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Repeated practice gets us to a level where our skill becomes our reflex. The skill is acquired but at mediocre levels.
Dedication and enthusiasm at the start are high, but we tend to lose focus in later stages as the tasks become repetitive and routine. Consecutively, minute details go unnoticed.
Examples: cooking, driving, washing clothes, cycling, etc.
Taking a single example…
Most of us know cycling. But professionals who take part in cycling competitions build up their knowledge of this skill to higher levels such that they can win races using various strategies and techniques imbibed through smart practice.
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- Eliminate excuses.
- Practice gratitude.
- Visualize success.
- Know your worth.
- Quit complaining.
- Forgive your past.
- Make sacrifices.
- Respect people.
- Learn to say no.
- Live in the now
- Focus more.
- Want more.
- Have faith.
▪ Who tolerated you when you were angry
▪ Who defended you while you were absent
▪ Who made you happy when you were worried
▪ Who will support you when you are defeated
• You can't please everyone.
• No one is too busy not to answer you.
• The world owes absolutely nothing to you.
• Each person puts his own interests over others.
• No one will come and save you from your own life.
1. Be open to learning
Life is about learning constantly. If you continue to learn, you will find new experiences in life. There is always something new to learn every day. So don’t stop learning. Learning makes you a more grown person, and you will become smarter.
2. Success has no shortcut
We need to work hard to earn success. We have to go through a process, and we cannot change that. There is a time when we feel frustrated when we feel like giving up, but that is all a process of success.
Nowadays, people don’t want to experience the process that comes in the path of success, they want a shortcut, but that’s not possible.
3. Hardships make us strong
We all go through pains and struggles in life. There are moments when we feel that we don’t have the strength to move forward. We should understand that everything happens for a reason. Everyone has to face hardships, and the purpose of this is to make you strong.
4. Time is precious
Time is a very precious thing. It passes quickly and cannot get recovered. Most people do not realize how precious time is, and they spend time on useless things such as money, which cannot buy them happiness. Try to focus on things that make us happy because they will never come back once the time is gone.
1. Let it go
There are some things in life that we can’t change. Don’t continue doing something that makes you unhappy. Things like this take time to recover. If you learn this quality, you will start to celebrate all the sad moments that come into your life, and you will grow from it as the good moments are still to come. So don’t feel lonely and depressed.
2. Appreciate nature
Nowadays, we are dependant on technology so much that we do not realize the beauty of nature. If we see how the sun rises or sets, how the clouds move, we will feel more energized. Try to focus on these things. They make us strong, and we will start to enjoy life.
3. Practice kindness and empathy
If we want to live a meaningful life, these two things are essential. There are so many people who depend on us due to their needs. If we just greet them well, this brings a sense of warmth to their life. The best thing we can offer is kindness, so we should be kind to others.
4. Don’t ever give up
Giving up is not an option in life. If you want to fulfill your dreams or ambitions, don’t think that it is impossible. Work hard to achieve the goal you will never get failed. Just focus on working hard, and definitely, you will achieve what you want.
There are so many valuable lessons we have learned from life. Life does not always go as planned; it surprises us every moment. The key to this is to keep moving.
Here is a list of lessons that I have learned so far, significantly impacting my life.
1. The world will not change; change yourself.
If you want to change the world, change yourself first. Change always makes us better. Many people want to change the world, but they need to change their habits and actions first.
We should stop comparing ourselves to others as this will not lead us to anything; instead, we will lose ourselves. The only way through which we can grow is to change. If we accept the change, we will conduct a better life.
2. Learn to apologize
When we do something wrong, we should learn to say sorry. Sorry is a miracle word. It has an outstanding impact not only on ourselves but on the one we are saying sorry. It will strengthen our spirit.
Learning how to apologize is an essential part of life. Some people think that it will make them weak, but that’s not the truth.
