Passionate about growth
Growth hacker, writer, and entrepreneur
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But, I refuse to be reduced by it”
- Maya Angelou
Bad things happen. Don’t let it get to you. A real achievement for you is to not let all the bad things happened to affect you.
Of course, it changes you. But, don’t let bad experiences reduce who you are. Allowing failures to change who you are is different from changing who you are.
Take the lessons only. Don’t change the goodness you have. I can see people justify who they are now because of bad experiences happened to them.
I also see people who are happier, humbler and clearer in what life is right after all the bad things happened.
Which one are you? To stay in character and growing the goodness you have in the middle of life’s failures is the true accomplishment. That is where the true spirit stays. Nothing else matters.
It’s easy to say ‘They did Bad. I became bad’. The hardest part is ‘They did badly. I’m still better than them’. The moment you do 'good' to the people who did you 'bad', you become a true beauty.
Nothing shames the bad people than the good you do to them. ‘Forgiving’ hurts them more than you can imagine. Be the better person here.
Don’t ever let failures, bad experiences and negative people around to reduce you. Don’t let them kill your goodwill and soul. Let all the challenges you face make you stronger!
Failures are always temporary. Change by what happened to you. But, don’t change your good.
1. Improve your listening power
Listening creates better relationships and higher employee engagement. Maintain eye contact with the speaker. When you are listening to someone, remain attentive and open-minded. To ask any question, just wait for the right moment. Do not interrupt the conversation. Listening is as essential as speaking. Everyone desires to be heard and understood.
We reward such people with our trust. When someone is talking, it is important to be fully present. People will always appreciate that you made an effort to listen and understand them. The majority of the failures in relationships are due to one's inability to hear. By listening carefully to others, you will broaden your mind and understand many perspectives. You will perhaps come up with a better solution. Successful people know how critical listening is.
2. Set goals
You need to set goals to be successful in life. Without goals, you lack focus and direction. You need to set your goals to fulfill them. Create an action plan and stick to it. Write down your goals. Ensure that your goals are your own and that no one else has created them. Learning to set goals will change your life forever. The setting of goals shapes our dreams.
Powerful goals should be
The more strong our ambitions are, the more strength we have to act upon them. Without targets, we are like a ship that has no destination. Carry a list of everyday activities with you. Most successful people plan their days ahead of time. Write down your goals four to five times a day. Writing your goals builds a relationship with your mind to bring your goals to life. The most effective way to achieve your goals is by breaking them into smaller ones.
1. Release stress by laughing
Laughter is a very good street management technique. It boosts your health and makes you feel better at any time. It lowers the levels of stress hormones. A short period of laughter can make you feel good throughout your day. The short-term benefits of laughter can,
● Stimulate your lungs, muscles, and your heart
● Enhance your intake of oxygen-rich air
● It may also relieve pain
Laughter improves your mood, relieves stress, and eases fear or anxiety. It can strengthen relationships. It attracts others to us. Humour is one of the best ways we chose to respond to difficult days. Life is all about balance. To ease the stress in our lives we need to laugh. We should not explain why we are laughing. Laughter provides ways of dealing with stress.
It also brings joy to our life.
You cannot change how you feel and think without changing your brain. Understanding the way your mind operates can give you an edge in your efforts to live a happy and healthy life. The real thing is to teach your brain how to cooperate with you. Your mind is in charge of helping you in accomplishing your goals.
The right mindset is the key to success. Your brain is like a computer that creates and stores information. You can change your brain and the way it operates. Your thoughts rewire your brain. Exchange negative thoughts with positive ones that benefit your life. You create new pathways in your brain by thinking about new ideas. Negative thoughts are just false messages sent by your brain. Do not focus on them. Try to get rid of your negative thoughts. They can be improved by taking positive actions.
1. Look for your passion
If you live according to your passion, you will not feel that you are working hard to live. If you are passionate about something, you will get it with your hard work.
Mix your passion with your other skills. This will give fruitful results. Always do what you love. Most people don't look for their passion, and they end up doing what they don't like. This is one of the most important life lessons that we should learn earlier.
2. Don't spend all your time doing work
Life is given only once, don't spend all your time doing work. If we spend all our time doing work, we get frustrated, this affects our lives. Family is more important than work. We should try to give more time to our family.
Freedom also matters. Your health is more important than your work. You should give time to your family and your friends. Spend some time to relax or read something, as these are equally important.
3. Make your own rules
Sometimes you have to make your own rules and follow them to be successful. We all need to know what we can do and what we can not do. Set your own standards instead of following others. If you follow the rules created by others, you will not lead a better life.
