You need money but it’s not the ultimate. You need to do work out of your interest and not at the cost of crushing your dreams. You need a balance. Living life to the fullest doesn’t mean living it recklessly.
Thus, you need a life which should make you happy, have some meaning in it as well as sustainable in the point of finance otherwise; the life you live can seem like an unfilled hole. We like to help you by giving you different ways to figure out if this is what you want in your life. Without further ado, let’s get this done.
1.) It is okay to put yourself first:
People will understand that your dreams are as important as family obligations. So it’s okay to put yourself first and follow what you want.
2.) Don’t regret or feel guilty:
Once you are into the path of pursuing your dreams, don’t bring any guilt about family, friends, or anything. Friends and family will be supportive, and they can understand how passionate you are. Things happen, and it’s always a lesson. Don’t regret it. It can hold you down.
3.) See what bothers you:
If it’s something in your workplace, address it if it’s a personal issue, sort it out.
4.) Speak to your family & friends:
If you are about to quit your job and follow what you want, then you should share it with your family and friends. Family is a wonderful moral support to you, while friends will hold down the fort for you.
5.) Don’t give up:
At some point, you will know what you want in life. Don’t miss it and straightaway follow it. Whatever happens, you shouldn’t give up. You will get to the place where you want to be in no time.
It shows a clear path to find what you want in life. At last, this is where it all comes to an end. If success means sufficient money, a good job, and a good family, go for it.
If success to you means being happy in what you do even with less money, do it. If it means to give something back to people, do it.
Success is also making something of your own, traveling, creating a home-grown brand, writing, etc. the list goes on. Once you define success to you in your terms, then you will know what to do with your life.
You don’t need any advice from others as you’ll know deep down what you want to do with your life.
You might be holding on to the job for some reason, but on the inside quitting is what you want.
So don’t hesitate to quit from the place that you don’t belong to or place that will not allow you to grow. The growing environment is what you should look for in life to strengthen your professional as well as personal life.
If you know for sure that you are going to stay where you in the years to come, then quit it.
"The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same." -- Colin R. Davis
If following your passion is what you want in life, then before you start to take care of your small-term and long-term issues. Small term issues can be about making plans for your work.
For instance, you can start making rough plans, ideas, resources, workforce, workplace, investments from you, good contacts, etc. while you are still working.
The long-term issue is about securing your family. For example: If you are following your passion for starting new-business, then initial days could be financially demanding.
So if you know you want to start your own, begin securing your family financially earlier. Plan your finances. Before you quit the job and follow what you want in life, make sure your family doesn’t pay the price to a great extent. Make your long-term issues sorted while you are still at work.
This one for young talents in the professional world who find it difficult to stay in a place and look for skipping the work quite often. It can be because they need something new that gets them tied to or it could be due to doing the same work over and over again.
In other words, young people are looking for workplaces with new exposures, fun work environments, a more-inclusive nature, no divisors like top or high management authorities, and finally, they look for a very casual work-place. If you have the luxury to do so without any personal constraints, then you can look for a place where you know you will fit in the right. You know what kind of workplace will suit you more to your life.
Are there adventurists lurking inside you? Despite good-job, good-life adventure-seeking people will always find a hole if they don’t do anything adventurous. It’s what they want in their life, to do something adventurous.
People, who love to be adventurous, try new things, pursue what’s exhilarating will never mind about money or other things. If you are an adventure lover, do what you like but with a balance.
Revamp your Bucket-List
Your bucket-list will say what you want in life. A bucket list is not something we write in a specific time; it’s an accumulation of ideas, plans, places, memories, and things-to-do in your life with time in your life. Revamp it.
Do things in your bucket-list even it means a simple trip to a place to eat your favorite meal or to a city or country you like to visit. Every bucket-list will surely have one item that you want to do in your lifetime.
You want something to give back to the community?
Feel like something’s missing even with having a good job and a good life? Do you want to give something back to the community? Go for it. If this is what you want to do in your life, you can find a lot of ways to do so.
Some several organizations and groups do community services, child-health, child-education, medication-supports, sponsoring a child, etc. you can include yourself in any such.
Do you like to fulfill some goals before you begin your path?
You know what you want in life but still, there could be some restrictions and things that stop you from doing so. For instance, you may have some personal goals like securing your family financially, taking care of family, etc.
Before you begin your path, you should talk to your family and friends first. It will help them adjust to what’s coming. It can help your family plan the finances accordingly before you quit your job. If your family knows about it, they can handle the rough times smoothly.
"By nature, we tend to speak our own language. Whatever makes us feel loved is what we do for the other person. But if it is not his/her language, it will not mean to them what it means to us". - Gary Chapman, Things I wish I knew before I got married
Looking for a real Work-life balance?
You got the job you want but still, feel something’s missing? It could be a work-life balance. You like your job so much that you could lose all your focus and time into it. This could cost your personal life.
Analyze yourself and see where the track goes sideways. Focus in your career is important but at the same time, your personal life with family and friends needs you too. It doesn’t matter who you are, a fresher or business person or in top management, everyone looks for work-life balance most of the time in their life.
Health and Lifestyle
Healthy lifestyle and holistic wellness are what people looking for these days in their life amidst this fast world. More people are looking for ways to find peace, mental wellness, good mental health, and overall well-being. People seeking yoga and its related lifestyle are becoming high these days.