3. Things get better with time
Time does not remain the same; sometimes, it brings happiness and sometimes sorrow. There is much to live in life; things that make us unhappy will eventually go away as nothing is permanent in life. If bad things come to you, think of the amazing things that happened in your life.
1. Try brain training exercises.
People who often play word puzzles or crosswords have better brain function. Spending just fifteen minutes a day on brain training activities can have a great impact on concentration. It enhances your processing and problem-solving skills.
2. Commit yourself to the task
When you start any task, be determined that you will complete it within the specified time. Try to avoid distractions. Don’t reply to emails or texts while studying; instead, put your phone away. If you are committed to the task, you will definitely complete it.
3. Make a study routine
Once you make study your routine, you will never spend a day without it. Habits are so powerful that if you make them part of your life, they will never leave you.
So make study time a part of your daily routine and stick to your schedule. Review your notes regularly. This also helps in concentrating on your studies.
1. Avoid distractions
Put your phone away while studying. Distraction such as Twitter, Facebook, texting doesn’t allow you to concentrate on your studies. So don’t respond to them or turn off your phone. Switch it on only when you are taking a break or when you are done with your work.
2. Study with regular breaks
Breaks are very important to enhance your learning capacity. If you don’t take a break and study, the brain will not think something new and will be unable to give you ideas, so make sure to take regular breaks.
Regular breaks allow your mind to recharge with fresh oxygen so that you can refocus on the topic and feel more energized.
3. Improve sleep
If you are deprived of sleep, this affects your concentration ability. It affects your mood and performance. Sleep at least eight hours a day. This makes you feel more refreshing.
If you have problems with sleeping, then try these things,
● Turn off the TV
● Keep your room at a comfortable temperature
● Go back to bed and wake up at the same time as you do every day
● Exercise regularly
4. Be friendly with nature.
A regular dose of nature improves your attention and your ability to concentrate. Spending time in some green place or drinking tea while sitting on a lawn could make a vast difference to your concentration. You will also start to admire nature.
Concentrating on your studies has become hard these days with advanced technologies. The study does not mean just reading the lines; it needs understanding and grasping knowledge. With distractions, you cannot focus on your studies. To increase concentration, try these things,
1. Find a comfortable environment.
You should try to eliminate distractions as much as possible while studying so that you can focus. Find a quiet place such as a private room or library for studying. Keep in mind that everyone has their study environment, which they like.
If you do not know your studying preferences, then do some experiments to check your preferences, such as studying in a group or alone, studying with music or without. If you find a comfortable place, it becomes easy for you to concentrate on your study.
2. Keep all the study materials in one place.
Keep your study materials notes, papers, textbooks, or anything else in one place so that you don’t disrupt yourself in getting these things.
3. Good nutrition
Keep your nutrition right. Eat a balanced diet, and eat at least three times a day as a healthy body means a healthy brain. Proper nutrition helps in concentrating on studies, and eating some snacks before study energizes your body.
Don’t eat a heavy diet; instead, chose a light one as a rich diet makes you sleepy.
4. Make a study plan
It is hard to get through everything when there are too many things to study. Set a goal, like you will study one to three chapters by evening. Take a break and then continue your study. It will make studying easy for you, and you will never get frustrated.
1. Start by doing small.
One thing that stops you from making positive changes in your social life is that you are overwhelmed. Set small goals and accomplish one goal at a time. Try to make eye contact if you are a total beginner to your social life and smile at strangers when you are out.
After that, say hello and engage them in small talk. If you are comfortable with it, you can hold a long conversation. It helps because you start small and keep doing it until you are efficient. Start small and be patient; the results are always worth it.
2. Allow yourself to make mistakes.
Life is all about making mistakes and then correct them to lead a peaceful life. If you make a mistake, it is totally normal. Everyone makes a mistake; no one is perfect. Try to learn from your mistakes.
Remember that you are doing the best you can in the current situation, so don’t let yourself down when you make a mistake. Focus on what you can do and let go of the rest. Life is not about perfection; it is about making mistakes and learning from them. If you adopt this mindset, you will enjoy your journey to becoming more socially confident.
