Let us start this topic with a good example!Today on the metro train I noticed a gentleman shouting on the call, maybe to his secretary for not arranging car this morning. Almost all the passengers were quite disturbed because of this. Well, my station came, and I stepped out of the train. There on the platform, I saw an old man in white pajamas, selling cucumber. He was sweating a lot. Still, he was having a different feeling on his face, a sort of satisfaction.Why? Why a person who is rich enough to take a ticket to a metro train is not happy? But a man who does not earn enough to even feed himself two times a day is happy like anything? What is the difference? And more importantly, why is the difference?=> To what happiness is related?Is happiness related to the external world or to the state of your mind? State of your mind, right? If your happiness was attached to something outside, then why this happens that one person is happy and the other is sad? Is it possible? One person is happy for his or her marriage while the other is more than happy for his or her divorce. This happens because happiness is not something that is linked to external matter. Happiness is a state of your mind. Therefore, one of us might be crying for a particular position, but the other one is happy like anything for exactly the same situation.Let us take an example, imagine a boy who is the topper of his class and another boy is a backbencher who hardly passes the exams. The topper boy secured ninety percent in the exam but came to the second position in the class, because of which he was very depressed. On the other hand, the other boy who used to be a backbencher passed that same exam this time with fifty percent, and he was so happy that it could not be expressed.So, happiness is nothing but the condition of your mind, how you feel and all!Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do is in harmony.~Mahatma Gandhi ⭕ WHAT IS HAPPINESS?You can say happiness is this and that, but what is happiness in an aspect of life? Happiness is your life energies are happening in a more cheerful way than it normally happens. Like, it may happen that you are medically diagnosed as ill, but you still feel delighted. For example, if a sixty-five-year-old man came to know that he has lung cancer on the day of her daughter's marriage, he also sounds ebullient and happy. Why? Because his mind is in a state of relaxation for her daughter's future!So, happiness means your life energies are exuberant, and depression means your life energies are low, and it remains the same.There are various different ways to describe happiness, but only those people will know its real meaning who are actually happy. There is nobody I'm this world who has not been happy. Everybody is happy, but the only thing is all of them do not know how to maintain it.Think about yourself. How many times did you catch a moment of joy in the last twenty-four hours? One? Two? Three? How many? Now, imagine when you were seven years old. How many times did you catch a moment of joy in twenty-four-hour at that time? Many, right? When you were a child, somebody has to make you unhappy! Now, somebody has to make you happy!Everything we do is in pursuit of a search for happiness. Your education, your career, your family, or your business!⭕ SCIENCE BEHIND HAPPINESSHappiness is all related to the chemicals that our mind secret in a particular situation. This chemical is nothing but hormones. Those hormones are, ◆ Dopamine ◆ Oxytocin ◆ Endorphin ◆ Serotonin⭕ SIGNS OF HAPPY PERSONA happy person always feels good about others and himself too.1. Smile.This is something most commonly seen. Happy people have a beautiful smiling faces. Their attitude attracts people a lot. People generally love to talk with happy people. They spread their happiness with others.2. Positivity.Being happy and delighted is an amazing feeling which develops positivity in us and boosts our confidence. This further helps us to achieve our goals. Happiness gives you immense pleasure, and it will attract more and more positivity in your life. 3. Active person.Happiness is the source of success. If you are more happy, you will attract success toward yourself. You can achieve whatever you want.4. Ready to accept no matter what comes in the way.It is scientifically proven that when you are happy, you automatically become healthy. And when you become healthy, you work harder, smarter, and more creatively to get your goal.5. Do not expect a lot!When you are happy, you attract more love to your life. You will be better in your relationships. Well, I think this is more than enough to understand that the importance of happiness and get it as the most important in our life.⭕ PSYCHOLOGY OF BEING HAPPYAccording to this law of attraction, it is believed that a positive mindset of us will bring a positive response in our life. And, being negative will dump us on the negative side of one's life. Yes, it is true that we are not having any scientific proof for the approval of this law. But it is sure that our mind plays an amazing role in it. Being positive will affect our surroundings positively and, being positive will boost up our state of mind. This will make us feel good and amazing. Being happy will help us to enjoy each and every part of our life to its fullest.⭕ HAPPINESS AND HEALTHIf you are happy, then your mind gets a signal and starts releasing happy hormones. This hormone helps our body to function really well! Happiness is something that affects your body or says health a lot! There are many scientific types of research that believe this or the psychological reason behind it. What happens to you when you are happy? Let us see, 1. You feel good about almost everything. 2. You start enjoying every moment of your life. 3. You start expecting really good things. 4. You get positive vibes. 5. You start understanding the importance of your own existence. 6. You feel happy after reaching a target point.⭕ IS HAPPINESS A FINAL DESTINATION? Happiness brings a drastic change in your life! As said, you start feeling good about everything. And so, you start expressing your love or gratitude towards others. Expressing Gratitude makes you more happy which further connects you to exactly the same frequency of whatever you want. This is the same as the law of attraction. Hence, you get more and more! There is only one happiness in life, to love and to be loved! ~George SandAs quoted by Rumi, If something makes you happy in this world, you should think of what will happen to you if that thing were taken away.Will you lose happiness? Yes, if you found it in the external factor. No, if you were happy from within. Because you will still have those beautiful memories in your head which will keep reminding you of cheerful moments. Try to be happy all the time!
