It's not just you, not just me; billions of people around us feeling lost and lonely. We all have that one phase in our life where we completely feel lost. We don’t know where our life is moving. Where are we moving to, ahead or backward? We become clueless about things. No matter how big achievers we are. There's one point in everyone's life where we feel everything chaotic. Sometimes even the smallest things seem more complex, and then thoughts reach a peak.
The first thing we all need to understand is that this is not a mental problem or something to worry about. It is just a mental state that everyone feels. And there's nothing wrong with feeling down. One more thing I want to tell wholeheartedly is that; things never remain the same. Just like this chaos came, peace will also find your way.
21 things to remember when you feel lost in life
1. LONELY VS ALONE-
Alone is not lonely always: Sometimes, we baffle between these two things. When we are alone, it is chosen by us. We prefer being away from people. And lonely is when we are in sorrow because of being alone. Both the things have a slight difference between them. So, before you say you are lonely or alone, recognize it first.
2. DOING NOTHING HELPS SOMETIMES-
When we are exhausted from work or studies, we don't feel to do it anymore. That time we should keep everything away and give time to ourselves and refresh. Rushing into things can make it worse. So better do nothing for a while, and you will be ready to do everything after.
3. DISTRACT YOURSELF AT THE RIGHT TIME-
Sometimes it happens, when our thoughts reach a peak, and all pessimistic thoughts start entering our minds. It can lead us to take any wrong steps, which can harm our lives. As a human, we can recognize where we are moving. So, when it's high time, we need to distract ourselves from that thought. And then indulge yourself in doing something else even if you don't feel to do it.
4. ACCEPT IF YOU CAN'T CHANGE-
We may try to change things a lot, even it takes too much effort. But it's not possible all the time. Accepting things as they might help you more than falling again and again. When your heart says that's ok, then you must accept it the way it is.
5. SHARE IF YOU CAN-
If your thought is sharable, you must share. Or, if you have someone who listens and understands you from your perspective, then you should talk to them. Intermittently, situations occur when we can't find solutions all by ourselves, we must talk to these people. They may recognize our potential more than you. Or they may show you the path you completely overlooked.
6. FORGIVE YOURSELF-
It happens to many of us. We keep remembering the same incidents again and again where we were wrong. And sometimes, we cannot forgive ourselves, but we need to understand; we are humans, not machines. We make mistakes, rather everyone does. But holding onto the past and destroying the good moments of today is not worth it. So, learn to forgive yourself first; it helps to a great extent.
7. NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT-
Everyone reading this must understand that there is nothing wrong with feeling lost in life. Just like this phase appeared in your life, which you may not be liking. The same way things could happen the way you want. You cannot change it always. What needs time, you are supposed to give it. And let time decide what to do.
8. TAKE ACTIONS IF YOU BELIEVE-
When you feel, "I am lost in my thoughts, so better than thinking too much let's do it." Then do that. The things which are stopping you from taking action, forget them for a while, and do what you wanted to do. This could thoughts your mind, and that may be that thought may entirely leave your mind.
9. SEE.HEAR. LEAVE-
The things, people, places, occasions that disturb your peace, stay away from them. When you realize things are going to roll up in your mind the whole day, just warn your mind to let it go at the same moment. Do not entertain thoughts that disrupt your mind from being calm.
10. LEARN TO LET GO-
Letting go can harm you less than holding it. Do not keep holding onto things you can't work on, or your mind doesn't want to work on. Doesn't matter whether it is any thought, person, or incident. Thinking too much can't solve your problems. So better learn to leave the things as soon as possible.
11. YOU HAVE "YOU"-
The one thought everyone on this planet should be well versed with is, YOU HAVE YOU. We all often feel like I have no one, no one cares about me, no one is there to understand me, and that's the time when you should be there for yourself.
12. STOP EXPECTING-
No matter at which stage of your life you are, take it as a red alert and stop expecting from others. No one understands you better yourself. Make an additional move than you every day do, but all by yourself. Because when people fail to meet your expectations, your peace shatters more than theirs.
13. BE PATIENT-
If it didn't work today, surely tomorrow it will. Rushing into things can make it more complex and make you feel it can't settle at all. Let things be the way they are; maybe they will find their own way. So, being patient can get you more efficient results than you thought of.
Sometimes feeling lost can help you find better you, the new you, or the version of yourself that you never met before. Do not take this feeling negatively always. Because the direction you choose for your thoughts can let you reach what you were looking for; so, make sure the direction you choose should not be harmful to yourself.
15. UNDERSTAND THE CHAOS-
Try to understand the chaos which is going on in your mind. Don't just tie thoughts to each other. They will entangle your mind and heart as much as you think. Try to follow the flow of thoughts where they are trying to take you.
16. BELIEVE IN THE UNIVERSE-
Nothing leads us towards the wrong place; only our thoughts do. The universe always gives us what we have asked for, may it be good or bad for you.
17. HAVE A BREAK-
Do not plunge yourself into your work forcefully. When your body and mind ask for a break, give it. Do something that will refresh you. Listening to music, take a walk, meet your friends. Plenty of small things are there, which can indulge you into another mood, which will keep you away from unnecessary thoughts.