3. Accept who you are
If you want to be someone else, you are just wasting yourself. If we want to overcome self-esteem, the key to this is self-acceptance. If you accept yourself as you are, other people will also accept you as well, and you will become more confident. This can lead you to greater happiness and more fulfilling life.
You should focus on your social qualities rather than thinking about negative qualities. It will not only help you better accept yourself, but you will also move towards your goal more confidently.
Confidence makes us appear more attractive to others; it is a beautiful thing. Success always comes by taking action, and with our lack of confidence, we don’t take action. We want to speak in a large group, but we are afraid that we might be shut down by anyone.
We want to meet new people, but we are shy to start a conversation. Most people don’t do the things they want to do due to a lack of confidence. A lack of confidence can lead to isolation.
Here are a few steps that help us to become socially confident.
1. Adopt an effective attitude
You should adopt an effective attitude as no one is looking at you or judging you; they don’t have time for this. They are probably wondering what you are thinking about them, so stop misleading yourself instead develop a good attitude.
This is the key to success. Think of interacting with people as a fun and pleasant thing. It is not a matter of life and death; take a step.
2. Change your environment
Always be aware of the company you keep. The company you keep has a significant impact on the kind of person you become later. If you want to become more talkative and confident, keep company with socially confident people.
Try to be around them as much as possible and pay attention to how they think. Adopt their positive attitudes; it will make you confident and socially active in life.
1. Be nice to others
It is natural behavior; as we grow up, we learn values and morals that make us nice people. Being nice to others makes us feel happier and is key to our success. If you’re kind to people, they trust you more and make a good company, thus leading you to your success. It brings less stress when we are nice to others.
2. Look people in the eye.
When you greet people with a smile and gentle eye contact, you are showing affection towards them. You are telling them that you are happy with them. This behavior helps to build confidence in both.
Most people who lack self-confidence are fearful of connecting with others. They are shy about how they can smile at someone, but this is not bad behavior; instead, it builds self-confidence, and others feel free to talk to you.
3. Allow yourself to take risks.
Great opportunities come from taking risks. It shows confidence and is a great way to present yourself as a leader. If we do not take risks, we will not learn from them. We learn from risks, and this leads us to a new path.
Taking risks can sometimes lead to failure, which in turn can help you grow as a person. Many of life’s great goals can be achieved if you go out of your comfort zone. Failure provides an essential tool for building character, so don’t stop yourself from taking risks due to fear of failure. Take action and let life be yours.
When our self-esteem is higher, we feel better about ourselves, and we take failure as less painful. It becomes easy to believe that we do not have the ability for this, or we are not worth it if we fail to achieve our goals.
Self-confidence is very important if you want to achieve your goals. If you have the right commitment and effort, you can build your self-confidence in a short period. It is not an impossible thing.
1. Believe in yourself
The first step in creating self-esteem is to believe in yourself. It is your responsibility to take charge of your own self and your beliefs, including belief in your talents, potentials, and abilities. If you have belief in yourself, you will know how to live; to build self-esteem and self-confidence, we should get rid of our fears and self-doubt.
Everything you get in life is because of your belief in yourself and that you can do this. Try to believe in yourself throughout your life to build confidence and higher self-esteem.
2. Think positively about yourself
You should continuously remind yourself that you are a unique and special person despite your problems. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Try to challenge your negative thoughts.
Most people struggle in their lives by thinking positively about themselves. Thinking about your positive attitudes and letting go of negative ones is not a difficult task. You can develop self-confidence and self-esteem by your this attitude.
Concentration determines the success of a person in any field. Improving concentration in the long term requires a great amount of effort and time. The results won’t be productive if you practice it for a whole week if the brain is not performing well. There are a few simple ways through which you can improve your concentration.
1. Keep a plan in mind
Always make a plan for whatever you do. If you sit down without a plan, you can easily get distracted, and it is just a waste of time. You will be distracted by a variety of useless thoughts instead of devoting yourself to complete one task.