You should decide what you want and what you do not. If you're going to eat healthily and on time, this is your choice and rule to eat in time. So try to make your own rules.
1. Failure is good
We should not avoid failure. Failure is an important part of life. When we avoid failure, we are unable to take action. Learn from the failure and move on. Failure makes us stronger. It gives us courage.
It creates more opportunities and ultimately leads to success. Failure is life's greatest teacher. Some people don't want to face it due to their fear. When we fail, each time we learn something new, which improves us.
2. Focus on what is important
If we focus on important things, it helps us to change our life. If we focusing on possibilities will discover new paths. When we focus on learning, our knowledge expands. Focus is important in life to get work done efficiently.
Focus on things you value most in your life, and spend time with people that matter to you. If you focus on important things in your life, you will become more successful, happy, and balance life.
3. Simple is better
A life full of complications is more stressful and difficult. Simple is easy to understand. Complex thinking or ideas are time-consuming. It requires a lot of hard work. Simple life leads to more joy and happiness.
If you try to do one thing instead of doing multiple things, the result is always better. So we should always try to lead a simple life to make it more peaceful and enjoyable.
1. Money is not important
Money can never make us happy. We just need money to live. It can relieve some financial stress, but it cannot make us happy. People think that money can solve their problems, truly it can not.
Money can’t buy you happiness. It’s human nature that when we get something, we seek more. We can’t be at peace with money. If we learn to be grateful for the things we have, we will become happier.
2. Don’t lose yourself
If you try to please everyone, you will lose your own identity. You will forget your wishes and your dreams. Try to be yourself. Don’t lose yourself in trying to impress others.
There are many people around you who admire you for what you are. Be proud of yourself and stop wasting your time and efforts in impressing others. Everyone has his own opinions. Don’t blame yourself or others. Don’t try to change yourself for others.
3. Live a balanced life
One of the most important life lessons is to live a balanced life. If you want a peaceful life, try to find a balance between your work and your free time. Even the great people found a balance between their life to lead successful life.
To live a balanced life, maintain a positive attitude, take care of yourself, and know about your priorities.
1. Stop complaining
Don’t always complain about your problems. Instead of sitting back, try to solve your problems. You have to face many problems in life. Life is not easy. If you continue complaining, you will never be able to lead a happy life.
Most people complain because complaining is easy than fixing the problem. If you continue to complain, you will never lead a happy life. By changing your behavior, you will stop complaining and lead a peaceful life.
2. Silence is better
In some situations when you have a choice between letting go or react. You should choose the former one or remain silent. Even in relationships, when one is not listening, the best way is to keep silent to stop the fight.
Silence helps us understand ourselves and the situation. Silence brings refreshment to our minds, and It is the best way to stand to your point. Even nature works in silence. Silence is better than a harsh word.
3. Work hard
Hard work is the key to success. Very few people have ever failed with hard work. There are no shortcuts to success. If you are willing to do hard work, you can achieve your goal.
If you work hard, you understand the true value of your work. You begin to respect the work. You make your own luck with hard work. Hard work always gives good results, and seeing good results makes you feel happy, grateful, and satisfied.
1. You can't please everyone
It's impossible to please everyone. Just do what makes you happy. People enjoy saying things that hurt others. Nobody will be completely pleased with your actions. Never give up on your hopes and your dreams in just trying to make others happy.
Only our family's happiness is important to us. You can achieve anything in life. It does not matter what other people are saying behind your back. Focus on what makes you happy; that is just important. You will lose a sense of your identity by pleasing others.
2. Don't waste time
How you spend your time now will affect your future. Time is very precious. It will never come back. If you set your goals early and understand fully how to spend your time, you will never waste it and start to live a more meaningful life.
Stop worrying about your mistakes and what others think and say about you. You can't change people's views. Just focus on what you can do. Stop wasting your time worrying about useless things.
3. Take risks
Many of life's great achievements require you to go out of your comfort zone. Risks may lead to failure, but that does not mean that you should stop taking risks. Even if it leads to failure, it makes us better and more powerful people.
Opportunities always come from taking risks. Taking risks helps us stand out and make us more confident. We always learn from risks. In order to be successful in life, we have to take risks.
1. Believe in yourself
If you learn how to believe in yourself, you will find more opportunities in life. Everything that you gain in life is the result of your belief in yourself. You should take risks and act upon them as nothing is possible in life without taking risks.
