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Simple tips to uplift you from depression are:
1. Just write down every single word, emotion, and tear on the paper of your problems. Finally, burn it as if the problems are burning and turning into. You are going to feel confident and handle those problems with ease.
2. Look at the mirror and just say 'YOU WORTH THE BEST.' Trust me with this, and you are going to end up having a self, and you will speak your heart, and definitely, it's going to be awesome.
3. Listen to GOOD MUSIC. Music is a secret solution to every problem. It will just make you happy.
4. Hangout with your friends and have a great time. It will help you to ignore the shit which kills you and help you to gain CONFIDENCE to handle them.
5. This is my personal favorite, and it's going to be your favorite too. GO, WATCH COMEDY SHOWS. Humor helps you to get over things, so this is the best option.
Follow these tips, and I am sure that you are going to have positive results. You will have a different life as well.
Self-motivation is a personal skill of emotional intelligence. Self-motivation is the virtue that pushes our inner soul to achieve goals and fulfill our commitments.
Personal goals can provide motivation better than any counseling. Dreams are something that never lets you sleep. If it can push you to cross your boundaries, then apply that thing positively to taking control of all your emotions that prevent you from evolving.
So think about where you want to see yourself in the next two or three years and set some targets for yourself. Ground them on your strengths and make them pertinent to you. If you can make them exciting and achievable, then this is enough to get you instantly motivated even in your most hardship days.
To master the skill of emotional intelligence, you must have a solid understanding of how your coworkers’ emotions work. Also, study how their actions affect the surrounding people.
The better you can relate to them and works with others, the more successful you will be in your career. Take some time out to practice and you will get overpowering control over your emotions.
WORK ON YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS
Good social skills are elements of emotional intelligence. A person with higher emotional intelligence can handle good news and bad news with equal maturity. Having good social skills is exceptional art. But it is worth to put all your efforts.
In building good social skills, the below tips can be helpful.
1.) Learn how to resolve conflicts in a team. Comprehending conflict resolution skills are vital if you want to work together as a squad.
2.) Improve your communication skills. How well you communicate with others will decide the fact that how much approachable you are at your working place.
3.) Learn to praise others, especially when you are a leader. You can inspire their loyalty and earn the trust of your team by giving praise when they already have achieved it.
Sometimes, the situation becomes difficult not because of an individual’s or team’s fault. But sometimes, it is the time that is not right. In anger or an emotionally vulnerable state of mind, we do not understand all these points. And we react on impulse. Then, those reactions backfire when the time comes.
It is easy to support your point of view and defend your perception. But next time, take some time to look at situations from other people’s perspectives. Place yourself in the place where the accused is then. Try to think on his/her behalf. You will get more clarity on the reality of the situation.
Your body language can make the situation more difficult for the opposite person to explain to you why and how the wrong happens. If you require knowing the reality of the situation, then you should assure the speaker about his security. So he can speak to you the truth. Learn to read the body language of yours and others. It can be a real asset in a leadership role, because when you’ll be better able to determine how someone truly feels then you will better respond more accurately to the situation.
"The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same." -- Colin R. Davis
APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR MISTAKE
An emotionally intelligent person can realize his mistake and also understand the importance and positive impact of apologizing.
Sorry is a small word but powerful. It can bend any difficult situation in your favor. If you acknowledge that it is your mistake, then learn to say sorry no matter what position you hold in the office or your workplace. Apologizing does not make oneself weak but gives more strength to avoid similar mistakes.
The next time, when you face some hardships or challenges at work, be very careful how you react. Shouting and blaming is not the right choice of an ideal employee. You may be a leader or just a new intern to the team. But when you shout at your coworkers, you show how much mentally weak you are. An emotional intelligent person shows his intelligence in calmness even in the most difficult situation.
Practice deep-breathing exercises to calm yourself. You can even send a mail of all the cussing words those you want to say. Express those emotions where it is not harmful will make you calm sometimes. Counting numbers is also a proven method to calm oneself.