To avoid distractions, keep a plan in mind, take a five to ten minutes break between work, and use this time to check emails and messages. When making a plan, give enough time to sleep, work, and entertainment. Don’t give all your time to work, leave some time for entertainment as well.
2. Meditate
Meditation improves our power of concentration. How to concentrate is the first thing we focus on when we try to meditate. If you give some time to meditation, you can easily concentrate on your tasks.
According to one study, even a few minutes of daily meditation can help improve focus and performance. It is a proven technique to increase your concentration.
“The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your Voice, Your Mind, Your Story, Your Vision. So Write and Draw and Build and Play and Dance and Live as only you can”
- Neil Gaiman
You are Unique. Like you, every individual is a unique piece of life put on earth. There’s nothing more exciting and striking than ‘you’ and your ‘uniqueness’.
Circumstances and People can take everything from you. What they can’t take from you is your voice and your soul.
We get inspired by people for their ‘uniqueness’. We tend to admire people who have their own ideas and traits.
Folks who are being themselves attract more loyal people around them. Being 'who you are' gives more freedom than pretending to be someone else.
Same way, following your vision, goals, dreams, and life-needs will bring more happiness instead of comparisons. People who built themselves up from scratch had one thing special.
Similarly, happy people have the same special thing. Wondering what it is? They never stop being themselves. They value their voice.
Listening to your soul can make your life easier and happier.
Finally, everything you achieved will become meaningless when you don’t do it from your soul.
As the quote says, the one thing that nobody else has is you. Nobody can take away your vision, your mind, your heart, and your soul.
Nobody can live your life! No one can take your place! Your voice and vision are unique. Go write your own story!
“No need to hurry. No need to sparkle. No need to be anybody but oneself”
- Virginia Woolf, A Room of One's Own
There’s a wonderful thing about being oneself. You get freedom. Honesty becomes a part of you. What you want in life becomes clearer. Recognizing your good and bad, flaws and perfections become easy.
By being oneself, there comes no need for acceptance, validation, inclusion or any other. The reason is, when you begin to search for validation and acceptance from outside, you lose a piece of your soul inside.
I use to admire some wonderful people who are themselves in spite of life’s happening. I never see a hurry in them. Being at peace comes easily to them.
Being oneself is what all life’s philosophies are about if you ask me. It’s the easiest and noblest thing you can do. Honoring oneself brings self-respect, peace, and value to your heart, mind, and soul altogether.
Ever seen how people are so genuine and humble that it makes us inspired instantly? It’s because they are happy being themselves.
Inspiration is different. But the intention to be somebody is different. If you like being somebody else, it means you find yourself insufficient.
Don’t give much pressure on yourself. To pretend and to fake can seem good for the time being. Once it comes out, people can lose their hope and trust they had on you.
Don’t lose good people in life by not being yourself. Life’s value lies in having good people around you. Being oneself is the best way to achieve it.
By being yourself, you show the world a chance to see who you are really. Let good people stay. Until then, no need to sparkle. No need to prove. No need to hurry. Just Be Yourself!
“The Weak Can Never Forgive. Forgiveness is the Attribute of the strong”
- MK Gandhi
Do you think it’s easy to forgive? The answer will be a ‘No’. It’s not easy to forgive people and things that put us down.
That’s why forgiveness is considered a strong attribute in building a character. Only the strong can forgive. It sets them free. Weak can never forgive.
They hold on to it and suffer. Forgiveness comes when you want to move on in life instead of staying down.
Forgiveness comes when you value and respect the goodness of relationships instead of people who abuse it. It applies to personal as well as professional life.
Most importantly, people forgive to make themselves at peace. Once you start forgiving the negative things people did to you, your heart becomes peaceful and happy.
Forgiving people who did you wrong is the best punishment that you can give. It will not be easy. Practically, it’s too difficult to forgive. With time, you will learn to forgive.
