'What women want?' How many of you remember this 2000 rom-com Hollywood movie? The movie in which the male protagonist miraculously gets the ability to hear women's thoughts and finds out the women don't perceive him the same way he thinks they do. Their opinions about him were actually completely opposite from what he had thought of having.
What do we observe from this? There was one reason why most of them simultaneously hated him. He views them as an object rather than a human being. He had no respect for them altogether and somewhat treated them like that. He was a chauvinist. Now, certainly, a woman won't have one as their partner and be treated that way.
What a woman wants in her partner will differ from woman to woman. However, there is one thing that all women will wish to get from him. And that is to treat her like a queen.
Treating her like a queen won't make you whipped or henpecked; it just makes you a gentleman. That is how a real man should treat his women. But this is what most of the men seem to misunderstand. They think it won't be so macho of them if this happens.
Treating your woman like a queen is not called being "whipped." It's called being a man.
They get scared getting made fun of and being called names for such. As a result, they will treat you not-so-good because they have a fake dignity to save or they are under peer pressure.
Treating your woman like a queen means treating them with love, respect, and affection. That doesn't sound like being whipped, does it? But it will make them feel like so. They are not completely to be blamed, though. They are a victim of the long-lived patriarchy system. And it will take time to change.
Why is it important to do that?
Imagine yourself getting treated without any rights given in a relationship. Your partner is disrespectful to you and insults you. You have none or very little say in your relationship, and you feel unloved & unwanted. How do you like the picture? Not nice, right?
That is how your woman feels when she gets treated otherwise?
Relationships are not just the work of one person; it won't sustain. And when you disregard your woman's importance in your relationship, things are not going to work. Things are going to get ugly and messy if she is not happy with you. Sooner or later, you guys are going to split up eventually. You can't make anyone happy if you are not happy yourself.
Even the prettiest woman could feel insecure if she loves the wrong man. What makes her beautiful is a man who can treat her right.
But worry not! You can still have it in your hands to stop this from happening. Now we know men are always confused when it comes to things like this. Therefore, here are a few points for you to follow to treat her like a queen and see the fruits you bear from it.
Treat her as a human first
Men treat their girl as a partner and completely forgets to treat them as a human first. Confused? This means when they get into a relationship, they, consciously or unconsciously, put themselves in the role of the dominant and thinking that they are to lead the relationship.
Thus, they try different ways to control their partner. They will lay out rules and restrictions over them, telling them things their girls can do or not, sometimes even to the extent of dictating their lives.
Your girl doesn't need that kind of control or pressure (until she is not capable of taking control of her life). They have been dealing with these all their lives. They have been made to live as per the norms and restrictions put on them by their parents, relatives, and society, especially in a country like India.
Any man can treat a lady right for one night, but it takes a great man to treat her right for the rest of her life.
What she needs for you to understand that she is a human and not a weak girl - a damsel in distress. She is capable of taking care and looking out for herself. When exceeded, caring and possessiveness can be suffocating. You should make her feel free and not suffocate.
No human with self-awareness will like to be disrespected irrespective of their gender, age, or other factors. It is a basic human right for everyone to be treated with kindness and respect unless they give a reason otherwise. And so do your women. And I don't think this needs to elaborate too much, is it? It must be naturally understood.
Don't disrespect her or make her feel low about herself because of what gender she belongs to. Or because she is the (supposedly) submissive partner in the relationship. Treat her with the utmost respect she deserves, and you will see how happy you will make her, and in return, she will make you.
Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a king. Treat her like a game and she will show you how it's played.
Care for her
Be it a boy or a girl, everybody wants someone in their lives who cares for them. So why not do the same for your partner?
It is really important to show your woman that you care for her, her health, and her feelings. Show that you are there when she needs you, then she can lean on you. You can have a very healthy relationship (and a mentally healthy partner as well) when you show off your caring towards her.
A little understanding goes a long way.
It is really hard to make a relationship work. It is not a piece of cake when you have to adjust with almost everything with your partner and for them. When you are going to be together, you are going to see each others' worst (perhaps ugly too) sides.