This is all about to be in control. Especially when you become the boss or gain some allowed power at the workplace, in uneasy situations, you lose calm.
There are a few ways to be in control.
I) Value yourself
Sometimes, when we encounter a situation where our moral values or ethics are being challenged, we lose control as an individual. Know your values. You should know on which ground you will not compromise your ethics at all. Do you know what values are the most important points of your personality?
Have a heart to heart conversation with yourself and find your “code of ethics.”
When you know what you want most and what is important to you, then you probably won’t have to confuse when you face a moral or ethically challenging decision.
II) PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY
Do not blame others for your mistakes. If something goes wrong, then it could happen because of your colleague’s negligence or your junior’s lack of experience. But do not ignore the point that it could also happen because of you. Before analyzing and examine the situation why the incident might take place, do not blame others.
Self-awareness is a crucial point for all those people who want to be more emotionally intelligent. An emotional intelligent person never gets manipulated by his own emotions. He knows how to overcome and control all that emotional flow within him.
To know oneself better, you need to have self-awareness.
1. Next time, when you feel to gain anger or emotional outburst, all you need is to take a step backward. You should maintain yourself calm then. Try to make yourself calm physically and mentally. Take a seat and take some deep breaths. If your state of mind is not relaxed enough to take any decision, then try to resist formulating any additional move on the existing crisis. When you are not mentally prepared to handle stress, every activity can make your crisis worse.
2. Also, always keep a notebook with you. Whenever this kind of situation you face, after calming yourself, write the incident. It will keep a history of all the incidents where you might feel to be less emotionally intelligent because of your reaction towards the incident.
For further self-assessment, it would be a valuable document for you.
OBSERVE & STUDY PEOPLE
With each passing day, we are getting busier in our personal and professional lives that we lost touch with our emotions. To discover where our emotional intelligence lies, we need to reconnect to it. That’s why you must try to observe and study people around you at your office or your business place after finishing your daily work. You must have someone who is more mentally intelligent and developed than you. Try to study for every single person. After that, you need to distinguish the difference between you and that person.
CROSS-CHECK YOUR BEHAVIOR
In modern times, pieces of information and people’s opinion spread faster than our thoughts. That’s why it has become easier to create a generalized perception.
But have you ever cross-checked your opinion in any specific matter? If you think it is not important then you probably preventing yourself from accepting the fault in your thought process. Our mind palace is a state of a war zone of conflicting opinions on where your own opinions might get manipulated by what other people are thinking about. Think and rethink about the situation and your behavior towards that.
"By nature, we tend to speak our own language. Whatever makes us feel loved is what we do for the other person. But if it is not his/her language, it will not mean to them what it means to us". - Gary Chapman, Things I wish I knew before I got married
Emotional intelligence is the rare ability to understand and manage your own emotions and all of those surrounding you. With emotional intelligence, you gain control over your emotional flow. People being emotionally intelligent to understand what their emotions mean to them. They also become very much careful about how these emotions can affect other people’s lives. They can manipulate their own emotions and others.
How many times you have a terrible day at the office and you lose your temper. As a result, your HR gives you an ultimatum. If you lose your temper at an interview, then you might assure yourself that you have already lost the job before even joining.
Have you ever thought about someone who does not lose his control? You might have heard about someone who has the complete trust of the staff. The team listens to the person and follow orders. The person is easy to talk to, and always makes careful, informed decisions in very crucial and pressurized situations.
Maybe yes, or maybe not
But an emotionally intelligent person does not lose his control in difficult situations. Emotional intelligence is the new scale to more accurately show whether a person will be a successful working professional or not.
For a successful working professional, you must have a higher degree of emotional intelligence.
Here I have shared
SOME TIPS TO DEVELOP EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE THAT WILL EVENTUALLY HELP YOU IN YOUR CAREER.