By holding on to your negative happenings, you can see how miserable life can be. Forgive! Forgiveness liberates your soul from emotions that try to bring you down.
Forgiving is for ‘yourself’ too. Forgive yourself when you have to. If you can forgive people, it means that you have the best power and great character that life can offer you. I don’t mean to let go of all things happened. Just, learn the lesson. Forgive and Don’t Forget.
Most importantly, Forgive people!
Forgive yourself when you have to!
“Do what you need to and enjoy life as it happens”
- John Scalzi
Set aside all your success, failures, money and dreams for a while. Earth rotates. Life still happens. Happy people can see how life happens every day.
They do what they do and what they need to do. That’s it. Nothing more and nothing less! Why don’t we try it? For once, let’s clear our mind from all the worries, commitments, burdens and stress for the day.
We can see clearly how life blooms. The next thing we do is we plan life. Plans don’t work all the time. Life has its own terms and conditions that don’t fit with us all the time.
Let life happen. Go with the flow and see how peaceful life can be. At times, that is the only possible solution that you can use to solve life.
The part where we say ‘Do what you need to do’ covers everything in our life. It involves our work, our personal life, our dreams, and our goals. Do what you have to do to.
Work hard. Have Fun on the way. Celebrate even little things that bring you joy. Don’t stress over the results.
Do what you need to do with all your heart. Set the rest aside. Be in the present. Do things to make your ‘Present’ right. Let life happen.
Learn not to let bad experiences define who you are. Cultivate resilience and inner strength to overcome adversity and thrive despite challenges.
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But, I refuse to be reduced by it” - Maya Angelou
Bad things happen. Don’t let it get to you. A real achievement for you is to not let all the bad things happen to affect you.
Of course, it changes you. But don’t let bad experiences reduce who you are. Allowing failures to change who you are is different from changing who you are.
Take the lessons only. Don’t change the goodness you have. I can see people justify who they are now because of bad experiences that happened to them.
I also see people who are happier, humbler, and clearer about what life is like after all the bad things that happened.
Which one are you? To stay in character and grow the goodness you have in the middle of life’s failures is a true accomplishment. That is where the true spirit stays. Nothing else matters.
It’s easy to say, ‘They did Bad. I became bad. The hardest part is that they did badly. I’m still better than them. The moment you do 'good' to the people who did you 'bad,' you become a true beauty.
Nothing shames the bad people than the good you do to them. ‘Forgiving’ hurts them more than you can imagine. Be the better person here.
Don’t ever let failures, bad experiences, and negative people around you reduce you. Don’t let them kill your goodwill and soul. Let all the challenges you face make you stronger!
Failures are always temporary. Change by what happened to you. But, don’t change your good.
“It took me 17 Years and 114 Days to become an overnight success”
- Lionel Messi
Is there a thing called ‘overnight successes? Definitely No! Success doesn’t happen like that. It takes a lot of work.
This quote is a good reminder of what it takes to achieve success. Nothing is ever achieved overnight.
If you look around, we only see people who work and work. Eventually, they succeed. For those who think they can achieve success shortly, well, think again.
Temporary short routes for success are more like a dead end. You can travel but you cannot go further than a point. You will be forced to stop somewhere. It becomes difficult to get past after some time.
True success will never be overnight. for instance, An invention can become an overnight success. But, the hard work and dedication involved with it will be for months and years.
Scoring a perfect goal can make someone a sensation. Behind the perfect goal, there will be years of training, dedication, and practice. Running a big business empire or a humble home setup is not different. They are the same when it comes to attaining success. It’s achieved through sincerity, commitment, honesty, skill, and efforts.
True success is all the above. It applies to everything in life. An honest fruitful success is what everyone wants. For that, all you need to do is work, and work. If the thing you do is what you like, then, accomplishing success becomes a fun ride for you.
Work! Work towards what you like!
Nothing comes overnight, Especially Success!
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