18. REGRETS ARE JUST FOR A MINUTE-
As we discussed above, some past incidents or our wrong deeds don't let us forgive ourselves. And then these things become a big picture that is regret. But never let your regrets grab your mind this much, where you cannot get over to it. We all know that memories cannot be forgotten; all we can do is left them behind.
19. WASTING TIME CAN ALSO RUIN THINGS-
When you can be productive, don't waste your time. Because sometimes, when we have nothing to do, or our mind is not busy with something; Our thoughts run at 2X speed. Try to keep your mind indulged in things you can do in your spare time.
20. DON’T QUIT-
Nothing is more important than our mental health, and we need to fix this in our minds. So never quit on things quickly; if the question has arisen, it has arisen with an answer. All we need to do is keep trying but concerning with our mental health.
21. LOVE YOUR THIS SIDE TOO-
See, things can never be the same, and they shouldn't be. Because only when rough time elapses we can feel our good times wholeheartedly. Accept yourself with your flaws, mistakes, and weaknesses because each human on this planet has it. So, try to understand, this is just a phase of our life, which is not going to be forever.
How feeling lost can help, and you can find yourself
Now, this becomes the funny question, how to find ourselves when we are already lost. But this is how we find ourselves. We need to be alone to know ourselves, understand what we are, where we stand in life, where we want to move next, what our priorities are, what do we need to neglect from our life.
To make things fall into place and life on the right track, we need to give time to ourselves. And that time should be spent alone. In alone, we can find ourselves better. We get time to think for ourselves. At that moment, we don't have disruptions that let us focus on our inner "you" coherently.
Few things can help us cope with the so-called feeling of "I FEEL LOST IN LIFE."
BEST MOMENTS YOU HAD-
Try to remember good moments, good people in your life. Watch old pictures of yours and your friends, family having fun.
This thing works like magic for people who feel lonely. Go on a solo trip. It takes you away in a completely different environment, among different people, where you can forget your worries entirely.
KEEP A DAILY JOURNAL-
I strongly recommend you keep a journal. Now don't be panicked about that; you have to write large paragraphs. NO, just write what good and satisfactory happened today before you sleep; it lets you sleep peacefully. Or when you want to share something with someone but you can't, then write those things on the last pages (so that you couldn't glance onto it frequently once you have written; otherwise, it can disturb you again).
LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE FOR A WHILE-
Don't be in the same environment for long. If you want to heal your heart, then leave the place that made you sick. And get out of your comfort zone. Try the things that you don't like to do because sometimes they keep your mind busy and away from thoughts.
GET YOURSELF A HOBBY-
Find the things you love to do. Keep doing them when you can't get rid of your thoughts. After a few times, it may keep your thoughts and feeling of loneliness away from you.
LISTEN TO THE FLOW OF MIND-
Keep yourself calm and try to listen to what your mind wants to tell you. Quiet yourself from all the other things and concentrate on the idea behind the chaos.
11 reasons why people feel lost in their lives
This is the biggest and silliest mistake we all make in our lives. We compare ourselves with someone who is doing better in life than us. This is not the way you live. We need to fix this thing in our mind that, 'WHAT I CAN DO, NO ONE CAN' Indeed, the skills, extraordinary habits you have may no one is having.
The universe made everyone different with their pros and cons, perfections and imperfections. And therefore, we need to accept ourselves the way we are; it makes things easier and makes us grow with our grace.
2. PROFESSIONAL LIFE-
We get too involved in our daily chores, because of which we are hardly able to give time to ourselves. It can cause more exhaustion and make you feel lost in the world.
3. HOLDING ON-
As discussed before, people keep holding on to past fears and grieves, failures that don't let us be in today fully. They become conscious of things and don't let their new self come out.
Sometimes, we are completely unaware of things, and without getting complete facts, we start making assumptions that may not even exist. And then we make straightforward things complicated, which push ourselves to feel lost.
5. THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT OTHERS-
We keep pleasing people, keep thinking too much about their perceptions about us. We forget that our existence matters.
6. YOU'RE MILES AWAY FROM PRIORITIES-
This can be one of the major problems. When we are clueless about what is best for us. We are unable to set priorities and goals for ourselves. Because of this, we keep doing a bundle of things together and then can't get better at a single thing.
7. YOU DON'T LEARN-
When you stop learning, you start losing. Once people get better at something or tired of something, they stop learning, and it may cause feeling useless.
8. YOU DON'T KNOW YOURSELF-
This is the biggest problem for us. Before we explore ourselves, we start going with the flow. Until getting yourself know fully, you cannot get the best of yourself.
And here is the too much-entertained problem of generation. We think thoroughly about the little things, make an unnecessary analysis of them, draw conclusions quickly, and therefore feeling lost, become normal.
It matters a lot whom you are surrounded with. Being around unenthusiastic people pulls you down badly. Nothing affects us more than the company we choose for ourselves.
We let our failures decide our mental health; yes, you read it right. We keep holding on to one failure that could be seen as a try. We stop trying once more and when things seem hard and impossible.
Firstly, keep a thing in mind that it is natural to feel low or down. Everyone has a time when they are like, 'I feel lost.' We need to give time to ourselves to heal and get over the things we cannot work on. Do not look for quick solutions for everything; it will create more mess. Give yourself time to explore. Learn and grow with your elegance.