And it will deter the perfect image you have of your partner in your mind. You are going to experience some hard time being around her when that happens. When this happens, only understanding can get you through.
A real man gives his lady the attention she deserves, gives her all of his love, calls her beautiful, and treats her like a queen.
Life is a long journey. And you are going to face things with her-both good and bad. While facing the bad things, negative emotions are surely going to overpower the sense of judgment. And it is not just about big things like experiencing financial stress or something major related to one's health only.
Even when things are seemingly good, you can have disputes over small and insignificant things, especially when you are in a bad mood.
For example, when you want to stay home and relax after a long week, but she wants to go out with you as she has been scooped up for most of her week. The argument is surely going to ensure and stretch into a big fight if you don't understand when to stop.
If a man makes his woman feel loved, safe, cherished and valued she will build him an empire.
Try to understand her whenever she irritates or annoys you-knowingly or unknowingly.
Why is she being like this?
What are her moods?
What are the reasons behind her actions?
It will take time, but it will be a very effective thing that will make you have a healthy relationship and spare you from wasting precious moments getting wasted.
Treat her with presents.
Who doesn't love presents? You, me, everyone will surely appreciate a well-chosen present. So why not woo your woman with these presents every chance you get?
A man who treats his woman like a princess is proof that he has been born and raised in the arms of a queen.
It doesn't always have to be something expensive always. Even if it is just one rose flower, that will be more than enough. And it is well known that women love flowers. Surprise her in any way you can to make her happy. These presents will make her feel special because you are spending valuables on her.
A little special treatment is deserved by everyone once in a while. So what are you waiting to do for her?
No matter how strong and confident a person is, they will need support to achieve. Even if not, then it will be really nice for them to receive some support. This will ensure their confidence in themselves and will make it a tad easier for them to achieve their goals.
Your woman also needs your support. More so as it is very hard to achieve things for women in general. Even if you are not directly able to help them directly in her endeavors, supporting her will be more than enough for sure.
Learn to treat your woman like the queen she is if not some one else would gladly take your place.
Push her to be a better version of herself. Sometimes, that is all that is needed. Tell her you are in with her in whatever her goals have set for herself and that you will support her all the way till the end. And just see how much boost up she will be in the journey.
Communications is a key
In any kind of relationship, communication is one of the key points to maintain. Miscommunications create misunderstanding and are often the reason for a failure of a relationship. If you care enough, you wouldn't want that, right?
Communicating with her on a regular basis is very important. More so, when you guys stay far away from each other or are in a long-distance relationship. This will not only avoid misunderstanding between you but also builds trust in the relationship.
A man who treats his woman like a queen and a woman who treats her man like a king make a good team.
And it is not to point out how much trusting of each other is crucial for the sustaining of relationships. Also, there will be no space for doubt to seep in if you have strong communication and do not keep things from each other. Life is too short of having doubts.
Share her burden
Sharing is caring! We all have heard this phrase, right? But sharing is not only for happiness. You need to share her burdens as well.
We all have responsibilities to have to be fulfilled. And surely, your woman shall also have her own responsibilities. You need to take part in fulfilling them be it for any kind of work. Whether it is everyday household chores or helping her in taking care of her parents and looking after them.
I like a man who looks like a bad boy but knows how to treat a woman like a queen. - Candice Swanepoel
You have to play a significant role in lessening these burdens from her shoulders and just see how much better she treats you in return.
Be there for her
Humans all have hardships in their lives. They cannot save themselves from that. Naturally, your girl will have her hardships as well. Not every situation will be under your control for offering help, neither will she be able to stop things from happening.
What you can do, however, is that be there with her on every step to face the hardships. It will mean a lot to her when she knows that she will have you even when nothing good is happening.
Give her space if she needs it.
Women are always perceived as clingy or possessive one, even more than men. Even when it is not the case most of the time. Sometimes, this can be true, but it totally depends on the individual and not what gender the person belongs to.