If you want to achieve something, always believe that it's possible, whatever people say about it or whatever they think. Just focus on your goals and celebrate your achievements. You will gain more confidence in yourself and start to believe in yourself more.
Most people don't achieve what they want because they don't take action, and their fear is behind this. Fear is normal in life. If we experience fear in life, we should take action to overcome it.
If we want to succeed in life, we must believe in ourselves. Most people, after failure or due to their fear, lose faith in themselves. If we lack confidence, we will not be able to achieve what we want. So always believe in yourself and your abilities.
2. Treat others with respect.
We can show respect to others by listening to them. This makes them feel more important, and they give respect in return. Be kind to others. This is also one way of showing respect.
Sometimes you have to stand up for others when they don't have the courage to stand up for themselves. Caring is another way of showing respect. When you care about others, you make them feel more respected. This makes you happy.
Some ways of showing respect are,
● Be kind
● Be polite
● Be thankful
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Comparing yourself to others decreases your self-confidence. Try to focus on yourself instead of comparing yourself to others. Everyone on earth faces challenges and problems. This can cause unhappiness in you. You do not know how people feel inside, what they are, and what they want to be.
You can't be like others. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. No one is the same. Every person has something unique. By comparing yourself to others, you are just wasting your time which is the most precious thing in life. So stop comparing yourself to others and lead a happy life.
2. Know yourself
If you know yourself better, you will be happy. You can make better decisions. When you know yourself, you try to adopt good habits and resist bad habits. You know about your goals better. It increases your decision-making power. You will feel more alive, and you can enjoy life fully.
It leads to self-satisfaction. If we want to improve anything in our life, we should try to know ourselves first. Try to know your weaknesses and your strengths. Identify your fear and overcome it. If we have fear about something, we will not develop our personality. Start to work on yourself, your inner values, goals, and thinking. Try to control your emotion to be a better person.
3. Develop a positive attitude
We all look for a better life to be happy. Try to develop a positive attitude to be happier in life, as life is not easy, and we should find ways that make us happy. Developing a positive attitude is one of them.
To develop a positive attitude.
● Try to listen to yourself
● Meet with positive people
● Find your happiness with simple things
● Take responsibility for your thoughts
1. Learn from your mistakes
Failure is considered an important step towards your life. The one who learns from his mistakes gains more strength. Successful people have learned from their mistakes and overcome failure.
Always admit your mistake, then you will be able to learn from it. Wise people always admit their mistakes. To achieve something, you should not be fear of failure. Instead, you should learn from your mistakes.
If you learn how to respond to your mistakes, you will admit them more easily. Some of the things learned from mistakes are,
● Mistakes help us to see what matters and what do not
● Teach us a lot
● Our knowledge is deepened
● Help us to make better choices
● Make us humble
We should make mistakes as the process of our development. If we handle our mistakes, this helps us in enjoying our life.
2. Develop the habit of reading
To be better in life, we should learn constantly. Reading enhances our knowledge. It improves our memory and helps us to concentrate on things. We can fight stress with reading.
To develop a reading habit, read something every day. Try to read ten pages from any book daily and read at the same time every day. Books are known to be our best friends.
Reading puts us in a better mood and makes us feel more refreshing. Try to read books based on your interest. Find a peaceful place for reading to be more attentive. In your busy schedule, find time for daily reading.
There are some benefits of reading regularly,
● Builds our character
● Make us more peaceful
● Enhances our imagination
● Reduces stress
Everyone has qualities and preferences, which make them unique, but everyone tries to improve their personality. There is always space for improvement. A good personality helps you in your social and professional life.
Personality represents who we are, and looks are not just important. Personality shows one's behavior, attitude, and values. It describes the physical and mental state of a person. Whatever age you have, you can still improve yourself as there is always room for improvement.
1. Listen carefully
If you listen carefully, you can learn a lot from your surroundings. Listening is a very good skill. When you listen to other people, you give them respect and importance. They will also pay more attention to you in return.
If you listen carefully, the other person will share information with you more comfortably. If someone listens to you carefully, it makes you feel important. Listen carefully to others and let them feel important too. This is one of the traits that is often neglected by others.
Listening is the key to a good understanding. To be an effective listener,
● Maintain eye contact with the speaker
● Don't interrupt
● Be open-minded
● Don't let your mind wander
● Give positive feedback
2. Be confident
We should be confident. Self-confidence is important in every part of life. Learning confidence is a skill. It is the key to improving personality.
To be confident,
● Look at your body language.
● Always think positive.
● Be proud of your achievements.
● Appreciate yourself.
● Live in the present.
● Make eye contact.