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A split-second of happiness
A very favorite song of mine has this line in it, “We are not promised tomorrow.” How true is that!! Yes, we do not have enough time to wait for happiness to happen to us. Life could end in any split second. And make every second of it count with joy and happiness.
Not every day could be good, but there is always an option in hand, to just keep moving forward with the charm and experience. Liberate yourself from all that forms delusion of happiness that is, materialism. Yes, I know it is inevitable to possess certain things in modern life to live. But make sure that it does not be the only reason behind your happiness.
Feel the presence of eternal peace within you. There are ways to understand this through prayers or meditations. When you realize that there is only happiness in everything, you will not get any other emotions since the rest all do not even exist. Do not just keep it with you; be the source of happiness and harmony around. Because spreading around happiness doubles it within you.
Do not define happiness with respect to materialism, situations, or people around you. Happiness is just You. Nothing else! We all have heard of people explaining their emotions as themselves. We hardly hear them say, “I feel happy,” “I feel sad”; rather, they mention “I am happy,” “I am sad.”
Hence, we take the forms of emotions that we feel, and, in that process, we forget that they are just emotions, and they do not define what we are. Make sure to distant yourself from every other emotion and even if they touch you, let them stay for a very minimum time such that happiness covers the rest of the time.
Factors of happiness
There are few basic factors to follow to keep the feeling of happiness alive and active in life. First, stop finding mistakes in everything and everyone around. No one is perfect. And if you find mistakes around, then you will not have time to live happily.
Next is, never let the past ruin what you have in the present or what you want in the future. Kill the fear of the future and burn away the pain of the past.
Stop judging people for what they are. Everyone is in the place (literally and philosophically) of life due to what they have gone through in life. Try to be more understanding and show empathy rather than judging them.
Even if you find them make mistakes, assure them that you forgive them and let them know that you do not judge them for the same. This would give a chance for them never to repeat the mistake and develop great happiness in the minds of both of you.
Teach yourself to forgive and accept them as what they are. The same goes for situations in life. Accept what it is and keep harmony with everything happening around you. Remember to mention how much you care for your loved ones.
Life could sometimes look full of disappointments but take time to tell your loved ones that you will always be there for them. It not only brings happiness but also confidence and positivity in each one’s life.
It is totally possible to hate people for something terrible they had done to you but still be there for them. That takes a lot of effort to forgive, but once you cross that line of forgiveness, it flows smoothly then onwards.
There could be few circumstances when you realize that something is over, or it may seem like the destination is reached but keep moving forward in life.
Meanwhile, when you are being supported or loved, make sure to use encouraging words in everyday conversations like “I am grateful to have you in my life.”
Yes, nothing brings more happiness than appreciating what you have. That is another way of living your own life by giving it to others. The irony is, there are people who say that “I am afraid to be happy, because when I feel happy, then I know that for sure something terrible would happen such that it destroys all my happiness.”
Well, yes, by thinking that, you had already triggered that terrible thing to happen subconsciously. Fear is the biggest enemy of happiness. There is no such thing as a good time or a bad time. There is just time, and it is always NOW.
Every second in your hand is not repeatable; it is always renewed as another one. So, once wasted, it can never be brought back to existence. Do not wait for a good time, since every second you have is a good time if you manage to maintain a state of happiness under all the circumstances.
Happiness is not something you get or want. It is that “you are.” Do not wait for it to happen; it is already there; just realize it and be it! Create your own happiness.