If you are passionate about health and lifestyle go for it. We can find people who are passionate about food choices, body-building, following a specific lifestyle, etc. So, if you fall in any of these, go for it.
Passionate about anything?
At some point in life, every person will get a chance to know what they want with life or what they are passionate about for sure. Things that you are most passionate about will always burn deep inside your heart. It could be anything like cooking, writing, traveling, a start-up, sketching, hand-made things, designing, baking, lifestyle-related, art, research, community-services, or anything.
Don’t give a second thought and just follow it. Not many people get the chance to pursue what they are most passionate about. So don’t leave the chance. Take the risk and follow what you want. Initially, you might struggle, but you’ll get where you want to be soon.
Interested in creating something of your own?
Which is good; a stable Safe job? Or quit the work and follow your interest in making something of your own? Young people often find it difficult to choose between these two. If this is what you want in life, if making something on your own, like a start-up is what you want to do, then take the risk of quitting your job and get ready to follow the dreams. If you feel like you need some stable ground (in terms of money or anything) and knowledge to gain before following your dreams, then see to it too.
7 ways to find out:
Figure out what you need
Determine what really bothers you
Determine what makes you truly happy
Let people around you know what you are trying to achieve
Do you find it difficult to choose your forte?
People find it difficult to understand what they want to do in life when they are not able to choose or identify their forte. It depends upon the line of work you are passionate about or interested in.
For example, you could be an art student, but due to financial responsibilities, you could be working in different work-stream. If so, try to look for work in the area which you know you can do better. If not, it will make you feel incomplete. The same goes for working people too. If you feel like you don’t fit in the financials, then go for a field that interests you, say for example technical side.
You should be able to figure out your niche which would eventually happen at some point. Once you know your niche, pursuing it is the smart move. It will make your work well. It will help you understand better things you could do with your life. Pursuing your interest will bring you happiness, innovations, ideas and of course, success.
Verbal communication is essential in order to understand what is going on inside other people. If they do not tell us their thoughts, their feelings, and their experiences, we are left to guess. - Dr. Gary Chapman, Now You're Speaking My Language
Want to establish yourself in your workplace?
Deep down many people expect a common thing called ‘being recognized’ or ‘being noted for their work’ or to put it simply, ‘people want others to see who they are personally and professionally and understand them’. It is the main expectation concerning young talents and even senior people at work.
Being focused in your career, doing hard work is secondary to them, but what they primarily want is recognition. You’ll know this for a fact if you are a working professional looking to make your mark. If recognition at the workplace is all you want right now, then find ways to positively do it. Once you are feeling like you are recognized you will become more aware and focused in your career leading to better possibilities for you in life.
Are you looking for Financial Stability?
Financial stability in life will be the immediate necessity in case you are starting new to work. Being a fresher or someone who is just getting a hang of things at work/business, your focus will be on resolving financial issues in hand i.e. it could be your student loans, personal loans or any other financial commitments.
If you want financial stability in your life, then focusing on your career is important. If financial stability is your immediate focus in life, then work on it. If you pursue what you want without a stable or at least a minimum financial backup, the road can get rougher as we are in a place where the economy plays a vital role in even following your dreams.
We like to help you by giving you different ways to figure out if this is what you want in your life. Without further ado, let’s get this done.
1. Are you looking for Financial Stability?
2. Want to establish yourself in your workplace?
3. Do you find it difficult to choose your forte?
4. Interested in creating something of your own?
5. Passionate about anything?
6. Looking for a real Work-life balance?
7. Health and Lifestyle
8. You want something to give back to the community?
9. Do you like to fulfill some goals before you begin your path?
11. Revamp your Bucket-List
12. The luxury of skipping work without money in mind
13. Short term & Long-term Issues
14. Where do you see yourself?
15. What is ‘success’ to you
To help you figure out what you want in your life we like to put some points in perspective for you here. Consider these points, process it and see what ideas you get about what to do with your life and ‘what exactly do you want from this life’.
You need money but it’s not the ultimate. You need to do work out of your interest and not at the cost of crushing your dreams.
You need a balance. Living life to the fullest doesn’t mean living it recklessly.
Thus, you need a life which should make you happy, have some meaning in it as well as sustainable in the point of finance otherwise; the life you live can seem like an unfilled hole.
Communication sometimes is not what you first hear, listen not just to the words, but listen for the reason. - Catherine Pulsifer
‘What do I want in life’ ‘is the success of the ultimate’ or ‘what is important beyond success in life.’ We can find people who look for something besides having money and a good life. We can see people who could use some big-break in what they do.
To top it all, we can find people who believe strongly about ‘We have one life. Live it to the fullest. Live as you wish’.
So where do we draw the line?
Do we need success or do we need happiness in life or do we need to live in its way?
The buck stops where you listen to yourself and see what you want in your life. You will know then what do with your life. It could be anything starting from a stable job or big money or a startup to that of road trips or travel plans or following art.
But, one cannot deny the fact that this life is all we have so at the end of the day if you don’t feel happy or satisfied with what you do or still feel a hole-to-be-filled, maybe it’s the right time to rethink what you want in life.