Confidence can lead you towards achieving your goals.
1. Be open to learning
Life is about learning constantly. If you continue to learn, you will find new experiences in life. There is always something new to learn every day. So don’t stop learning. Learning makes you a more grown person, and you will become smarter.
2. Success has no shortcut
We need to work hard to earn success. We have to go through a process, and we cannot change that. There is a time when we feel frustrated when we feel like giving up, but that is all a process of success.
Nowadays, people don’t want to experience the process that comes in the path of success, they want a shortcut, but that’s not possible.
3. Hardships make us strong
We all go through pains and struggles in life. There are moments when we feel that we don’t have the strength to move forward. We should understand that everything happens for a reason. Everyone has to face hardships, and the purpose of this is to make you strong.
4. Time is precious
Time is a very precious thing. It passes quickly and cannot get recovered. Most people do not realize how precious time is, and they spend time on useless things such as money, which cannot buy them happiness. Try to focus on things that make us happy because they will never come back once the time is gone.
1. Let it go
There are some things in life that we can’t change. Don’t continue doing something that makes you unhappy. Things like this take time to recover. If you learn this quality, you will start to celebrate all the sad moments that come into your life, and you will grow from it as the good moments are still to come. So don’t feel lonely and depressed.
2. Appreciate nature
Nowadays, we are dependant on technology so much that we do not realize the beauty of nature. If we see how the sun rises or sets, how the clouds move, we will feel more energized. Try to focus on these things. They make us strong, and we will start to enjoy life.
3. Practice kindness and empathy
If we want to live a meaningful life, these two things are essential. There are so many people who depend on us due to their needs. If we just greet them well, this brings a sense of warmth to their life. The best thing we can offer is kindness, so we should be kind to others.
4. Don’t ever give up
Giving up is not an option in life. If you want to fulfill your dreams or ambitions, don’t think that it is impossible. Work hard to achieve the goal you will never get failed. Just focus on working hard, and definitely, you will achieve what you want.
There are so many valuable lessons we have learned from life. Life does not always go as planned; it surprises us every moment. The key to this is to keep moving.
Here is a list of lessons that I have learned so far, significantly impacting my life.
1. The world will not change; change yourself.
If you want to change the world, change yourself first. Change always makes us better. Many people want to change the world, but they need to change their habits and actions first.
We should stop comparing ourselves to others as this will not lead us to anything; instead, we will lose ourselves. The only way through which we can grow is to change. If we accept the change, we will conduct a better life.
2. Learn to apologize
When we do something wrong, we should learn to say sorry. Sorry is a miracle word. It has an outstanding impact not only on ourselves but on the one we are saying sorry. It will strengthen our spirit.
Learning how to apologize is an essential part of life. Some people think that it will make them weak, but that’s not the truth.
3. Things get better with time
Time does not remain the same; sometimes, it brings happiness and sometimes sorrow. There is much to live in life; things that make us unhappy will eventually go away as nothing is permanent in life. If bad things come to you, think of the amazing things that happened in your life.
1. Learn something new
Try to learn something new in your spare time. Learning something new polishes your brain and makes it more attentive. Learning is a part of life. You learn at every stage of life. Every day try to learn something new that makes you happy, like learning a new language. This will make your time more productive.
2. Set your goals
If you are someone who likes to achieve goals, then grab a notebook and set a few goals that you want to accomplish. After writing the goals, write down the action steps that you will take in achieving the goals. This is a perfect activity that you can do in your free time and get fruitful results.
3. Start a blog
Starting a blog is a perfect way of utilizing your free time. You can write a blog for free on some sites, but if you want to make money from blogs, go to websites that pay for writing blogs. In this way, you can make some extra money and can do what interests you.
1. Find a hobby
You can do a variety of different things in your free time. If you try on many things, you will get to know yourself better. Trying different things surprises you, and you find new talent in you. Find a hobby that you like, such as gardening, to do in your free time. This will make you happy.
Try to spend just a part of your free time in meditation so that you don’t undergo a mental breakdown. People who meditate are those who can survive better under pressure. The practice of this meditation has helped many people in overcoming their stress. It is a way to relax and escape stress.
3. Give time to your family
Giving time to your family makes you happy more than anything else. Family time is important to make your bond stronger with family. You can share, talk, and listen to each other. This is a way of showing affection to each other. So spend some of your free time with your family to know them better.
In this modern age, when most people don't have the time to take a deep breath, we should feel lucky that we have got some free time. So instead of spending your time just lying around and doing nothing, do something productive, that interests you.