Treat your girl like a queen, treat her like she is the only woman in the world!
Therefore, you need to understand that women also need to have space from you. You need to value her independence. It is just the way a man demands space from his girl. Understand when she is in need of some space and give her that.
It's the small things that matter.
Women think from the heart and men from the mind. This statement is mostly true, in general. Even if exceptions are always there for both. Therefore, women are emotional, and men are logical.
For example, if she has a headache, her partner will think of giving her medicines, which is logical. But she will want his care and attention even more than the medicine. That is because they are emotional like that.
That is why this point is mentioned here. She will highly appreciate it when you will notice all the small things about her needs, her likes and dislikes, her moods, her appearance, and so on. Giving her this kind of attention is sure to keep her glowing always and makes her important.
Compliments work like magic.
There is surely no person on this whole planet who doesn't like some compliments. So naturally, your woman is also not excluded from it.
Praise her as much as you can. Compliment her for even the smallest efforts she puts in her work even if the results are not that good. This is going to make her feel appreciated. And guaranteed you are going to see the improved end results as she will be doubling her efforts because of your appreciation.
Make her a priority
A woman always feels important when they are the priority of their partner. It makes them feel cared for and special when they know that their partner is putting them first above everything. She is really going to appreciate it when you do so, and in return, you are going to receive the same gesture and efforts for yourself.
Trust is the most crucial part of a relationship, one without which it is impossible for a relationship to work. How are you going to make things work with your woman when you don't have trust in each other?
Not trusting them about small matters can be excused. So build immense trust in your relationship with her. Don't let doubt slide in between you for even the slightest bit because many times, it is enough to break things apart.
Loyalty in a relationship
This is equally important in a relationship as trust. No matter how much you have to offer to her, it seldom occurs that a woman is okay in a relationship with a disloyal partner.
But of course, there is a one in a million chance of that happening. Besides, you also won't like to be cheated by her, won't you? So be loyal to her because that is what she deserves.
No taking her for granted
None feel good when they are left out or feel taken for granted. This is going to make her feel as if she no longer is important to you. And it is an unpleasant feeling to have. If this problem is not realized sooner, it can eventually lead to both of you breaking apart from each other or destroying your relationship.
Express your love
Expressing your emotions to your girl is a must. Otherwise, how is she going to know that you love her? The way of doing it depends on you completely, whichever way suits you. You can choose to say it verbally. But some people have difficulty speaking about their feelings.
In that case, show them your love through gifts, loving/romantic gestures, handwritten notes, flowers, give her your time, make her feel wanted, etc. Trust me, it will have a greater impact than saying the words.
Share your thoughts
Girls love it when guys feel safe enough with her to share their deepest and most intimate thoughts with them, just like how they do it. It also creates a stronger bond between you two. So what are you waiting for? Don't shy away from sharing your thoughts with them.
The majority of men fail to realize how important it is to take consent of their women. Not just for intimate things, but everything in general.
Will you like it when you are forced for things you don't want to carry with you, and nobody cares if you are giving consent to do it. Also, apologize when you are wrong. This will make her respect you when you respect her will and wishes.
Her friends and family members
Her family is also important for her like yours is for you. And when you expect her to respect your family and friends for being good to them, you need to return the behavior as well. You should also respect her side of friends and family members and treat them like you want your close ones to be treated.
Advice for women
You have the right to respect your worth and deserve to be treated like a queen. But this applies to your man as well. They, too, deserve to be treated like a king. Men and women are equal. So they both should be treated equally by each other.
You cannot expect to be treated like a queen when you don't even treat him as your partner even. So the first thing you need to do is to up yourself. You must possess the personality and values of a queen yourself to be treated like one by him.
Remember, ladies, if your man is capable of treating you like a queen, then he can do that to anyone. And any girl would be happy to have him.
If you are done scanning through the whole article, then you will notice that treating your woman like a queen is not rocket science (as stereotypes have made you believe). It just takes some time and adjustments to achieve that. The key point to keep in mind is how you make her feel? The answer to this question alone will settle everything with her.