"Failures are stepping stones towards success." Since our childhood, we have come across this proverb and are always told that it is obvious to fail on our path sometimes. We are always expected to not look upon failure and keep on marching ahead towards the road of success. But we are never told how to deal with failure and to let go and move on from the setbacks.
Indeed failures are opportunities in disguise for new road maps towards your development, but when it comes to accepting it, we all find ourselves in the toughest situation. It is easier to talk a lot about failure being a motivation and that it inspires us more to taste the flavor of success. But the one who is being banged by the failure knows how difficult it is to withstand a stormy rain even if you have an umbrella. There are many people, many great leaders who talk about failure and romanticize the thought of moving and looking for success after that. Sometimes people even think that setbacks are not a big deal to tackle about.
They think they will cope up with it anyhow and would easily keep pushing forward on their paths. But to tell you, sometimes it is not that easy! Now I know you must be thinking that I give up easily on things. But the fact is I am not giving up on my path, but I am accepting the truth that sometimes failures may pull us behind, but it is we who need to challenge ourselves for cutting the rope by which we are tied to it. You cannot avoid failures after all. Where there is a success, there will be a lot of hurdles of failures in between. Failures are inevitable, and hence we must learn to tackle them.
Often failures not only drain us mentally but also make us tired physically. They suck out our energy and also lower our self-confidence. They create traumas in our life and also in the surroundings that are influenced by us.
It is a requisite that we groove out of this mud pitch. To sweep out mental breakdown through defeats, we must practice a few habits which we always do in our daily life. Here are a few ways which you can follow if you are experiencing the same kind of trauma or mental instability:
1. Learn how you react to things :
In the end, it is about how much you know yourselves. Learn and note down situations that trigger you apart. Recognize your feelings to examine your actions. You can filter out much negativity around you if you try to limit the expanse from within.
You can secure yourselves by suppressing your impulsive reflex towards the things that are not happening according to your terms. Many times we get frustrated and act very aggressively on things that we might regret later.
Taking decisions and acting on things that we might not like to do otherwise will lead you to the wrong way. Better decide to stay calm and composed. Know your trigger points, and don't let them get pulled.
2. Find your space from the mess:
Sometimes it is okay to take breaks from your routine. There is nothing wrong with taking lazy vacations when you are not in the mood to work. You may sit with your work all day and land up completing not even a quarter part of it.
This will not take you to fetch any results, and you will end up getting failed. Instead, if you take short breaks and then focus on your work completely when you feel energetic and motivated, you will be more likely to achieve your goal earlier.
3. Prepare yourselves for failure:
Keep in mind that you will be banged upon a lot of defeats on your way from the very start. Sometimes you may even think that you are on the wrong path or doing things that are not meant for you.
In such situations, you must tell yourselves that you begin by agreeing with the norms that you will fail. You must make yourselves remember that there is no right path. It is the path that you are going to make right. It is the path that you will make for yourselves.
4. Neglect the surrounding voices :
"People will criticize. Don't catch their hands."Society will always be upset about what you do. Stop getting validations about what you are doing in your life from others.
People will always discuss and laugh at your failures because it is the only thing they want to see. It is you who have to decide what you take and learn the habit of letting go of people who cause hindrance in your mental peace.
You must remember that people will forget about your chapter, and they hardly bother to care. Don't stick your emotions in the wrong place and rather focus on writing a better story for yourself.
5. Understand it is an illusion of your emotions :
Sometimes the setbacks may not be that trouble-causing than the negative emotions we develop because of encountering failures. Our emotions can enact the entire situation as a giant trauma in our minds.
We think, and we make us believe that we are at a greater loss than really what we are actually dealing with. You must understand that the situation is not that difficult, and it is your thoughts that are draining you.
6. Accept the situation you are in :
Accept what is thrown at you in your way. Running from situations will fetch you nothing but a mark of failure. Learn to recognize your situations and their causes.
Tackle the hurdles and figure out things to get back on track again. Accept that you can fail, and you may lack something inside you.
Try to figure it out and grow from it. Remember that you are strong, and you will come out of this situation. Be patient in the process.
7. How to find the motivation to move on?:
It is dumb to cry on spoilt milk. Things that have already gone out of our hands can't be undone. Hence it is wiser to move on and not look back at failures.
You should consider this failure as a new lesson that has taught you many values through experiences. You should consider your setbacks as your motivation to try even harder the next time.
Grow your skills and get grounded in your principles. Learn from your past mistakes and never repeat them again in your future. Don't look back but remember what you left-back. Kickstart again and drive again to climb the hill.
8. Learn to stay satisfied:
You sometimes create scarcity for yourselves. Even if you are given the best you deserve in the universe; you are not happy and satisfied with what you have received.
You think you have failed to create the life you want and then start cursing yourselves. Try to create abundance in the scarcity you think you are owning.
Learn to be happy with what you are served with. When you understand what you really want and what you deserve, your agenda about failure will have a different perspective. Even though I have explained to you all how you can deal with your failures, it may seem difficult sometimes. But you must remember that it was and never will be impossible to do it. Remember why you started and how badly you need this. Then your failures will just be a spark to limelight your stars in the sky. Lastly, I would like you to remember a few things about what failure will teach you and what approach you need to deal with failure in a righteous way.
1. You will feel like "I want to give up.":
Even if you are ready to deal with your failures, there will be a time when you will be tired of trying. There will be a time that you will think that your efforts are in vain.
Therefore it is crucial that you stop upon the 'I give up' factor inside your head. Things start changing when you look at things in a positive way. Stop the negative voice inside you and make it understand that it is you who will make everything possible.
2. There is no other option:
If you want it to work anyhow and want to climb the ladder of success, you have to climb the broken foot of the ladder. There is no other way to reach the peak unless you do it.
Sit down and figure it out. Train your mind and tell it you have to make it. You have left no other options for it to slip on. When you boost your self-esteem, you will see things getting better and appropriate gradually.
3. You become humble :
Even when you are at the summit of your success story, you will stay grounded, knowing the obstacles you have kicked in moving up to there. You will be wise and humble.
There will be no ego, and you will never boast about such things. You will look upon other people with equality and treat everyone equally.
4. You will practice gratitude:
When we receive in abundance, we develop the habit of gratitude. When you will learn to get back up from your destructions, and if you succeed in overcoming them, you will be thankful for the universe to let this happen.
You will be overwhelmed with the blessings you are given and would express your gratitude towards all the forces which have driven you here.
5. Enjoy your journey:
Don't be a spoilsport in your own book of success. Let that journey be amazing. Let every page and every chapter of your life be amazing and thrilling.
Every achievement counts, and also every lesson of your failure is valuable. Don't lose your interest, and don't be demotivated by your failures. Enjoy the process of healing and learning. You see, in the end, so many things will be in your favor. Think about the time when you will be all successful and never think about this situation which you are in today. Do you feel wonderful? So let us bring that into the picture. Start working from now itself and see yourselves at the end of your story with a happy smile.