Here's a list of the few things you can do in your free time.
1. Discover your interests
Start to discover your interests by making a list of activities you enjoy. It might include hobbies, travel, reading, or any other. Try to write them down as they come to your mind and, be committed to them. Make them your number one priority. Don't rush towards your passion, you have to slow down to find your passion.
2. Go for a walk
Instead of just sitting at home, consider going for a walk. If you do a little walking in your free time, this makes your thoughts clear and make you healthy. After some time, you will notice that going for a walk makes you feel refreshed, and you will make it a part of your daily schedule.
3. Visit historical places
Visiting historical places is one of the most productive ways to spend your free time. In this way, you will not only appreciate your city or country but learn a lot from it. You can go on this adventure alone or with friends to make it more enjoyable. Exploring the places you live in makes you fall in love with it.
4. Read a book
If you like reading, then this is something productive that you can do in your free time. Book reading is something that takes us to a whole different world. We get immersed deeply in the book. This is one of the perfect ways to spend your free time.
1. Try brain training exercises.
People who often play word puzzles or crosswords have better brain function. Spending just fifteen minutes a day on brain training activities can have a great impact on concentration. It enhances your processing and problem-solving skills.
2. Commit yourself to the task
When you start any task, be determined that you will complete it within the specified time. Try to avoid distractions. Don’t reply to emails or texts while studying; instead, put your phone away. If you are committed to the task, you will definitely complete it.
3. Make a study routine
Once you make study your routine, you will never spend a day without it. Habits are so powerful that if you make them part of your life, they will never leave you.
So make study time a part of your daily routine and stick to your schedule. Review your notes regularly. This also helps in concentrating on your studies.
1. Avoid distractions
Put your phone away while studying. Distraction such as Twitter, Facebook, texting doesn’t allow you to concentrate on your studies. So don’t respond to them or turn off your phone. Switch it on only when you are taking a break or when you are done with your work.
2. Study with regular breaks
Breaks are very important to enhance your learning capacity. If you don’t take a break and study, the brain will not think something new and will be unable to give you ideas, so make sure to take regular breaks.
Regular breaks allow your mind to recharge with fresh oxygen so that you can refocus on the topic and feel more energized.
3. Improve sleep
If you are deprived of sleep, this affects your concentration ability. It affects your mood and performance. Sleep at least eight hours a day. This makes you feel more refreshing.
If you have problems with sleeping, then try these things,
● Turn off the TV
● Keep your room at a comfortable temperature
● Go back to bed and wake up at the same time as you do every day
● Exercise regularly
4. Be friendly with nature.
A regular dose of nature improves your attention and your ability to concentrate. Spending time in some green place or drinking tea while sitting on a lawn could make a vast difference to your concentration. You will also start to admire nature.
Concentrating on your studies has become hard these days with advanced technologies. The study does not mean just reading the lines; it needs understanding and grasping knowledge. With distractions, you cannot focus on your studies. To increase concentration, try these things,
1. Find a comfortable environment.
You should try to eliminate distractions as much as possible while studying so that you can focus. Find a quiet place such as a private room or library for studying. Keep in mind that everyone has their study environment, which they like.
If you do not know your studying preferences, then do some experiments to check your preferences, such as studying in a group or alone, studying with music or without. If you find a comfortable place, it becomes easy for you to concentrate on your study.
2. Keep all the study materials in one place.
Keep your study materials notes, papers, textbooks, or anything else in one place so that you don’t disrupt yourself in getting these things.
3. Good nutrition
Keep your nutrition right. Eat a balanced diet, and eat at least three times a day as a healthy body means a healthy brain. Proper nutrition helps in concentrating on studies, and eating some snacks before study energizes your body.
Don’t eat a heavy diet; instead, chose a light one as a rich diet makes you sleepy.
4. Make a study plan
It is hard to get through everything when there are too many things to study. Set a goal, like you will study one to three chapters by evening. Take a break and then continue your study. It will make studying easy for you, and you will never get frustrated.
Success differs from one person to another. Your success largely depends on who you are. One interesting part about success is that it varies from person to person.
Success depends a lot on your mindset. For you gaining a particular thing may seem to be successful, but for others, it may not. And for this reason, you should have always been surrounded by strong, positive people. You should strongly believe your self-determination that comes from those people.
To lead a successful life may have been the dream of many of us, but most of the time, it doesn’t happen because of the absence of proper goals and thinking. We have to keep in mind that success mainly matters upon what you think of yourself, not upon what others think of yourself.
The key to success group we will discuss about success factors and how to achieve them.