximum to stop your mind from wandering.

Make a conscious choice to become a person with loads of positivity and spread happiness. These small tips will help you in eliminating any negative thoughts from your mind. Sip on your coffee, take a good book to give you company and you are ready to go.

TAKE A WALK

 

It is true that bad thoughts could be a product of the environment. Sometimes changing your environment can help you distract your mind from negative thoughts. In such situations, take a break and go for a walk. The change in surroundings will help you calm yourself and help you stay clear of negative thoughts. Step away from a negative environment and notice the drastic changes in your mood and mind. It is equally important to step away from anything that negatively influences you.

 


Fixing bad thoughts is all dependent on you. Take a minute and analyze whether these bad thoughts have any meaning. Will they last long? Are they worth your mental peace? Is that going to affect you one year down the line? Nothing is important than your mental health. Worrying will only cause you stress and anxiety, but it won’t solve your situation.

When negative thoughts ward your mind, that is because you have a lot of free time to spend. Instead, use your available time to do something creative. When you are busy, your mind won’t have the time to wander around.


Look for a creative outlet to keep negative thoughts away. Explore more options to channel your emotions doing something creative. This will take your mind off any bad thoughts or negative thinking.

When you have negative thoughts, talking it out can be a form of relief. Give yourself the chance to vent out your emotions either to a friend, family member or you could even maintain a diary and write all that comes to your mind.



Once you are done venting, make sure to never think about them again. Usually, when you struggle with thoughts, it isn’t a good idea to keep it yourself.   



Sometimes sharing your struggles could give you a way out of them. Often people bottle up their feelings which can lead to greater stress. Learn to release and gain a better understanding of situations. 

ACCEPTING THINGS AS THEY ARE

 

The more you accept your life situations, the less you start worrying about them. The best way to live life is to learn the art of accepting things. Often, situations are not in our control. They might aggravate and make situations worse. The only thing you can do here is to be calm and be more accepting of the situation. Initially, you might difficulties in doing so, but the sole thought that worrying isn’t going to make the situation better than the better can help you avoid bad thoughts. Subsequently, this leads to a happy life.