“It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties.”
– Abigail Adams
I form the true strength of character when my mind goes through difficulties and challenges in life.
Mental strength and vigor comes when you are put to contend with difficulties in life.
Great characters are not born but built and formed from a powerhouse called life.
Humility, humbleness, respect, and empathy are great characters that life instills in us. We may not understand it before, but after all that we have been through in life, now we will understand.
Once I come out of all the sufferings and challenges in life, I know how changed I would be. I can now understand that the world is not revolving around me alone. I will understand the power of empathy. I can see how people are strong and walking when life threw them down. I get inspiration and self-motivation from them.
We learn to respect and identify with fellow people. We will never know how difficult life can be until we are in such a situation.
The point is, good character is built by contending with life’s difficulties. It’s easy to see a person and say ‘you have changed’. What we don’t realize is the difficulties they faced.
The greatest character’s about smiling when everything in life is going wrong. It’s difficult to look positive and smile when there’s a lot of pain lurking inside.
See the people around you. The mental strength, vigor, faith, and courage has come after their sufferings.
Great character and vigor comes by contending in life.
“Never speak out of anger, never act out of fear, never choose from impatience, but wait... and peace will appear.”
~ Guy Finley
How do you win your day and your life? The answer is simple.
Don’t speak when you are angry.
Don’t direct your outcomes in life based on fear.
Don’t act out of impatience.
"Pause before you speak. Wait before you decide. And, when you are angry, don’t even wait. Just shut yourself down. Take decisions later. It’s winning."
If faced with a difficult situation in a place, or in your life, do three things. Give a pause. Compose yourself. Wait till you feel a sense of peace and calm in your mind and heart. Finally, do what has to be done. The results will have clarity, and the process will be productive.
Same way, do not allow fear taking you over. Acting out of fear leads to bad outcomes. The entire process becomes unproductive. If you let fear get in your way of life, what you built so far can easily come down.
What happens with impatience? Nothing productive has ever come when you choose from impatience. Tolerance and patience are basic virtues that everyone in life needs. Somehow we forget it on the way and make people’s life difficult with our act of impatience.
Don’t act out of anger, impatience, and fear. Pause. Bring peace. Finally, act.
Take the variables of money, status, power, success, etc. out of the life’s equation. What is left out is the true winning. What makes you wonderful on the inside is the true victory you need in life.